Jay Anthony Perrin

December 1, 1919November 19, 2018

December 1, 1919 - November 19, 2018

J. A. Perrin, 98 years of age, was born to John and Clella (Boultinghouse) Perrin on December 1, 1919 in Afton OK. His parents gave him initials at the time of his birth, but after converting to Catholicism in his 20s, he chose the name, Jay Anthony. He grew up on the family farm in Afton, until his family moved to the Kansas City, MO area. Jay's five siblings Electa, Myrtle, Joseph Wesley, Ida and Edward have preceded him in death.

Jay's family moved several times throughout his childhood. He attended Bristol Elementary School and graduated from Northeast High School. Jay worked hard all his life and in his early years had a variety of jobs, including being a steward for Greyhound Bus Lines, grocery delivery boy, carpenter's helper, receiving/shipping clerk, and assistant manager at Katz Drug Company.

Jay met his future wife, Frances Lorenz, thru his sister, Ida, and after a short courtship, they married on November 29, 1941. He joined the United States Army Air Force on March 23, 1943 and served until February 16, 1946. While his wish was to serve overseas, he was assigned Instructor responsibilities teaching new recruits such skills as typing, Morse code, and radar. After honorable discharge, Jay resumed his position with Katz Drug Co. He and Frances moved to Independence MO, where they raised a family of 6. After leaving Katz, he worked as a milkman for Country Club Dairy. One of his favorite stories was telling of the time he went to the home of Harry S. Truman to ask for his business. President Truman was very kind and told him he was with another dairy, but if he ever decided to change, it would be to Country Club Dairy. His final career choice was Warehouse Management with Kansas City Terminal Warehouse. But, it was his next position with Donahue Sales Corporation in 1970 that had a huge impact on Jay and his family. After living in Missouri their entire life, Jay and Frances, with 3 of their daughters, were transferred to Milford, CT. While it was a culture shock, Jay excelled in the position. After the company was sold, his next and final position was with Offray Ribbon. He retired in 1988.

After their transfer to Connecticut in 1970, Jay's career choices involved moves to Bolingbrook, IL, Memphis, TN and Olive Branch, MS. In 1981, they moved back to Independence, MO. While raising their children, Jay and Frances participated in many activities at St. Mary's Parish. They enjoyed their time as members of St. Mary's High School Booster Club, where Jay drove the bus for the St. Mary's High School football team and Frances worked the concession stand. As members of the booster club, he and Frances loved to join friends in card games and dances. Jay had spent his youth hunting & fishing with friends & family and this passion continued for years after his retirement.

On November 19, 2018, Jay passed peacefully at the Cameron, MO Veterans Home. He is survived in death by his son Ray, his daughters Judy (Dale) Weatherford, Janice (Tim) Holmes, Rebecca Lynch, Barbara (Dave) Wheaton and Geralyn Perrin. Jay loved his grandchildren: Andrea (Kevin) Peterson, John (Staci) Perrin, Justin Perrin, Jason (Jill) Holmes, Megan (Alan) Weis, Brian (Emily) Holmes, Brandon Weatherford, Brooke (Tim) Murphy, Brent (Gerri) Weatherford, Melissa Lynch, Mallory Wheaton, Kellen Wheaton, Gregory Treinen, Rory ( Mandy) Broughton, and Hayley Perrin. Jay is also survived by his great-grandchildren: Logan, Quinton, Jordan, Karley, Alex, Cameron, Oliver, Maddie, Ellie, Jay, Olivia, Chase, Reagan, Alana, Delaney, Sloan, Brody and Brock.

His cremains will be buried in a private ceremony at Woodlawn Cemetery. In honor of his legacy, family and friends will celebrate his life at a later date. In lieu of flowers or donations, perform a random act of kindness in Jay's name.


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Mindy Sanders

November 30, 2018

What a full life he led! I can’t imagine moving 3 children around that much...and providing for a family of 8 over time, wow. My heart goes out to all who loved him. This is all heartbreaking to read but also such a beautiful tribute. Grampa Jay was so sweet and always seemed happy-go-lucky. I remember my son Emit crawling up on his lap at one of the Holmes’ New Years gatherings. He embraced Emit as if he was his own grandchild, chatting with him & snuggling up in his Husker blanket. Whenever I spent time around Grampa Jay and Frances (I only knew her as “mother” or “grandmother”), I recall noticing how they were both so respected by everyone, and, I remember how they were both always dressed up so nice too! But while they seemed so dignified, at the same time they were such pleasant, lovely down to earth people...and so impressively alert in their later years! The two of them seemed to be a wonderful pair and it’s comforting to think of them now together in God’s grace. Most of all, I want to say that they left a group of amazing, truly “good” people behind. Perhaps the greatest of Jay’s life achievements is that which he accomplished together with Francis, raising their children right and leaving a legacy of love that will carry on through future generations.
Grampa Jay, RIP as you join your heavenly family. Sending much love & prayers for all who loved him.


November 21, 2018

I recently met Jay at CVH as I started a new job Oct 17 2018
In activities dept pt
I remember Jay telling me he was soon to be 99
& hoped it to be his last birthday.
When I heard that
I understood but hoped To make it his best last birthday ever!
I found out today he was no longer with us.
My excitemwnt for his last birthday shattered
As it was just days away
Id looked or shopped for the perfect card
Wondered what Jay might want or need
The cake he might most enjoy?
Pie? Was it coconut cr pie like my Grandpa Cecil liked
Or cupcakes?
Im sad but happy for him
Yet veey sad for not a few more days
Y so soon after we met
Y not just a few more days
Wasnt asking for yrs
It would of hurt so much more
I miss him already
Ole buddy
C u someday
I hope u remember me