20 September, 1969 – 1 May, 2021
Our mother, Kathleen Samosky Cocchiaro passed away peacefully at her home in St Johns, Florida on Saturday May 1st 2021 with her supportive and loving family by her side. Kathleen was born September 20th, 1969 in New Haven, Connecticut to Carol Robertson. She became the wife of Arthur V. Cocchiaro, Jr on May 17, 1991 and has 3 children; Victoria Kathleen Cocchiaro, Jake Arthur Cocchiaro and Hailey Cocchiaro. Kathleen also leaves behind her mother and her in-laws, Arthur V. and Gloria Cocchiaro; predeceased Russell and Irene Robertson and Rose Piscitelli; Sister-in-law to Lisa Cocchiaro (John) Vetro. She also leaves behind many loving friends and co-workers.
Kathy was a proud graduate of North Haven High School, voted Most Cheerful of her class and that is how she truly lived her life. Always had a smile and a kind word for anyone, helping everyone at any time. After High School graduation in 1987, she started working at Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Connecticut in North Haven where she worked her way up, as a Data Analyst, Statistical Analyst, and Senior Data Mining Analyst learning various computer systems, including Oracle and SAS programming. From there, she changed careers to that of Manager of Admin Support over Endowment at Choate Rosemary Hall. Then, in 2012 she returned to the Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Connecticut where she was a Senior Business Information Analyst within Underwriting.
Kathy met her husband Art in 1985 and he has been by her side since that day he asked her out. They moved their family to St Johns, Florida in 2014 where they began their dream of living in Florida. Her kids looked to Kathy as a ROCKSTAR in more ways than one. It was not just because she was the strongest, most courageous woman fighting Breast Cancer and Metastatic breast cancer right after moving to Florida; or because she continued working full time and raising her family during treatment; or because she designed and filled a new home in between all of this; or because she continued to remain a great daughter and friend during all of her treatment; but because she presented herself as a ROCKSTAR in EVERYTHING she did! She showed us her talents when she would jam out to her 80’s hair metal bands while dancing in the kitchen or driving in the car. Kathy would always plan a concert or a day trip or something like a mini golf game with the family, where even on the green she would quote one of her famous sayings “so close but yet so far”. But her favorite place was the beach. Laying under the big umbrella soaking up all the fun in the sun. Kathy was an inspiration because she could always live in the present and enjoy every moment; cataloging these precious times getting everyone to “take a picture” at every dinner, show, or even a drive in the car! Of course, smiling with her big beautiful smile. She showed constant courage and grace amid fear of this horrible disease. But even at her worst, she put others before herself. And as her final battle arose, she showed no fear, no bitterness, no self –pity; only courage and strength which she instilled in her family; insisting no one be sad, because she is now at peace.
Kathleen was a great wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law and “sister” to a great and supportive group of girlfriends. Her friends of over 30 years stood by her until her last moments, and the family would like to thank them for their love and devotion. Thank you to the staff of Mayo Clinic for all of their love and support throughout the years of caring for Kathy. A special thank you to Annetta DePino, her very best friend, for supporting our family during this tough time. And most of all, thank you to our dad and her soulmate, Art for remaining at her side until she took her last breath. We love you and even though our family will never be able to fill the space she left behind, we know that our family will continue because of your love for one another.
Family and friends are invited to attend a Christian Mass on Saturday, May 22nd at 10:30 a.m. at San Juan del Rio Catholic Church at 1718 State Road 13, North St. Johns, Florida 32259 and in Connecticut at St. Elizabeth of the Trinity Parish at St. Barnabas Church which will be planned later in the summer.
In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to the American Cancer Society in Kathy’s name @ cancer.org/involved/donate. Her loving and giving spirit would want other people to benefit from the help and research the American Cancer Society can provide.
10:30 am - 11:30 am
San Juan Del Rio Catholic Church
9 May 2021
My Dear Friend,
On this Mother's Day in heaven I just wanted to thank you for 30 years of friendship. Who could have know that the women sitting next to me in the cubical at BCBS would form a life long friendship with me. That friendship would allow both of us to share in so many milestones in our life together as dear friends. From, weddings to the birth or our children. We experienced both good and bad like family members do and that is what I considered you..a sister not just a friend. Your heart was as big as the open sea. Your laughter and kind heart touched so many people especially my own. I find myself picking up my phone wanting to text you and send you a picture waiting for a reply. I know how deeply you loved your family and were so proud of Victoria, Jake and Hailey and of course the love of your life Arthur. I wish I lived closer so I could wrap my arms around all of you and say it will be ok. It's hard right now. I find myself crying at random times of the day but then a memory pops into my head that makes me smile. Your heart, your spirit will live on in your wonderful children . I will miss you terribly..until we meet again...
