OBITUARY

Fern Mildred Buechler

August 25, 1923October 22, 2018
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BUECHLER, Fern Mildred (nee Goyne) It is with great sadness that her family announce the passing of their much loved mother on Monday, October 22nd, 2018 at Lakeridge Health Port Perry, in her 96th year. Fern was married for almost 67 years to her beloved Eric (Tip) who passed away in January 2009. Fern lived a long and rewarding life dedicated to her children and a 26 year service as a secretary in the City Clerks Office, city of Oshawa. Raised in a family of 6 by parents Earl and Flossie Goyne. Predeceased by brother Earl Goyne (Bus) (Jean) and sisters Velma Mahaffy (Allan), Olga Hamilton (Russell) and Earline Keeler (Doug). Survived by her one sister Audrey Hepburn (Myril) and many cousins, nieces and nephews. Fern will be dearly missed by her children Jim (Carole), Faye (Ross) and Dan (Irene). Loving Grandma to Tami (Dennis), Mark, Michael (Vicki), Mandy (Paul), Adam (Jennifer) and Chad (Sheena). Beloved great grandmother and great great grandmother to Crystal (Ryan), Alyssa (Albert), Gregory, Katelynn (Tim), Sarah (Chance), Emma, Eric, Gabriel, Briannah, Lauryn, Ava, Austin and Aubree. Fern will also be missed by her extended family Kaitlynn Taylor, Victoria Smyth (Kyle), Carlos Mendoza and Meegan McIlmoyle. The family would like to express sincere gratitude to Dr. Chris W. Hall for excellent medical care over many years and to the staff on the 2nd floor of the Port Perry Place. Visitation will be held at COURTICE FUNERAL CHAPEL, 1587 Hwy 2, Courtice on Monday, October 29th from 11:00 until the time of Memorial Service in the Chapel at 12:30 p.m. Memorial donations may be made to the Children’s Wish Foundation, Humane Society of Durham Region or CNIB. Online donations may be made at www.courticefuneralchapel.com

Services

  • Visitation Monday, October 29, 2018
  • Memorial Service Monday, October 29, 2018
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Wendy Keeler

October 25, 2018

So sorry to hear of Aunt Fern's passing. Sincere condolences to the whole family. So many great memories come to mind of family picnics and life on Farewell Ave. She will be missed.

Diane and Ken Deboo

October 24, 2018

So sorry to hear of our dear Aunt Fern's passing. I'm sorry we can't be there for the funeral. I will always remember Aunt Fern as a fine upstanding woman who loved all of her family. May God's peace and comfort surround you. Our sincerest condolences.....

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Biography

If anyone ever cared, really cared for someone else it would have to be Fern Mildred Buechler. She was a warm hearted and well liked individual, and these wonderful traits came easily to her because she was such a sociable and amiable person, someone who was always making certain that those around her had whatever they needed. Fern was a talkative person who was tactful at all times but typically said what she meant.

      Fern was born August 25, 1923 at Oshawa General Hospital in Oshawa, Ontario. She was the daughter of Earl and Flossie Goyne. Fern was raised in Oshawa, Ontario. During her childhood she learned to be reliable and respectful. Fern was an obedient child who wanted to win the favour of others. She found it easy to show sympathy and to perform kind acts for others. These admirable qualities would become a part of Fern's personality throughout her life.

      Though Fern was frequently the one to initiate games and activities with her family, she was also quite often the family member who took the role of referee. Fern was a peace-maker with an ability to resolve all sorts of family conflicts. In fact, Fern worked conscientiously to keep those typical family spats at bay. Fern was raised with five siblings. She had one older sister, Olga and three younger sisters Earline, Velma and Audrey, and one younger brother Earl a twin to Earline. Fern and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up, but they cared deeply for one another.

      As someone who reveled in the sheer joy of her experiences, Fern was always enthusiastic about new adventures. Although she had an exacting nature, Fern was always tactful. One thing Fern will certainly be remembered for is that, when she got up in the mornings, she was ready and raring to go. As a young girl, Fern had a number of interests and was an active child. Fern took part in softball.

      For Fern, the school routines were never a problem although she generally preferred variety to structure. She seemed to be able to start a project and work right through to its completion. And she was able to do it quickly and efficiently. Fern was also adept at details. Fern was very observant and was generally quick at picking up new things. She enjoyed some courses more than others, having favourite classes and teachers. Her favourite class in high school was commercial ( office administration).

