William Robert Illing Jr.

March 2, 1947December 22, 2016

CDR WILLIAM ROBERT ILLING JR of Leawood, Kansas, beloved husband, father and friend peacefully passed away at home December 22nd 2016. Memorial service will be held 10:00 am, January 20th at Church of the Resurrection, Wesley Chapel Bldg C, 13720 Roe Ave., Leawood, KS. Interment following 2:30 pm at Ft Leavenworth National Cemetery. Bill was born in Evansville, Il, March 2rd 1947. His family moved to St. Louis, MO, where he graduated from Kirkwood High School in 1965. Bill attended The University of Missouri on a Navy ROTC scholarship and enjoyed membership in the Phi Gamma Delta fraternity. While at MU, he met Patty, whom he married in the fall of 1969. The newlyweds moved to Pearl Harbor where Bill was assigned to the USS Impervious. In addition, Bill worked with Vietnam veterans in the mental health field and completed his MS in Psychology at the University of Hawaii. After retiring from active duty, he and Patty moved back to KC. Bill remained involved with the Naval Reserves. He worked for Johnson County Mental Health while finishing up his PHD in psychology at UMKC. Bill embarked on a career change accepting a position at KCPL and went on to completed his MBA at Rockhurst. Additional employment included Wolf Creek Nuclear Company, Utilities Service Alliance, Black and Veatch, and the Institute for Nuclear Power Operations. Bill embraced each new job with an enthusiasm and excitement that were a hallmark of his personality. During his lifetime, Bill embraced many hobbies and passions with a gusto rarely seen; beer-making, music, watching Chiefs & MU football, love of dogs, painting and creating numerous Change manuals. He was an avid reader, extensive traveler and embellished storyteller. Bill was a busy and entertaining man. Bill is survived by his wife, Patty Illing, three children, Robert Illing, Annie Williams, Malia (and Jason) Hatley, and four grandchildren, Mason, Ellie, Lilly, and Raley. Bill’s laughter, optimistic outlook and witty sense of humor will be deeply missed by those who knew and loved him. . In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Phi Gamma Delta Educational Foundation % Rick Stauffer PO Box 221313 St. Louis, MO 63122 Condolences may be left online at Arrangements, McGilley State Line Chapel, 12301 State Line Road, Kansas City, MO. 64145, (816)942-6180.


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Mark Skuce

April 20, 2017

Mrs. Illing: I am sorry to hear of Bill's passing, which I learned of only recently. I met Bill through work when the firm I work for was a member of the Utilities Service Alliance. I remember his sharp mind and wit, and his love of family. My condolences, Mark Skuce

Dale Warman

February 11, 2017

I'm sorry we couldn't attend the service as Bill was a mentor, role model and friend to me when I went to Pin Oaks. His humor would make everyone laugh and feel comfortable. He is truly responsible for my accomplishments as he saw more in me than I did. I hope to see him again,.

Jerry Evans

February 7, 2017

Patty, I'm sorry I didn't learn of Bill's passing until today. Karin and want you to know how very sad this makes us. I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you and your kids. Bill was one of my best friends. More like a brother really. I will miss him terribly even though we hadn't spent a lot of time together in the last few years. He always brought light and energy into others life including mine. No matter what we were doing at KCPL or tasks we worked on together independent from KCPL both before and after retirement he brought the creativity of a genius and the excitement of a little boy to every project and activity. I so glad I knew him.
Jerry and Karin Evans

Leslie Richards

January 22, 2017

Patty and family, Bill was a very much loved member of the 1965 class of Kirkwood High and his friends here in the St. Louis area will be very saddened to learn of his passing. He corresponded with the class and we kept up with his life. Gone way too soon, and a valued member of our group, which to this day is still very close in many ways. We have a great Kansas City area group and I'm sure they will miss him too. Blessings and condolences to you all,
Leslie Vander Meulen Richards

Ken Kelly

January 19, 2017

Bill was a generous man. Twice he shared his vast music collection (ipod) with me when my ipod was stolen. I listen to his selections everyday. I think of him.

I also recall a fun vacation with Bill, slumming it in a dive hotel in downtown Vegas, the Gold Spike. It was heaven . . . $1 well drinks at the bar and 50c beer draws. Memories.

Owen Clayton

January 19, 2017

Dear Patty and family, I met Bill while working for the Utilities Service Alliance. He was a great person, very intelligent and a great source of humor. He was dedicated to all of his work assignments and was an inspiration to many, including myself. God now has a great spirit in heaven! We will miss him until we see him again. Owen "Jay" Clayton, Omaha, NE

Terry Garrett

January 19, 2017

Dear Patty and family, I got to know Bill through my involvement with Utilities Service Alliance and while I worked an INPO. Bill was always good with organizing a group for lunch - I enjoyed several lunch outings with Bill in Atlanta. We always enjoyed Bill's stories and humor. I will miss him.

Terry Garrett

Edeen Martin

January 18, 2017

I will never forget visiting Patty and Bill and baby Malia at their home in Grandview in the early 1970's. They had just come back from Hawaii and I was about to set out for my first trip there. We laughed and talked until the wee hours of the morning and they told me exactly what to wear and buy, where to go and how to behave.
Such a loving couple to each other and all they knew.

My warmest thoughts for Patty and Bill's family.

January 18, 2017

To the family of Bill Illing,
Although I never got to know you l was best friends with Bill from the time he moved to Kirkwood through college. I want you to know how much fun Bill was back in the day. Parties exponentially become me more fun
When Bill arrived. I have so many outstanding memories of coming of age along with Bill. Football practices( we were both bench warmers),double dating, little Sherwood,our secret place in the woods where
we'd sneak cigs, New Years Eve parties at my house and listening to Bob Dylan and other folk artists together. When Bill went Mizzou
and I went to Westminster College we spent many a weekend at each other's frat houses ( I was a Sigma Chi). With all the fun aside, Bill and I had many conversations about the meaning of life. As it turned out I became a
Presbyterian pastor for the past 44 years.
Believe it or not I became the man I am
to a degree because of my relationship with Bill. I can't imagine growing up without him as a dear friend during those formative years.He was the best!
Joe Marting

January 18, 2017

Dear Patty,
Heartfelt sympathy and condolences to you and your family. Best regards,
Vigdis and Ron Taylor