OBITUARY

Frank Lodhar

April 18, 1943November 7, 2020
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Frank Lodhar peacefully passed away Saturday, November 7th, 2020 in Brampton after a very courageous, but tragically rapid, fight with cancer. Frank lived a beautiful life which began in Cedar Hill, Trinidad WI where he spent his childhood and youth. He spoke often, and fondly, about growing up in Trinidad as the oldest of 13 children in a tight knit family with a vast grove of fruit trees in the yard. After beginning his career as an educator in Trinidad at the young age of 17, he eventually journeyed to Canada at the age of 25 and settled in Leamington, ON. He continued his career as an educator, resource teacher, and administrator with the Essex County Board of Education, eventually retiring to Brampton, ON. Among his many accomplishments he was noted as an outstanding professional who revolutionized the model for the delivery of Special Education Services within the board. Always a firm believer in education, he completed his Masters in Education degree at the University of Windsor.

Frank is survived by his loving wife, Gladys (nee Australie), of 53 years and his daughters, Cathryn Raman (Gordon) and Loreen. He was the adored “papa” to his grandson Sebastian and his favourite furry friend and canine companion, Riley. Brother of David (Rebecca), Vera Ragbir (Ralph), Sarah, Roy (Joy), Marion, Cintrah Coolman (Carl), Margaret Manchoon (Curtis), Carol, Annette Seelal (Danny), Andre, Dennies Rattan (Ben) and Ricardo. Uncle of 11 nieces, 12 nephews, and many great nieces and nephews. He is predeceased by his father, Boney, his mother, Celia, father-in-law Hamid Australie, mother-in-law Olga and nephew Travis.

Frank had a generous heart, led with a firm and kind hand to bring out the very best in every life he touched. From his students, to his family, as a professional in education and as a community leader on many volunteer boards he was a leading agent for change. He was a firm believer in family and duty and with his wife Gladys sponsored many of his siblings, sharing their home and eventually helping them settle into successful educational pursuits and careers across Canada. Frank was comfortable with any tool he picked up and there is not a home of any family member or friend that his skillful hands have not touched. In his happiest moments, his gleeful grin would warm the hearts of everyone around him. If there were a mission and a purpose for positive impact Frank led the charge by example, rolling up his sleeves and getting to work with no complaints, just effort. He will be forever missed but his positive influence will live on through the lessons he taught to everyone blessed to be in his presence. Friends and family may visit at Andrews Community Funeral Centre, 8190 Dixie Road, Brampton, ON, L6T 5N9 (N of Orenda) on Friday, November 13th , 2020 from 5-8 pm. Due to current restrictions a small, private funeral service will be held on Saturday, November 14th at 11:00 am at Andrews Community Funeral Centre (by invitation only).

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Gladys Annor

November 14, 2020

My ten year memory of Frank as a neighbour has been a sense of security , the sense humour. His perfectionist attitude towards the shared lawn kept me on my toes , but the best part of it is that it fostered a beautiful relationship especially since I moved into my house 3 years ago.
It’s so painful to watch him suffer.
As l often said to him GET WELL SOON I AM PRAYING FOR YOU. MISS COMPETING WITH YOU.
Happy to him out once in a while.
Farewell Frank, blessed to have known you. To Gladys and girls May the arm of God’s peace and comfort be with you ♥️🙏

Pam Sims

November 14, 2020

I was greatly saddened to hear of Frank's passing. He was a kind, caring and considerate man. I enjoyed working with him on the CARP board of directors. He was always willing to help out and be of service. He will be greatly missed.
Pam Sims

Charmaine Alexis

November 14, 2020

Amazingly, I never met Frank in person, but through his sibling Sarah I felt that I knew Frank. He was indeed a patriarch. He loved his family dearly. He was a great model of fatherhood to Sarah. A great loss I am sure for every member of that family. Even to your next generation. I know that one day I will meet this great man of God. Blessings to all whom I have had the privelege to meet - Sarah, Margaret, Marion and Carol. Forever united in Christ Jesus. Charmaine

Peter Howarth

November 13, 2020

I had the pleasure of working with Frank on the Brampton CARP Board of Directors and on the City of Brampton Age Friendly Advisory Committee. Frank was a delight to work with - he was always present, involved, observant and quite willing to share his well thought out and clearly articulated position on the issues at hand. Aside from all that “stuff” Frank was so comfortable to be with - friendly, welcoming and sincere.
He will be deeply missed - such a strong advocate for the well being of the community. My deepest condolences to the Lohdar family.

