Arlene N Doty
February 16, 1937 – July 15, 2020
Arlene Novak Coplon Doty died on July 15, 2020, surrounded in love by her children and their spouses, Dianna “Didi” and John Palien, Jay and Rebecca Coplon, and Jennifer and Roger Goldman, after a 7-month battle with glioblastoma brain cancer. Arlene is survived by her sister Saundra (Joel) Eisler; her grandchildren Leigh (Chris) Palke, JD Taylor, Michael Palien, Lucas Coplon, and Noah Coplon; as well as her five great grandchildren, Christopher, Nicholas, Patrick, Rachael, and Jonathan Palke, daughter-in-law Jill Coplon, and her first husband Glenn Coplon; she is preceded in death by her second husband, Bob Doty. She is also survived by Arlene Permissohn and Paige Rose, both like sisters to her. Arlene was born on February 16, 1937 in New York to Ray Milstein Novak and Sol Novak. The family moved to Norfolk, VA when she was a young girl. She met Glenn Coplon at the age of 12 and they married when Arlene was 18 years old. Along with being a wonderful homemaker and mother extraordinaire to Didi, Jay, and Jennifer, Arlene went to work as a bookkeeper, and as an employee of several businesses rose to the level of Vice President. She ultimately founded her own travel company. She was a member of several networking organizations during her career including the National Association of Legal Secretaries, where she served as President. These connections blossomed into a vast network of friends who became her extended family. Arlene was exceptional. She was beautiful, kind, creative, talented, generous, and joyful. She loved to dance, cook, laugh, entertain, and travel. In fact, these interests led her to meet the love of her life, Bob Doty, at a church while she was traveling in Anstruther, Scotland. Her life was never the same! Bob and Arlene married in 1998 and enjoyed their life together to the fullest, dividing their time between homes in Key West, Scotland, New Hampshire, and Washington DC. Arlene’s outgoing nature and flair for life is the source of many wonderful memories, from fabulous parties (sometimes including costumes for no reason at all), making life-long friends with people she had just met in the airport, decorating and renovating multiple homes, and a constant love of the arts and the communities where she lived. She was active in the Jewish and Methodist communities where she and Bob each worshipped.
Arlene split her time in Key West and Pasadena Maryland for the next 11 years after her dear Bob passed, and lived with Didi and John, and spent her time with her family each Spring through Fall season. Arlene was a generous hostess, opening her home and heart to many people throughout the years; some came for a visit, and others actually moved in for a while. She hosted many vacations in all her homes, making friends and especially her family feel at home and welcome. All three of her children, their spouses, her grandchildren, and her great-grandchildren all would tell you that they were her favorite. She had a magical ability to make everyone around her feel uniquely precious and important. We are all so lucky to have been a part of her life.
Arlene was diagnosed with brain cancer in January, and like everything she did, she hit it head on and pursued recommended treatments to beat it. She said she was going to kick cancer’s ass with a kick-ball-change tap dance move. She spent her last months at Jennifer and Roger’s home cared for by her family.
In tribute to her memory, the family requests that in lieu of flowers, those who are inclined make donations to either of the two organizations that supported her so well in her last year: Heartland Hospice https://www.heartlandhospice.com/Fairfax or American Brain Tumor Association https://www.abta.org . Arlene will be buried at Arlington National Cemetery on a later date.
Virtual Shiva services will be held on Tuesday, July 21st from 1-3pm and 7-9pm; and Wednesday, July 22nd from 1-3pm and 7-9pm.
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Arlene N Doty
July 27, 2020
As all friends and family know, Arlene was a one-of-a kind lady! I had the privilege of actually being related to her in 1998 when she married Bob Doty who was the brother of my husband, Tom. They were so happy together and we enjoyed numerous visits with them in all the various locations where they presided during their nine happy years together, and as always, Arlene was the perfect hostess. Fortunately, we were able to continue to keep in touch with her and enjoy more visits, both at her homes, or ours when she would make those driving trips from Key West to Maryland and back each year! She will always be remembered!
July 26, 2020
Arlene taught me and others in Key West to play Mah Jongg. I think of her every time I play. Arlene said to do this or she would say do that. She always was positive, encouraging and helpful in her own sweet way.
She was a great hostess and cook and we will miss her dearly. I found a dime on the ground last week when I opened my car door. Thank you Arlene
July 23, 2020
I was very saddened to hear about the passing of the very lovely Arlene Doty. We knew each other for a long time in Key West Florida. Arlene was a real lady...a supporter of the Arts in town and very active and involved. She had a great sense of humor and was a real charmer. I really missed seeing her when she moved away from Key West. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.... no doubt you loved her deeply and she you! With love and special memories always, Lynda Frechette
July 20, 2020
I have fond memories meeting Arlene in my native home Scotland. Arlene was always way younger than her years and had a love for life, family and friends that was incredible. My mother Pam Biggart and I had the good fortune to meet Arlene last summer in DC. Arlene took us on a tour of the city and we visited Bob's grave, a wonderful experience... Best wishes to all her family, she will be missed.
Susie Collins (Atlanta GA)
July 19, 2020
My first memory of Arlene was meeting her at the Annual Coplon Family at Marion's back in the mid 1950's. Over the years, I was in contact with her at family events several times each year. She was always alive and outgoing and in the center of the room. She smiled and laughed constantly, which attracted everyone to her.
She will be missed by all.
July 19, 2020
Aunt Arlene was the best of the best. She had the most amazing laugh. And boy did she know how to have fun. She had a way of making me always feel like the most important person in the room when we were together. She never missed a Simcha and taught us all by her example how important family is. I will always remember her MANY beautiful homes. How I loved that apartment in Crystal City. But my favorite memories were at the beach house in Virginia Beach. I remember when she helped me style my hair with her headband and then looped the hair around it (so it was up and off my neck) and so we could look like twins. She will be so very missed. Sending love to y’all.
July 19, 2020
I didn’t spend a lot of time with her...I only met her once. But what an impact she had! I remember walking down the street in Florence, SC watching her...listening to her. She had such a vibrancy about her...it was magnetic. Her smile was beautiful, and you couldn’t help but be interested in what she had to say. I have thought of that day many times. I have tried to emulate what I saw. A true picture of beauty and class. The world will be lessened so much by her loss.
Kathy and Ray Sanetrik
July 18, 2020
Arlene was a lovely, lovely lady. We met her in 2013 and she always made us feel as if we were lifetime friends. We were always welcome in her homes with gracious hospitality. She taught both of us to play mahjong and was so so patient. This world has lost a true angel. May you reunite with your beloved Bob and your dear Ella