I remember how much you loved the Christmas holidays. They are not the same since you are not here with us. I always just have to always remember the "Real Reason For The Season" and it helps me get through it.  I hope Jesus cradles you in his arms with lots of love. 🙏  HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS

Well today made 5 years since you left us mother. I still miss you so much. Think about you everyday. Went to the cemetery and spoke with you for a while. Hope you could hear my words. I love you always and forever! I know I should be rejoicing and happy about your salvation and rebirth, and be glad you are with grandpa and grandma and the rest of the family, but it's  so hard to be happy today.
XOXO

This when you were young and before thoughts of marriage

Mother it is so hard to believe that today marks 4 years since you left us. I just want you to know that I love you and have missed you everyday. I visit your grave quite often but it's not the same. Since you left I haven't heard from 2 of your sons. I only wish I knew why. Have tried every way possible to talk with them but never a response. You were an awesome mother, and grandmother. I can still hear your voice in my head. Just know you are loved and missed everyday. ❤️

Mother, it's been 3 years today. Miss you bunches and I think of you everyday. Thank goodness I held on to your voice mails. I listen to them often when I want to hear your voice. I think of you and dad everyday. Rest in peace until a we meet again. I love you.
Your daughter, Kathleen

Just wanted to say that you were an AWESOME mother to me, and that I LOVE YOU VERY much.  We will all miss you more than words could ever convey.  But I am thankful that you are no longer in any pain. I do know I will see you again one day. I will hold on to all of my great memories. I hope that I remembered everything you had told me you wanted at your funeral service. I think that I accomplished that goal. It was a beautiful service and you you looked so pretty and at peace. I I know you are probably having quite the BIG family reunion with Grandma & Grandpa and all of the rest of the family. Wish I were there! Remember I Love you and miss you FOREVER! 
Your daughter, Kathy

Bennie James was the most sincere, caring person I've ever met. I've had the honor of taking care of her hair for 30+ years. She was not my client. She was my friend, my family, my mom. She loved me, and I loved her dearly.. She laughed with me. She listened to me. She guide me,  she scolded me. She had the most contagious smile and her laugh; you had to laugh with her.  I'll never forget that laugh..   She will forever be a big part of my past.,.and certainly my future. She helped thru many, many crazy times..  My heart is broke, my heart is heavy for her children, her grandchildren. whom   she loved with all her heart.  
 She was beautiful inside.. And more outside.  She taught me so many things, her kindness, her craziness.. her love, her genuine good heart... I will always have that with me
I Pray for her amazing kids...her grandkids to have Peace And comfort, Just knowing she is certainly an Angel now.
Thank you for sharing your Mama with me!!
❤

The most loving caring person I think I've ever known. Her family was always first her smile was always the brightest and her greetings were always welcome. I will always remember her she has a small place in my heart. My heart goes out to the family for their loss. She's in God's hands now smiling down at all of her children and grandchildren. She will be missed by all.

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Ms Bennie Jean Tafelski James

January 15, 1934 – December 3, 2018

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