Peter Howarth

Margaret Clarke

November 13, 2020

My sincere condolences and deepest sympathy to the entire Lodhar family. Frank is safe in the arms of Jesus, his Lord and Saviour.
"Say not in grief that he is no more but in thankfulness that he was"
May you find comfort in the thought that our loving heavenly Father knows best and you will see Frank again. May he rest in peace and rise in glory.

Celia Scott

November 13, 2020

I wish to extend sincere condolences to the entire Lodhar family on the passing of Frank - husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle and friend to many.
It was just a few months ago that I had the pleasure and opportunity to speak with Frank on a number of occasions during his illness. He was very brave in spite of what he was going through. Although I did not know him personally, having met a few of his siblings and in my conversation with him, it is truly not difficult to imagine the calibre of man that he was. May he Rest In Peace.
C. Scott

Charlie Bridglal

November 13, 2020

Popular teacher in the short time at Jordan Hill Presbyterian school
Good at the common entrance training

Marcia Gayle

November 12, 2020

May the Lord our God, grant you're family great comfort for such a monumental loss. Our deepest condolence. We are here to support your family in any way we can, do not be afraid to reach into your church family for help and support......Gayle Family (Marcia & Xavier-son).

Betty Sewlal

November 12, 2020

The news of Frank’s passing was received with great sadness.
Frank was dearly loved and respected by my parents (Jean and Bhano Ramrattan) and I believe they appreciated him even more for his assiduous role in ensuring that I passed my Common Entrance Exam. They valued Frank’s visits which I think they came to expect, whenever he was in Trinidad.
I too have held Frank in the highest esteem, as my most respected teacher. It was a love/hate relationship. I loved him because he cared so much but I hated that he made me work so hard to achieve my fullest potential.
I last saw Frank when he visited my siblings and me after my mom’s funeral. He brought us a beautiful card, expressing his own cherished memories of her. Frank will be dearly missed and I will particularly miss receiving his special Christmas card in the mail this year.
Betty Ramrattan-Sewlal

Eddie and Monica Ramdial

November 11, 2020

We met Frank over 50 years ago at Revival Time Assembly.
He was a dedicated young person who became involved in God's work wholeheartedly . His desire was to see souls won to Christ.
Our deepest sympathy to Gladys and the family. We pray that God will strengthen you all at this difficult time.
Psalm 23.4.. Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil. For Thou art with me, Thy rod and staff they comfort me.
God bless
Eddie and Monica Ramdial

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Biography

Grandson Tribute, Sebastian Raman
My Grandpa passed away at 77 years old. That’s 77 years of being him. 75 years of being a brother. 53 years of being a husband. 51 years of being a father. And almost 17 years of being Papa.

Whether he was taken from us five years ago, or five years from now, none of us would’ve been ready, and it would’ve felt to soon. But you see, in the end the numbers don’t matter. Because the truth is “Our lives are not given meaning by the number years that we life for; rather they are given meaning in the impact we have on those around us.” And nobody gave truth to those words better than Papa did, every single day he walked this earth.

Relationships are what mattered the most to Papa. His relationship with my Grandma, with my parents, with my aunt, myself, and with all of you. He was never the loudest or most talkative person in any room, but he had a special way of connecting gently with people through stories and laughter. Beyond that, no matter where he was or what he was doing, he would always try his best to put a smile on people’s faces. And the times that he would fail at that mission were few and far between.

And on top of that, he made the point of writing people cards at every occasion, big or small, birthdays, Christmas, your first haircut in a few months. That habit is something that those closest to him would affectionately poke fun at him for, from time to time. But what that really showed about Papa is that he truly loved and cared for the people around him. And not only that, but he wanted to make sure that they knew it. From this, I learned the first of the three great lessons Papa taught me, which is that the greatest way to find happiness is to bring happiness to those around you.

Papa was also a fixer and a builder, in every sense of those words. He was a shoulder to cry on, and whenever you were hurt, physically or emotionally, he was always there waiting with a kind and gentle smile, a warm hug, and all the right words to mend the wound and build you back up.

On top of that, he did amazing work with his hands. Papa would have most people think he was an educator and principle for 40 years, before retiring in 2002 to become a grandfather. But the truth is, over the last 17 years, and probably a lifetime before that, he was also a carpenter, an electrician, a farmer, a mechanic, and a painter. A lot of my earliest memories as a child were spent with my Papa, and weather we building snow forts, hills and tunnels on the front lawn, or making wooden boxes and toy cars at Home Depot workshops, in all those memoirs we were doing or making something.

