Shirley Mae Wendling

January 10, 1935February 19, 2021

Shirley Mae Wendling, age 86, of Indianapolis, Indiana passed away on Friday, February 19, 2021. Shirley was born January 10, 1935 to the late Charles and Rosella Doyle.

She was a loving wife to her husband of 64 years, Donald Wendling, and a loving mother to her 5 children.

In addition to her husband and children, Shirley is survived by 4 grandchildren.

A private Mass of Christian Burial will take place at St. Pius X Catholic Church, where Shirley was a long time parishioner, on February 23rd, 2021.

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Lorine Ward

March 17, 2021

So sorry to hear of the passing of Shirley...we shared many good memories at MIBOR and Womens Council...she was a great lady.
Lorine Ward

Cheryl and Jim Yax

February 25, 2021

Dear Uncle Don, David, Beth, Cathy, Nancy and Suzanne
Our hearts and thoughts are with you during this time of sorrow. Please know that you are not alone in remembering all our shared family events such wonderful memories are locked in our mind and hearts forever. So blessed has our lives been to be “FAMILY”. Now Aunt Shirley is laughing with daddy and the rest of the gang!!!

All love Cheri, Jim, Anita, Julie and Palynn, Steve and family

Antoinette Purcell, OSB

February 23, 2021

I first met Shirley when I was new Director of Religious Education at Holy Spirit Parish, Indianapolis in 1977. Her husband, Don, was one of the catechists for religious education at the parish, a role he agreed to continue if I would find him an audience for teaching yoga which he really wanted to do. I found him an audience and became one of his yoga students along with another Benedictine Sister. We kept in touch through the years . It was always a joy to share time with Shirley and Don even if it was only for a brief few moments. I admired the loving relationship they shared. Shirley always struck me as a person who knew herself quite well and liked herself. I think it was because she was so convinced of God's love for her that she exuded love and touched others with a joyful, loving spirit. I know she will be greatly missed by Don and the family and all who knew her. I personally will be holding her, Don and all who loved her in prayer as she adds her gracious presence to the heavenly choir.

Linda Hollyman

February 23, 2021

My thoughts and prayers go out to Don and family during this difficult time. I know all of you have wonderful memories to cherish. Shirley was a wonderful person and will be truly missed. So lucky to have known her.

Cindy Wendling Sanborn

February 23, 2021

Dear Uncle Don and family. I was so sorry to hear about Aunt Shirley’s passing. It’s been a while since I’ve seen any of you but I will always remember her with a smile on her face. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Mary Weber

February 22, 2021

Don, Gary and I are with you in spirit and will call next week. Oh, what wonderful memories we have of travels with you and Shirley. One that really stands out in my mind is the evening in Boyne City, Michigan, when we saw fish jumping out of the lake and trying to understand what we were witnessing! Then the wonderful discovery of learning that the jumping fish were salmon! What adventures we had after that travelling to Petowsky to see them again and learning all about spawning! We treasure the times spent with you and Shirley and meeting your wonderful son and daughters and their families. We consider you family and carry you in our thoughts and prayers during this time of loss. Love, Mary Weber and Gary Meister

Linda Ingmire

February 22, 2021

Dear Uncle Don, David , Beth, Cathy, Nancy, and Suzanne

Our hearts ache for your loss, and we are sending you all our love
and wishes for comfort. I can remember after moving back from
Montana and Aunt Shirley showing us homes for sale.
It was a wild and crazy day, but we had such fun! I will always
remember her beautiful laugh as well. Family means everything,
so please know we are here for you! Love, Linda, Steve, John
and Dawn's family

Kaye Hirt Eggleston

February 22, 2021

Shirley was a wonderful friend, partner, REALTOR, and birthday buddy. Her birthday was on the 10th, and mine the 8th, so we shared birthday lunches at Sakura for many years! She received many honors--President of MIBOR Board of Directors, charter member and President of the REALTOR Foundation, President of the Indianapolis Chapter of the Women's Council of REALTORS, to name a few. We were business partners for seven years. Many well-deserved awards also came her way. But her true joy came from being a mother to five children and grandmother to her four grandchildren. She and Don shared many interesting and delightful years together--Shirley will be greatly missed! Rest well, my friend!

Joe McDonald

February 22, 2021

Sincere condolences to the Wendling family on the loss of this precious lady. .Shirley was my mentor, friend, colleague and a leader in the Metro Indy Real Estate Community. Always using honey and a smile as she successfully paved the way for scores of agents in this industry. It was my great pleasure to work along side of her and I’m so grateful to call her my friend. RIP Shirley. With love, Joe Mac

Steve Feltner

February 21, 2021

Shirley was a very precious friend of my Mom and Dad. She was the sweetest and kindest friend of my parents I remember as a child and a teenager. She was always smiling. Always!! We have lost a beautiful person here on Earth but Heaven has gained an angel. Don, and your family, we are thinking of you and praying for you at this time. —-Steve and Candy Feltner