      There was one thing that all of Fern's friends knew and will still remember, and that is that she was a talker. She could pretty much talk to anybody about anything. This quality is one of the primary reasons that Fern was such a popular person throughout her life. But Fern was also dependable, loyal and trustworthy. Fern was the kind of person who simply radiated good fellowship. While she maintained personal standards and her own personal values, Fern was very accepting of others. With a distinct skill for working things out, Fern was often the person who would organize events. In fact, Fern was fairly comfortable playing the role of “host” for just about any occasion. When Fern made friends, she made true and lasting friendships. While growing up, one of her best friend was Doris Wilson. Later in life, she became friends with Isabelle Tilling (Calder).

      Fern was a faithful and loving person. Some would even call her sentimental and a romantic at heart. Her kindness and consideration radiated an aura of warmth to those around her. Fern cared for what others thought and carried that into her marriage. On July 18, 1942 Fern married Eric Curt Buechler at United Church Parsonage in Oshawa, Ontario. Compassionate and devoted, Fern worked hard to make her new life partner happy.

      Harmony was important to Fern and she made every effort to maintain it with her family. Fern was blessed with three children, two sons Jim and Danny, and one daughter Faye. They were also blessed with six grandchildren, Tami, Michael, Mark, Mandy, Adam and Chad. Fern was always conscious of the feelings others had. She was reasonable and understanding. As a result, Fern was quick to solve disputes and did so without much fuss. Her secret of success in this area was simple: Fern would listen before she would act.

      Taking her work seriously came naturally to Fern, and she expected the same from those around her. Fern was a good team player, someone who was born to cooperate with others. She was what some would call a “people person” and it was demonstrated in her good communication skills. Fern was a steady worker, one who was realistic about schedules. The kind of details that would give family members and work colleagues fits were situations that Fern handled well. She could understand the details without getting lost in the broad “big picture.” Her primary occupation was office worker to the City Clerk. She was employed for almost 26 years for the City of Oshawa. She brought harmony to her work environment, doing what was necessary in order to get the job done, while always maintaining respect for her colleagues.

      A methodical woman, Fern enjoyed spending time working on her various hobbies. She had no problem following all of the steps and instructions on a given project and was proud of the fact that she could have something to show for her efforts. Her favourite pursuits were reading, gardening, stamp and coin collection.

      Fern was one of those people who took pride in constantly putting forth her best effort. Nowhere was that more visible than in sports. Fern was always enthusiastic and a great team player. In high school, Fern played softball. Recreational sports included bowling, curling and golf. Fern also liked being a sports fan and enjoyed following her favourite teams whenever she got the opportunity. Tops on her list were golf and curling.

      Not only did Fern enjoy traveling, but she also seemed to enjoy planning all of those trips and vacations. She was a facilitator who could easily make up a near perfect schedule of all of the things to do and see. She rarely tired of going back and revisiting her favourite places. Favourite vacations included Florida, Myrtle Beach, Alaskan Cruise and Germany.

      Fern was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of her favourites was Mickey a Cocker Spaniel and Lindy a Beagle, who was her best friends for 10 years.

      Since it was easy for Fern to meet and get to know new people, she quickly made friends, even in retirement. Once she met those new friends, she loved sharing stories and talking about the good old days. Since she was practical and cost effective, Fern was ready when that day to retire finally came in 2001. Even in retirement, Fern stayed in touch with her old friends and made plenty of new acquaintances. She was active in the community and felt fulfilled with the opportunities that retirement offered her.

      Fern passed away on October 22, 2018 at Port Perry Hospital. She is survived by her children, Jim, Faye and Danny, her grandchildren Tami, Michael, Mark, Mandy, Adam and Chad. Her great grandchildren Crystal, Alyssa, Greg, Katelynn, Sara, Emma, Eric and Gabriel. Great great grandchildren Briannah, Lauryn, Ava, Austin and Aubree. Services were held at Courtice Funeral Chapel. Fern was laid to rest in Mount Lawn Cemetery.

      Fern was a fantastic conversationalist who could engage just about anyone in a discussion. And whenever she said something, she meant it. Fern was a down to earth person, outgoing and gregarious. She was without question the type of person who enjoyed experiencing things first hand. She was practical and sensible, but what friends and family will remember her for most is the fact that she was so understanding and kind. Everyone whose life she touched will miss Fern Mildred Buechler.