For as long as I can remember, Papa has always been working on projects. He loved working on projects for himself, but more so to help others. Fixing rust on cars, painting furniture, planting fruits and vegetables in the garden, you name it. And whenever I could be I was right there by his side helping him… For five minutes. Then I was bouncing a ball up and down, asking for snacks, and unintentionally doing anything I could to distract him. He never got mad at me, and he would always find a way to bring m back into whatever we were supposed to be doing. As I grew up, so too did my attention span, and through watching and helping Papa work, I learned my second great lesson from him, which is that focus, determination, and perseverance are important, and there are few things that bring on a better feeling than seeing something through from start to finish.

Papa has been with me throughout my entire life. From my first memories ever, and every day since then. When I think back on our time together, thre are countless memories. We worked together, we ate together, we played together, we cried together, and we laughed together. One of the things that always brings warmth to my heart is that from what I remember, Papa was always smiling. I’m not saying he was never mad, but he was never mad for long. If he got upset, he would take a moment gather himself and like magic he would be right back to normal happy Papa. And from all these memories with him, I learned my third and final great lesson from Papa, which is that, though it is not always the easiest option, in fact most times it’s really hard, it’s always better to be happy rather than angry.

So, to all of you I say, Papa had a smile that shone as bright as the sun, and a laugh as infectious as any, so whenever you think of him, remember him smiling and laughing, and if you can picture it clearly enough you might just start smiling and giggling yourself. I know life is hard right now. It is for all of us, and it probably will be for a while. But as time goes on and things get a little easier, live with love in your hearts, and happiness in your soles. Care deeply about the things you enjoy doing and the people you love, and bring joy to the people around you, just like Papa did for all his life.

And to Papa I say, Thank you. Thank you for the life you lived. Thank you for the lessons you taught me. Thank you for the things you did and the people you touched. Thank you. I am so grateful to have been so close to you, and to always have you by my side, as a grandfather and as my best friend. I know you’re up there watching over me, and I want you to know that you will continue to live on in me through he things you taught me and the memories we shared.

Rest Easy, I love you to the moon and back.
God Saw You Getting Tired, A Tribute to Daddy

God saw you getting tired,
And a cure was not to be;

So He put His arms around you
and whispered "Come to Me."

With tearful eyes we watched you suffer,
and saw you fade away.

Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.

A golden heart stopped beating,
hard working hands at rest.

God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best!









WISHES FROM THE BRAMPTON COMMUNITY

Passing along comments from City officials and committee members, who served with your Dad on Brampton's Age-Friendly Committee:

Peter Howarth, Myrna Adams, committee members: "Frank was held in very high regard by fellow committee members."

Jeff Bowman, City Councillor and fellow committee member: "Frank was always smiling and happy at our meetings, and always had great input. My deepest condolences to his family and friends."

Doug Whillans, City Councillor and fellow committee member: "Frank was a valuable contributor to our committee. He will be sadly missed".

Daniela Balasal, City official: "Frank eagerly volunteered during our Age-Friendly Forum in January 2019".

To the family of Frank Lodhar

The City Clerk’s Office and members of the Age-Friendly Brampton Advisory Committee extend sincere condolences to Frank’s family.

The City Clerk’s Office acknowledge Frank’s contribution to the following citizen-based committees since the year 2010.

2018-2022 – Age-Friendly Brampton Advisory Committee
2014-2018 – Council Compensation Committee, Age-Friendly Brampton Advisory Committee
2010-2014 – Brampton School Traffic Safety Council
As a gesture of respect and thanks, a donation was made by the City Clerk’s Office to the Canadian Cancer Society, one of the three organizations mentioned in his obituary that was circulated to us.

William Osler Health System “I am told that Osler Health System will be lowering their flags on Friday, November 13th, 2020 in honour of your father and his service to the Osler Community. …… November 10th, 2020 TPM

Flags lowered at Brampton Civic Hospital on Friday, November 13th, 2020 – as promised by Osler


RAMAN-WILMS TRIBUTES/MEMORIES

Hi Frank,

I wanted to share one of my favourite memories with you from a few years ago. It was at the cottage on a chilly winter day, sometime in the late afternoon. It wasn’t snowing, but there was lots of snow on the ground. Sebs, of course, had cleared the snow off a rectangular area on the lake to make a hockey rink. He’d been out skating for hours.

