Mercedes "Chede" Conder

Passed away on October 29, 2018
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Chede was born on September 23rd in Hartshorne, Oklahoma to John and Juanita Sabala. She was the tenth of 13 spirited children. Chede graduated from Hartshorne High School in 1957, where she served as president of her senior class. After graduation, she moved to Tulsa and worked in the office of the US Army Corps of Engineers, where she met Fred, her lifelong love. They were married on August 19, 1961 at First Christian Church. Their first daughter Camy soon followed. Fred moved to Austin to attend UT Law School, and Chede and Camy joined him. The new family fell in love with Austin and their love affair with the city kept them here. The family grew in 1968 with the birth of Cachele and again in 1975 with the birth of Chendrith. Chede worked for the IRS for 35 years and ultimately retired from the federal government. During this same time Chede was a dynamic force in the lives of her family, siblings, church, and hundreds of friends. After retirement, Chede focused on community service and being an active and involved grandmother for her seven grandchildren. She worked with the Day Lily Society and weeded and maintained flowerbeds at the Zilker Botanical Garden. She enjoyed working in the yard, tending to her flowerbeds, and cultivating her garden. Chede was also an accomplished seamstress and quilter. She made clothes and costumes for her three daughters and altered and mended clothes for countless others. Chede was an active and dedicated member of Hyde Park Christian Church for 55 years. She found a way to minister while being a vital church member. Chede served in many capacities including, being a deaconess, a Stephen’s Minister, a CWF member, and a member of the sewing group who called themselves the Sew-n-Sews. She helped to cater and participated in Vacation Bible School and numerous bridal and baby showers.

Chede was an avid golfer, frequenting the links throughout Austin and Central Texas several times per week. The highlight of her golfing was accomplishing two holes-in-one after the age of 65. She taught most of her grandchildren to play golf and tennis, giving them individual instruction, enrolling them in clinics and paying for lessons. While she herself could not swim, she made it her mission to see that every grandchild could swim at an early age. Her focus extended beyond sports for her grandchildren, and she wanted them to be involved in their church and community. She and Fred would faithfully pick them up every Wednesday and took them all to choir practice and then out to eat dinner afterwards. Mercedes “Chede” Conder passed away unexpectedly after gardening on Monday, October 29th in Austin, Texas at the age of 79.

Chede is survived by her loving husband of 57 years, Fred Conder; children: Camy and husband Wesley Young; Cachele and husband Steve Spinn; Chendrith Pittman; grandchildren: Michele, Weston, Tyler, Megan, Cameron, Brandon, and Jacob. She was preceded in death by her parents and several brothers and sisters.

All are welcome to attend A Celebration of Life service which is scheduled for Saturday, November 3rd at 11:00 am at Hyde Park Christian Church, 610 E. 45th Street, with a reception to follow in the Fellowship Hall. A private graveside service and butterfly release will be held at Austin Memeorial Park Cemetery later that day. Donations can be made to the Assistance League of Austin or the First Tee of Greater Austin. The family would like to thank everyone for their prayers, kind words, meals provided to the family and remembrances of Chede.


  • Visitation Friday, November 2, 2018
  • A Celebration of Life Saturday, November 3, 2018

Mercedes "Chede" Conder

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Rey Garcia

January 9, 2019

I got to know Chede during the years I worked & played golf at Lions GC. The moment you met her, you knew you'd like her. She was a vibrant lady with a beautiful smile. I remember going out on through the course looking for one of Fred's brand new hearing aides, know it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack.... but Chede asked and I couldn't say no to her. After leaving Lions GC, I would still see Chede playing golf with the other ladies on Wednesdays and make sure to say Hello knowing that she would give me that smile of hers. I just heard of her passing from Marcia Macha and had to look up her obit. Rest in Peace Chede.... Heaven will be a better place now that you're there. My condolences to Fred and the Family.

..... Rey Garcia

Rebecca Salazar

December 3, 2018

I just heard the news today about your passing away and it brought me to tears. You were an amazing woman and I can't believe you are gone. I am going to miss you coming into the clinic and hearing about you and Fred's journeys and life stories. You are such a Beautiful soul and it was an honor to have met you and to have known you. May you rest in peace and may your family find comfort through this. Thank you for being a friend and being the beautiful soul you were.

Chuck Bailey

November 10, 2018

Fred and I worked together for a number of years. I don’t think we ever had a conversation that Chede’s name
didn’t come up. After meeting her I understood why. She was a friendly and gracious lady who always was smiling. Fred, Sharmon and I send you and the girls thoughts of peace and grace.

Lesa Meath

November 9, 2018

I met the Conder family years ago as a classmate of Camy's at UT. Because I was far from my own home and family in Alaska, they immediately welcomed and included me in gatherings. Chede made a mark on so many lives, and I am honored to have known such a fun and compassionate woman. She had a great sense of humor! Blessings to all of her wonderful family. I know she was proud of each one of you. Much love, Lesa


November 5, 2018

She was a sweetie- always smiling and always so helpful !! An IRS icon.

Bernadette Bennett

November 4, 2018

I always loved playing golf with Chede at Lions. Always a good time and she was very gun ho ready to go. She always led what ever quarm she played in fun , laughter , such a breath of fresh air. I miss you Chede. Love , Mrs. Purple

Jenny van Rensburg

November 2, 2018

I loved Chede's laugh and enthusiasm for life. Playing golf with her was really fun. Even when she hit a poor shot, she would just laugh at herself and carry on playing . I was so happy that she loved the Assistance League of Austin, where I am a volunteer. She donated all the time to our Thrift Shop. One time she donated a lamp and on returning home, realized she still needed it. So she went back to the shop and purchased it again! I told her I would have returned it for free, but she just shrugged and said that her daughter is a vice principal of a school which benefits from our Operation School Bell program.
I consider myself blessed that I knew her. She truly will have a special place in heaven. Perhaps she can guide me to make a hole in one eventually!
Unfortunately I will not be able to attend her celebration of life. Which it is. I will be volunteering at the Assistance League's retail shop that morning and somehow I know she will understand.

Marcia Macha

November 2, 2018

Chede was a member of our Ladies' Golf Association at Muny. This is one of my favorite photos; it was July 4, 2017.

Mark Sabala

November 2, 2018

Aunt Chede had the kindest heart. She was always glad to see you, full of love, and always invited you to visit her and her family in Austin. I am so grateful and blessed that she, Fred and her family were a part of our lives. The picture I enclosed was taken in June of 1989 when my wife and I were passing through Austin. Chede and Fred we're excited to take us to Mount Bonell to see the view. May God's grace, mercy, and love be with Aunt Chede and her family.

Dorothy Ebach-Boyson

November 1, 2018

During my 26 years at IRS, Chede was one of my favorite people. She initially processed the paperwork for my employment, fingerprinted me and continued to be the kindest, sweetest person I ever had the pleasure of knowing. She always had a smile on her face and a friendly hello.