Abelina C. Tovar

March 26, 1935June 6, 2018
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Abelina C. Tovar, age 83 of Waelder, Texas, passed away June 6, 2018 in Victoria, Texas.

She was born March 26, 1935 to Florentino and Patricia (Gutierrez) Castro.

She is survived by her husband Ben Tovar, daughters; Milda T. Melchor of Waelder, Elida Hull and husband Gary of Waelder, Olga T. Quintero of Waelder, and Yvonne Zapata of Waelder, sister Julia Garcia of Waelder, thirteen grandchildren, and twenty great-grandchildren.

Abelina is preceded in death by her parents, one grandson David Melchor Jr., three brothers, and one sister.

Pallbearers will be Kevin J. Melchor, Benjamin C. Melchor, Gerald G. Hull, Darrel J. Hull, Darren R. Hull, Brandon C. Hull, Gavin B., Zapata, Bronson C. Zapata, and Paul P. Quintero.


  • Florentino Castro, Father
  • Patricia Gutierrez Castro, Mother
  • Julia Garcia, Sister
  • Ben Tovar, Husband
  • Milda T. Melchor, Daughter
  • Elida Hull, Daughter
  • Gary Hull, Son-in-law
  • Olga T. Quintero, Daughter
  • Yvonne Zapata, Daughter
  • Mrs. Tovar also leaves behind thirteen grandchildren and twenty great-grandchildren. She is also preceded in death by her grandson David Melchor Jr., three brothers, and one sister.

  • Kevin J. Melchor, Pallbearer
  • Benjamin C. Melchor, Pallbearer
  • Gerald G. Hull, Pallbearer
  • Darrel J. Hull, Pallbearer
  • Darren R. Hull, Pallbearer
  • Brandon C. Hull, Pallbearer
  • Gavin B. Zapata, Pallbearer
  • Bronson C. Zapata, Pallbearer
  • Paul P. Quintero, Pallbearer


  • Visitation Sunday, June 10, 2018
  • Rosary Sunday, June 10, 2018
  • Funeral Mass Monday, June 11, 2018
  • Burial Monday, June 11, 2018

Abelina C. Tovar

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Esther Bursiaga

June 9, 2018

Our deepest condolence to the Tovar and Castro Family , May God welcome you home with open arms into Holy Land of Paradise Mrs, Abelina Tovar rest in peace....



To Abelina C. Tovar, the entire world was a stage. An expressive, optimistic, and uninhibited individual, she was a performer in the theater of life. To everyone around her, she seemed to be eternally happy, and she willingly shared that joy with anyone whose life she touched. For Abelina, bringing out the best in any situation was as easy as offering a smile, a witty remark or the twinkle of an eye. And with just those simple gestures, she could evoke the most pleasant of emotions. Abelina really mastered the art of living and had great fun in doing so.

Abelina was born on March 26, 1935 at In her home in Waelder, Texas. Her parents were Florentino and Patricia Gutierrez Castro. Abelina was raised in Waelder, Texas. Even as a child, Abelina had the ability to lift the spirits of all those around her. She was raised to be warm, caring and friendly. She couldn’t help but capture everyone’s attention. She was definitely a little bit of a show off, but in doing so, she succeeded in entertaining her entire family.

Always a good playmate, Abelina was easygoing and fun loving. She managed to lighten the mood wherever she was, even during family squabbles. She seemed to have a knack for bringing compromise and erasing tense situations around the house. Due to a generous dose of common sense, Abelina managed to find a satisfying solution to basic problems. Abelina was raised with five siblings. She had three brothers Pete, Steve, and Florentino Jr., and two sisters Toby and Julia.

Abelina never actually encountered a stranger in her dealings with people. She was drawn to individuals and crowds, using her gregarious, adaptable and outgoing personality to captivate her audience. This quality allowed Abelina to continually develop new relationships, ever widening her circle of friends. Abelina delighted in her role among all her acquaintances, because she viewed them all as potential spectators for her performance. Whether it was a story, a joke, a song or just plain fooling around, Abelina was always right at home putting on a show among her friends. Abelina utilized her interest in others as a great way to connect with them. Later in life, she became friends with Ruby Hernandez, San Juana Tovar, and Delta Fojtik. Abelina loved sharing life and having her home filled with people she knew.

The gift of being emotionally expressive and outwardly affectionate made Abelina very easy to approach. On 1953 Abelina exchanged wedding vows with Ben E. Tovar at old St. Patrick's Catholic Church of Waelder, Texas. She tried hard not to impose on her spouse. She was always sensitive to other people’s feelings, and that was especially true in marriage.

Perhaps the reason Abelina related so well to children was the fact that she never really completely grew up herself. The ability to be just a “kid at heart” helped her in raising her own children. Abelina was blessed with four children, four daughters Milda, Elida, Olga, and Yvonne. They were also blessed with thirteen grandchildren, Angie, Kevin, Benjamin, Gerald, Darrel, Darren, Brandon, Patrick, Victoria, Anabell, Gavin, Bronson, Koryl, and David Jr. (deceased). Abelina had the ability to focus her attention on the present moment. If she was spending time with the kids, that’s where all of her attention was directed. Abelina's compassionate side prevented her from being a strict disciplinarian, and she could turn just about any situation into a playful, learning experience. She could spend hours entertaining them with fun and creative play. In fact, Abelina had a knack for turning some of those nasty old chores into games.

At work, as in life, Abelina was a real “people person.” She had a very successful way of dealing effectively with others, and her enthusiasm and energy was often contagious. Abelina liked to see herself as something of a virtuoso. When dealing with various projects and problems, Abelina was an adaptable realist, using her common sense and trusting her experiences and impulses to uncover the correct answer. Abelina's talent for being a down to earth thinker, allowed many around her to see Abelina as an excellent problem solver. Her primary occupation was a casing puller. She was employed for J Bar B Foods and Holly Farms.

Abelina enjoyed her leisure time by taking part in various hobbies. An “arts and crafts” type, Abelina liked creating and making things. Her favorite pursuits were playing bingo and poker, hanging out with her children and grandchildren, and going dancing with her husband. Abelina was content to enjoy her hobbies alone but was also willing to share her interests with others.

Vested with a deep concern for spiritual development, Abelina recognized that her faith was important to her throughout her life. She was a member of St. Patrick's Catholic Church.

Living life in the fast lane suited Abelina just fine. It is no surprise that she loved to travel and to visit new and different places. She was naturally curious about other parts of the world and loved the real life adventure that came from visiting them. She was impulsive and willing to try anything once. Favorite vacations included Las Vegas and Louisiana.

Abelina believed that you had to experience life, and her life in retirement was no different. When that day finally arrived in 2002, Abelina took it in stride as one more way to have fun. Her new life involved staying in Waelder, Texas. With her boundless energy and a desire to get the most out of life, Abelina remained busy with people and projects. Even in retirement, Abelina continued to stay in touch with her old friends and, since she'd never met a stranger, she made plenty of new acquaintances as well.

Abelina passed away on June 6, 2018 at Hospice of South Texas Center of Compassion in Victoria, Texas. Abelina passed from end stage renal disease. She is survived by her husband Ben, and daughters Milda, Elida, Olga, and Yvonne. Services were held at St. Patrick's Catholic Church. Abelina was laid to rest in Waelder Community Cemetery in Waelder, Texas.

Abelina brought joy to all of those around her. She never had a mean bone in her body. She loved to have a good time and was an eternal optimist, always looking on the bright side of things. She loved to share her energy, wit, and her zest for all of her activities with her friends and family. Abelina C. Tovar lived life to its fullest and made everyone around her happier just for knowing her. She will be remembered with a smile.