At some point during that afternoon, you wanted to join Sebs out there. So he brought a pair of skates out to the lake for you, and you walked together onto the ice. He’d set up a bench and you sat down, and he kneeled in front of you to help put your skates on and lace them up.

Then you stood up on the ice, tentatively, resting your hands on his shoulders. He helped you move around, slowly skating on the frozen lake. You held onto him and he held onto you.

I remember being so touched as I watched the two of you skate. Your bond was so clear, so fierce: it was evident in the gentleness of your interactions, in the conversation, and in the laughter. Sebs was so excited to bring you into an important part of his world, and you were thrilled to join him there. You were both having so much fun.

Thinking back to that afternoon on the lake, it was such a peaceful, wonderful moment. It was a cold, quiet winter day, and very few other people were out on the ice. The two of you were just enjoying one another’s company

Menaka
Frank:

I have so many wonderful memories of the whole family celebrating holidays together at Auntie Cathy & Goma’s place. Thanksgivings & Christmas’ where we’d all gather around the dining table sharing stories and laughs with the whole family. We would open our Christmas crackers and all wear our paper crowns on our head, and you would always keep yours on until the very end. You have such a wonderful spirit and have built such a loving family. It is always the most beautiful sight to see the incredibly special bond that you & Sebastian have. I think of so many times with the two of you sharing laughs and hugs, and it is clear to see that when the two of you are together you are both filled with pure happiness.

Nalini
We are with you in heart and spirit and hoping that things are peaceful for your Dad. It is a difficult time and can only imagine how he has managed with all the pain of the past year.

When we think of Frank, some things immediately bring smiles to our faces, and three episodes especially come to mind.

1) Most recently, when your Dad and Mom and Loreen were in Winnipeg for your aunt's birthday, they visited us at our new (old) home on Montrose Street. Frank has done a lot of work at your homes, and could see that we needed a bit of help understanding what repairs we should
tackle first. I got out my woodworking tools and right away he set about helping me with some trim and molding for the staircase and then did repair work on one of our armchairs. Plus, he had a lot of suggestions (many of which I have implemented) on tiling, flooring and structural repairs that were very insightful and useful to us. We smile when we think of it, because at the time we were a little overwhelmed by the number of jobs we had to do. But your dad is a very clear thinker and provided us with a plan and then sat down and jumped into some of the work that needed to be done. We felt relieved to have

access to his expertise, and we smile at our good fortune!!
I know Frank is a very accomplished individual academically, but practically I think he has a real knack finding great bargains on Kijji (especially cars and your van). I recognize his many skills with vehicles, and when I dented my car on the side of our garage, he patiently explained to me the different tools I would need to go and get (bondo, suction cups, screw-pull device) and how to use them. It was very helpful, and I know he would be happy to see how it turned out!
I have always had the impression that if you were interested in doing something, and could use his help, your Dad is ready to do whatever he can to assist, in a very genuine and patient manner.


2) My friend David and his wife were visiting Haliburton over the Christmas holidays a few years back. They had a great time, and every time we connect, we both laugh about the wonderful hockey game we had on the ice that year. David still remarks that it was like a 'Picture Postcard of Pond hockey in Canada'- with everyone out and participating; kids, adults, boys, girls, beginners and superstars, young whippersnappers (Sebs) and wise elders ;-). It was great that your Dad, who grew up in Trinidad, far from the cold and snow, would be out there playing hockey with his family!! What an amazing time!

3) We have always happily remarked on the obvious pleasure that Frank displays when he is working on a special project with his grandson. Over the years we have watched them collaborating on many projects together, and observed how he has encouraged Sebs to explore and
develop his many diverse interests. Partly as a result of his professional background as an educator, but your Dad has a unique and wonderful capacity to engage young minds. It's a joy to watch the pleasure he gets from being a Grandfather!!

Please give our love and a big hug to your Dad,
and of course to you, Loreen, your Mom, Gord and Sebs, and your Dad's family.

Much love,

Lalitha, John, Menaka and Nalini

Lalitha
A story I wanted to share with you - we have always appreciated sitting and chatting with your dad anytime we saw him at your place, and more recently at your place in Haliburton. Your father is a kind, caring, and wonderful person and, as I still miss Appa very much, it was comforting for me to speak with your dad. During these conversations, he would often think of something humorous within the topic, and when he did, he had this wonderful smile and chuckle that is in our memories.