7 May 2021
Kathy was a wonderful woman. I’m so lucky to have known her. We danced together in the moms class. She was a kind and caring. She was always smiling.
6 May 2021
Art and to your kid’s my memories of Kathy was her dancing at the Meriam Christmas parties we all had fun I’m so sorry for your loss cliff
Maureen Gannon DeRose
5 May 2021
Dear Cocchairo family I am so sorry to hear this sad news regarding Kathy. My mom Betty worked with Kathy at blue Cross they had many lunches together at my home. You can hear them laughing over lunch with there good freind Linda montesi. I know Kathy and Betty are having a cup of tea as I write this. My prayers are for you all 🙏❤️
5 May 2021
Kathy was a dear friend for many years and will be sorely missed💔. I am blessed to have worked with her for many years and remained friends outside of work. My husband Ron and I enjoyed many dinners and visits with Art and Kathy in Connecticut and recently in Florida where she shared her beautiful home with us for a visit. She was an amazing, brave and kind woman. I pray you had a peaceful journey home 🙏🏻❤️ Sending love and Prayers to Art, Victoria, Jake, Haley and the rest of her family ❤️ Rest easy my friend 😘
5 May 2021
My favorite memory of Kathy was when she was 4 or 5 years old and would visit with her grandmother. I would give her a ride around grandma's house on my little red bicycle. She would sit on the seat and I would sit behind her on the metal rack over the back tire so she wouldn't fall. My behind really hurt but she enjoyed it so much it was difficult to stop. I didn't realize then how much joy she spread.
You have our deepest sympathy,
Uncle Joe and Family
5 May 2021
Dear Art, Victoria, Jake and Hailey
I am so sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure of working with Kathy and Carol at Anthem.
My Thoughts Prayers are with you during this difficult time.
5 May 2021
Extending deepest sympathy, for your loss. Hold tight to memories for comfort.
Kathy will be greatly missed but her warmth, kindness and gentle spirit will be remembered forever.
4 May 2021
Kathy was such a sweet person. I have know Kathy since 1997 and worked together at Anthem BCBS . We had got together before Kathy relocated to Florida. Rest In Peace.
4 May 2021
Kathy was such a sweet person , have been friends since 1997. We both worked together at Anthem BCBS . We had got together before Kathy relocated to Florida. Once in a while we would exchange txts . Rest In Peace.🙏
4 May 2021
Kathy was a wonderful friend back in the day! Our weddings were 2 weeks apart we worked at Blue Cross together and we both went to North Haven High School. She even did my finger nails for my wedding day. She was so kind and sweet. I will always remember her!
I was shocked and saddened by the news of Kathy’s passing. I am so sorry for your loss. You will always be in my thoughts and prayers
North Haven, Ct
4 May 2021
Dear Art, Victoria, Jake and Hailey,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I had the pleasure of working with Kathy for many years and she was a bright spirit and one of the loveliest people I've ever known. Kathy had a great sense of humor, and was always exceptionally kind and positive. She was intelligent and quickly picked up new skills. She had a very gentle and sweet way about her. Her family meant the world to her. Kathy will be dearly missed and fondly remembered. I hope you'll soon find a measure of comfort and healing in your memories of happier times.
Sincerely, Michele Tyz
4 May 2021
Kathy was a lovely woman, daughter, wife, mother and friend. Her smile and kindness made everyone feel special. May her memory and love provide her family with comfort in the days ahead.
Warm thoughts, prayers and sympathy,
Susan Derbacher and Ann Ruggiero
4 May 2021
I have many years of wonderful memories of Kathy - she was always nothing but smiles and sunshine. She will be missed by all who knew her. I am so happy to have had her as a friend and so grateful I was able to visit with her in Florida in 2019.
Art and children - she loved you all more than you could imagine. You were all her whole heart and soul. So truly sorry for your loss. Thank you for all you did for her to make her life filled with love and happiness.