Reginald Antonio DeMatteis

June 18, 1932April 17, 2021

Reginald Antonio de Matteis, beloved Husband, Father, Brother, Grandfather and Great-grandfather passed away on April 17, 2021.

Reginald was born to Alfredo and Georgette de Matteis on June 18, 1932 in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. He had four siblings Josianne, Patrice, Michael and Marie Berengere. He was preceded in death by his parents and his brother, Patrice.

He received his undergraduate degree at The Catholic University in Washington, D.C. and a Master of Arts from Duke University in Durham, North Carolina. He returned to Haiti to work in the family business, M & S Construction. In Haiti he served as the Consul General for Finland, as well as the Vice Dean of the Consular Corps. An avid musician and cello player, Reginald was a supporter of, and played with, the St. Trinite Orchestra in Haiti and was a board member with the Philharmonic Association in Raleigh, North Carolina.

Following his retirement, he dedicated his life to being a teacher and mentor to young people. Reginald taught French and French Literature at North Carolina State University and at Cardinal Gibbons High School. He was a pioneer and an advocate for the development of women’s and girls soccer around the world. He was involved with the “Tigresse” Women’s soccer team in Haiti, and later in his life, he was a highly successful high school soccer coach in North Carolina. He was the Head Coach of the Varsity Girls soccer team at Cardinal Gibbons High School where he led the team to a State Championship. Subsequently, he was the Head Coach of the Varsity Girls soccer team at Ravenscroft School where he also won a State Championship. He was named the State Coach of the Year by the N.C.S.S.C.A. in 1988, 1989 and 1993. In 2010, Reginald founded International Ballet Academy in Cary and also served as its President and Chairman of the Board.

He married his childhood sweetheart, Carole Madsen. They met at the age of 13 and upon seeing her Reginald announced that he would one day marry her. Reginald and Carole were married for 54 years and were blessed with four children, Florence, Christina, Reginald II and Jean Marc. He loved his 11 grandchildren Stefanie, Jennifer, Gary, Nicole, Christopher, Alexander, Reginald III, Shane, Annalise, Sébastien and Isabelle and his 3 great grandchildren Tucker, Adelaide and Madsen.

Reginald will be remembered for his charm, his wit, his generosity and most of all for his complete devotion to his family.

Funeral Mass for Reginald de Matteis will take place on Friday, May 7th at 10:30am at St. Michael the Archangel Catholic Church in Cary. Masks and social distancing are required.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in his loving memory to Hospital Albert Schweitzer in Haiti at

Arrangements with Brown-Wynne Funeral Home, Cary, NC,


  • Memorial Service

    Friday, May 7, 2021


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Tracy Capella

May 10, 2021

I was deeply saddened and shocked to hear the news about Mr. D passing away. We remained friends after I graduated from NC State and he was always so generous with his time and infinitely interested in people and the world around him.

I am so glad he was able to visit his beloved Haiti before he left this world. My prayers go out to Ms. Carole (Grandmamie) and all his family, for their comfort and peace.

Bon Voyage avec Dieu, Mr. DeMatteis!
Tracy Capella and Family

Shamirah Gray

May 6, 2021

I was heartbroken about the loss of Mr. D he was a great man. He had this spark that would light up a room. I had the pleasure to work with him and Mrs. Carole in 2019 they were the highlight of my days. Over that year I grew to love them both. Mr. D had so much great advice and a heart of gold. He will be truly missed, but forever in our hearts.

Marcelle Lisssade

May 5, 2021

Life in Cary won’t be the same without his support and guidance. He was one of the most caring, loving individual I’ve known. He will be missed.

Sally Herrera

May 4, 2021

I had the pleasure and honor of meeting Reginald while guest teaching at IBA. While there, I always stayed at Reginald and Carole's beautiful home and they were the most gracious hosts anyone could have...he was so genuine, kind and giving. I was always welcomed with arms wide open and hearts full. Every morning we would sit together, coffee in hand, and we would chat. Reginald (and Carole) was always so inquisitive about me, my family, and my life. Every evening we would chat again, insisting I give him a recap of my day at IBA, always so eager to know how my day went. His generosity and zest for life was palpable and I truly adored spending those moments with him. I will miss him very much and wish his entire family my love and condolences.

Bob Roth

May 1, 2021

Our heartfelt condolences to the DeMatteis family. While Reginald will be greatly missed and always treasured, we can learn so much from his life’s work and example. Reginald was first and foremost a champion of the family and, secondly, a champion of the arts – dance, music, language, education, and so much more. He was a builder in the community, not only through his construction company, but also through all of his efforts as a philanthropist and volunteer.

Bob & Luanne Roth