Please let him know again how we are sending our positive thoughts and lots of love and prayer his way.

J, L, M and N













Tributes from Nieces and Nephews

Larissa
To my Uncle Frank ️....
My heart breaks that you are not well. It really saddens me that someone as sweet and kind as you has to go through this.

You mean so much to me, always have.
There are so many memories I have as a child that had so much to do with you. All of our road trips, and visits to Leamington (I’ll never forget the smell of the Heinz ketchup factory lol) and always traveling back home with as much strawberry jam as possible (thanks Auntie Gladys)

We were always so close to you, Auntie Gladys, Cato and Loreen. Growing up, we spent so much time with all of you and always did so many things as a big, happy family. The bond our family has with yours is so special. Thank you for letting mom stay with you when she came to Canada, you gave her an amazing start to a new chapter here and we are all so truly grateful for everything you have done for us.

You have given me two cousins with the same big heart as yours! We have a such a special relationship. Even though we don’t get to chat/message all the time, when we do it feels we are in contact everyday

No matter how old I get, I still always feel like the spoiled baby that everyone calls Missy. I love that you have always referred to all of your nieces as ‘your favorite niece’, but we all know who the favorite really is hehe ;)

It makes me happy you got to spend time with Omar and Sammie over the years, and that you were there to celebrate the happiest day of my life, our wedding.

I’m also glad we keep in touch over the last little while. Even though it was through email, those little things go a very long way.
Please stay strong and remember you have so many people praying for you and sending you lots of love and strength.
I love you so much, never forget that.

To Auntie Gladys, Cato, Loreen, Gord, Sebs and Riley
It saddens us so deeply that you lost such an amazing husband, father, father-in-law and grandfather. We know you will always cherish all of the beautiful times you shared with Uncle Frank, we will do the same
We love you all so much. And know we will be here for you anytime you need us.

Love Omar and Larissa ️


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Laurence
Unck..thank you for the memories. Coming to Toronto will never be the same again but we will continue to visit whenever we have the opportunity. You have left me with long lasting memories which I will always cherish. Spending time with you in Leamington, family visits to Winnipeg, and your presence at milestone moments (mom’s retirement, my wedding) has meant a great deal to all of us. You were always up for a good lime. Your infectious smile, welcoming demeanor and kindness to all never went unnoticed. Getting an email at 6:35 am on Father’s day from you just wishing me a “happy day” and signing off with “love you” is something that I will always cherish and never forget. Although you were going through your own health battle you took the time to reach out which speaks to the love you had for your entire family both far and wide. There is so much I more I can say but for now will keep these close to my heart until we meet again UNCK. Thank you for the memories and for enriching not only my life but all our lives in your own special way. For that I will remain eternally grateful. You will always hold a special place in my heart and thoughts UNCK. I will sign off with a “love you” for now. It’s not good bye but see you later. Rest in peace.
Love always LAUR.

Laurence, Sue-Ann and kids "Always in our hearts and forever in our thoughts.” Love you Unck.

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Shane
To my #1 Uncle, from your #1 Nephew. You have always been a role model for me (and for my Dad – who I know has always looked up to his older brother). You have set the bar high and have set the example for the Lodhar family – stressing the importance of school/education, family first, being a loving husband and father. I hope can do the same for my family.

Some of my best memories (by a long shot) were the times we spent together driving countless hours on our long road trips across Canada and the US. We had so much fun listening to calypso music, playing rummy, laughing and teasing each other. There may have been the occasional whining and fighting between cousins, but I would not trade those family trips for anything. We still laugh telling people the ‘ketchup’ story. “Mom, pass the F’in ketchup”…….trust me, I’m not proud of that memory, but still makes for good laughs. I think I’m starting to get payback now with my own kids. Haha.

Uncle Frank – you have always treated my family like your own and the feeling is mutual. You have always gone out of the way to support me from being at my wedding, to travelling all the way to Wisconsin for my University graduation. Thank you so much – I will always cherish those memories.

Love you Uncle Frank (#1 Uncle)

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Lana
Uncle Frank, please know that you have my love. Unfortunately, we lived so far apart that our interaction was limited, but I remember the laughs and fun times we shared as a family when we did have the opportunity to see each other. You’ve shone your light brightly over the years and you continue to do so. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.
Love you
Lana

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Carla
Dear Uncle Frank,
Over the past couple days I've been reminiscing about my childhood memories and all the fun times we shared.
I will always cherish those summer holidays when we would come to Leamington and you would take Clint and I Go Carting and swimming.Those activities were truly the highlight of our vacation. I'm also reminiscing about all of the Christmas holidays that we shared and how you used to spoil Clint and I with Christmas gifts, it was always a happy and joyful time.
A lot of my fond childhood memories include you Uncle Frank, thank you for those memories.

I remember how much we missed you, Aunite Gladys, Cathy, Loreen and Gordon when we moved to Trinidad. I will always be grateful to you for encouraging me to move back and helping me with the process of applying to College. Thank you for everything you did for Clint and myself, we will always appreciate it.

Another memory that is imprinted in my brain is your expression when you found out we were having live tassa at my wedding reception. Boy did you have a great time dancing away to the beat of those drums! That memory truly brings joy to my heart.

I'm so happy that I had the opportunity to Facetime with you yesterday and tell you that I love you and you responded back with "I love you too baby". Thank you Unc. It hurts my heart to see you in so much pain. I pray for comfort and peace for you. May God Bless you always. You will always have a special place in my heart, I love you always and forever.

Your loving niece,
Carla (Carly)
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Larina
I love you so much and want you to know how much you mean to me. You have always made me feel so special and loved. You have such a big heart and I feel like I have had a special place in it for my entire life. So many of the memories in my life include my fun loving Unc....not sure where to start...

Even though distance separated us, your love was felt always. So many vacations and adventures spent together. As kids, we shared so many fun adventures all over Ontario - thanks in big part to you and Auntie Gladys' generosity and kindness – Colasanti’s, African Lion Safari, Storybook Gardens, Heinz Tomato Factory, Niagara Falls, walks to Zellers and all over Leamington, Leamington Tomato festivals, cross country road trips any and everywhere are a few memories that stand out.

You always made a point of supporting me in any way you could. Whenever something big or small happened in my life, I knew my unkie would send a kind word, encouragement or be celebrating / cheering me on from a distance - highschool grad, university grad, when I got engaged and then married, you were one of the first to send congrats. When I became a mommy, you were there. You made sure to come to my wedding reception in Winnipeg. You always remembered my birthday. Always sent us Christmas presents and always checked in on mom and us. You made a point to celebrate every milestone in one way or another. You have always opened your home and heart to me and my family without me ever even having to ask. I always knew anywhere unkie was, that I would have a home away from home in Leamington and Brampton.

You inspired me with your love of photography and capturing all the special moments. It is because of you that I make a point to document so many things with pictures.

Even though distance separated us, I knew anytime I did see you, no matter how much time had passed, I would be met with a big smooshy wet kiss and big hugs with the resounding...."Niece...." in the endearing way only you could say it.

I hope and pray that I will get a chance to see you again soon but until then, I wanted to make sure to share these memories with you so that you know just how much I love you and how much everything you have done for me in my 43 years means to me.
God Bless and keep you now and always.

Love you always and forever
Niece

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Clint
Unk I want to thank you for everything you did for me. You were always there with Carla and I growing up.
I will forever cherish everything you did for us. I have alot of memories of Carla and I spending the summer with you and auntie Gladys and always getting freedom. You spoiled me.

I also remember the late night runs to johnnies and how I long to have another burger with you.

Unk my heart is heavy and I can't hold back my tears writing this email to you. I know you are in a lot of pain and I wish I could somehow take it away from you.

I also would like to thank you and Auntie Gladys for having me stay by you when I went to Sheridan. I will forever cherish having you in my life.

Life will be upside down with you. The more I think about you Unk, the sadder I get. Unk I love you! Stay strong and I will continue praying for you.
Stay strong Unk.
Love always,

Clint
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Jared
Uncle Frank and I had a special bond over “tinkering and building” We loved to fix things. It’s the everyday ways he’s had significant impact on my life. And it so happens that one of those impacts was aligned with activities that bring me joy. He taught me that silicone is a great adhesive, taught me how to grout tiles (and helped me to do it), and one of my hobbies is resin - I made a table top much like the wooden clock finished with resin that he had done in that technique. I will also remember the Hindi he used to speak to me in at times and revel in my confusion. I’ve said it before your family is so special and steeped in my most fond memories.

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Celeste
Hi Unc, Cel here, I have the most vivid memories of collecting smooth jet black rocks from the lake side in Leamington and bringing them all the way back to Trinidad. I remember a summer that we spent with you and Auntie Gladys in Leamington where you took us bumper car racing (that was the first time for me) and it was so much fun. You spent that summer making sure that we had a memorable holiday. You even made an album with us to remember the holiday. I have the album in my bedside table to this day. The educator in you made sure that even during the fun activities there was always something to learn. That album is one for me. I remember cross country road trips with you and Aunty Gladys - strawberry picking and eating sunflower seeds as if I were truly a bird in the back of your van. I remember whenever you would come to Trinidad to visit, you would come bearing individual gifts for each of us. It wasn’t the gifts that I remember, but the thought and effort that would have gone into those sentiments. I’m sure we were annoying and bratty kids and as an older person now it is really something to think back on people that took time to be influences in your life. I want you to know that you were an influence in my life in more ways than you would probably ever think. I don’t want to go on and on but I want you to know that I love you dearly and your life lives on in all of us.

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Gordon Raman’s Tribute, Son-in-Law

Good morning everyone. For those of you that I have not yet met, my name is Gordon Raman. I am Cathryn’s husband and although I started off as Frank Lodhar’s son-in-law many years ago, I was honoured to know that Dad thought of me as his son.
I remember first meeting Dad when Cath and I were in university. Cath had told me that Dad was a school principal and that he was funny and if he liked me he would joke around with me. Well, lets just say that that first meeting was no joking matter. Dad was about as serious as anyone could have been, and I was as nervous as anyone could have been. I’m not sure what Dad left thinking of our first meeting, but I left thinking that he had a hard exterior and was an incredibly serious man. As I would quickly learn, and as would be reinforced over the past many years, I was simply wrong.
I knew Dad for over 30 years. I knew my own father, or Appa as we called him, for only a few years longer. But for almost half of the time that I knew Appa, I was not an adult. I have known Dad on the other hand for my entire adult life. This has given me a much greater appreciation of what parents in general go through, and what Dad in particular went through, in order raise children, build a relationship with a life partner, navigate a career and generally build a life for your family.
In each of things dad showed love & kindness, patience, determination, and generally strong character.
Love & Kindness: When I think about Love & Kindness, I remember that Dad made a point of recognizing every event with a card. And within each card he would write a note – a heartfelt, kind and loving note that would tell you how much he cared for you and how proud he was of you. If you were to hear Cath and Loreen describe their childhood, what would strike you is how happy they were. The love and kindness that Dad would express in these notes is what Cath and Loreen grew up with from Mom and Dad and what I have come to feel and what our son Sebastian has felt from even before he was born.
Patience: When I think about patience, I’m reminded that Dad comes from a large family, and he is the eldest of all his siblings. Dad was also a school principal, and essentially a shepherd of many kids, teachers, parents and administrators. When you are surrounded by many people, each with a different personality and a specific perspective, it probably wouldn’t surprise you to hear that there can be differences – differences of opinion, differences of taste and just plain differences. Dad had so much patience that allowed him to navigate and help steer thorough all of this to keep cohesion and to help everyone remember the larger goal – whether it be the loving unity of a family or the ultimate welfare of the kids we teach.
Determination: In thinking about determination, I remember how Dad always set high expectations for himself. This was something I had always admired about him and I was grateful that last week I had the chance to actually tell this to him. Not only did Dad manage a teaching career and raise two happy girls, he also at the same time managed to complete his Master of Education Degree at the University of Windsor. Years after his retirement, Dad told me about how he had always been interested in getting a law degree – what was admirable was that when we would expect most people to simply relax during their retirement, Dad proactively studied for and wrote the LSAT and applied to law school.
Character: And finally, when I think about Character, the one thing that to me demonstrated Dad’s strength of character more than anything else was his sense of duty. In Indian mythology there is a story of an epic battle between two groups that are related by blood. The warrior Arjuna struggles with engaging in this battle, and his charioteer who is the divine being Krishna urges Arjuna not to fall into inaction but to do his duty. Performing his duty makes Arjuna a heroic figure. This call to duty was inherent in Dad and he did it heroically of his own accord. When it came to his family, as the eldest of his siblings and in many ways a parental figure, he quietly and lovingly performed what I am sure he felt was his duty – to help his younger siblings arrive in Canada; to share his young family’s home with them and to help them pursue educational opportunities so that they could pursue their own successful lives. He has always done his duty to put family first and to keep the love and unity be what shines through. And in performing this duty he never asked for anything in return. I think though that he did hope for something – and this brings me back to how I was initially wrong about Dad – in his life I think all that Dad hoped for was love, kindness, affection and a hug. Dad I hope that we showed you all these things, and please know that we will always try to show each other these things, and please know in our hearts we feel these things for you each and every day.



Frank’s Tribute – Carl Coolman, Brother-in-Law

Good morning everyone, my name is Carl Coolman, and I am Frank’s brother-in-law. On behalf of Gladys, Cathryn, Loreen, Gordon and Sebastian I welcome everyone present here today, and family & friends visiting us via live stream with Zoom. For those visiting via Zoom, can you wave if we are coming through clearly.
Today as we hear different speakers give tribute to Frank, we will observe the common theme mentioned that is the Four Human Dimensions of Life which is the way that he lived. The four dimensions are: 1. Lived in the Physical; 2. Loved – the emotional; 3. Learned – the cognitive and mental; and 4. Legacy – the imprint that he left with us and for us – the Spirtual.
As we share, don’t be uncomfortable, show and express what you are feeling – with laughing and crying.
I can stand here and say without reservation to Frank, “Frank, you have fought a good, good fight. You have finished your race, and you Kept The Faith.
Here is a poem that hung on the wall beside you and brought you strength and comfort in your darkest times.



FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonging to him and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of his left flashed before him, He looked back at the footprints in the sand and noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times of his life. This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it.
‘Lord, you said that once I decided to follow You, You’d walk with me all the way but I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints. I don’t understand why, when I needed You most You would leave me.’
The Lord replied, ‘My precious, precious child, I love you and I would never leave you. During your times of trial and suffering when you see only one set of footprints it was then that I carried you.’
Carolyn Carty

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR FAMILY
WHEN TOMORROW STARTS WITHOUT ME
When tomorrow starts without me, and I am not here to see
If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me,
I know how much you love me as much as I love you,
And each time you think of me I know you’ll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me please try to understand,
That Jesus came and called my name and took me by the hand.
He said that my place is ready in heaven far above,
And that I have to leave behind all those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away a tear fell from my eye,
For all my life I’d always thought it wasn’t my time to die.
I had so much to live for and so much yet to do,
It seems almost impossible that I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays the good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared and all the fun we had.
If I could have stayed for just a while,
I’d say goodbye and kiss you and maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realise that this could never be,
For emptiness and memories would take the place of me.
And when I thought of wordly things that I would miss tomorrow,
I thought of you and when I did my heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven’s gate and felt so much at home,
As God looked down and smiled at me from his great golden throne.
He said “This is eternity, and all I’ve promised you,
Today your life on earth is past, but here it starts anew.”
“I promise no tomorrow but today will always last,
And since each day’s the same here there’s no longing for the past.”
So when tomorrow starts without me don’t think we’re far apart,
For every time you think of me I’m right here in your heart.
Anon

Song Tribute, Cathryn and Loreen, Daughters

You Raise Me Up


When I am down and, oh my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then, I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up: To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up: To more than I can be.

There is no life – no life without its hunger;
Each restless heart beats so imperfectly;
But when you come and I am filled with wonder,
Sometimes, I think I glimpse eternity.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up: To more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong, when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up: To more than I can be.

You raise me up: To more than I can be.


Dad’s Personally Selected Scripture Passage Request – Psalm 23

23 The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.



Words from Away, Vera Ragbir, Sister
"He was my guide. He was my rock. He raised me up to more than I could be. I love you, my dear brother. Will meet you someday in heaven. Rest in peace. I love you always.” Vera, Sister










Heartfelt Words from Gladys Lodhar, Mom

To My Daughters,
Whenever you feel overwhelmed.
Remember whose daughters you are and straighten your crowns
Be brave have courage
I am always with you
You’ll always be my baby girls
Wrap yourself up in this and consider it a hug from your loving dad
Now and Always

Heartfelt Words from Gladys Lodhar, Spouse

I would like everyone to know that Frank was my soulmate, my friend. We walked side by side through every happy moment, all trials and tribulations. He was my companion, my anchor, my rock, and my heart is broken in ways that only I can understand. However, I will find my strength to carry on from his love that we shared together and is a bond that will never be broken.

Until I see that beautiful smile again, I will forever love you my dear husband, Frank.

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