Carla A. Kirsh

August 21, 1943January 4, 2019

Carla A. Kirsh of Marlow, NH died on January 4, 2019 as a result of injuries sustained in a single-car accident on January 2, 2019.

She was born in Philadelphia, PA and raised in the Philadelphia area. She earned her bachelor’s degree and master’s degree from Temple University. Carla initially worked at a psychiatric hospital and later at another facility in Philadelphia.

In the early 1970’s she began to work with Vietnam veterans and observed symptoms among them, which are now recognized as signs of post-traumatic stress disorder. At the time, no such diagnosis existed.

In 1978, Carla came to Keene and was employed by the Monadnock Area Family Services (MFS). She created and implemented a clinical program that included outreach and coordination of services for individuals age 60 and over. Two years later, she developed the Emergency Services Program at MFS and became its’ director. During this time, she began seeing veterans coming to the agency and in 1981, she started a group for combat veterans.

Carla wrote the contract for MFS allowing the agency to receive contracted services from the Veteran’s Center. She continued to provide individual and group counseling to veterans and their significant others, including those who experienced sexual assault during their time in the military.

The veteran’s program was disbanded once the Department of Veteran’s Affairs opened a clinic in Keene for services. Due to her experience and knowledge of PTSD, in 1995, Carla was asked to present at the first World Mental Health Conference in Dublin, Ireland.

Carla also provided counseling for individuals with a variety of mental health issues. She met with survivors of sexual abuse and was the first in the area to start a group for survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

From 2000 – 2001, she worked with MFS and the Cheshire Medical Center in developing a triage system.

Her primary focus in her practice was Dialectical Behavior Treatment (DBT). She became a DBT trainer and trained MFS and mental health staff statewide. She was the first to start DBT groups within the state.

Carla’s formal training addresses part of her success. Beyond her training, Carla possessed keen intuition, a well-honed ability to synthesize ideas, personal warmth and a wonderful sense of humor. It is no wonder that in 2014 Carla was honored by the Keene Sentinel’s annual Extraordinary Women Event for her outstanding service to the people of the Monadnock Region.

As a gifted therapist, Carla will be remembered as empathetic and nonjudgmental; as a human being she will be remembered as a compassionate, fun-loving, intelligent and generous of spirit.

Carla will be missed by her son and daughter-in-law, Gordon and Diane Kirsh of Marlow; her friends; and her many clients whose life she touched.

A celebration of Carla’s life will be held on Saturday, January 26, 2019 at 1:00PM in the Keene Unitarian Universalist Church, 69 Washington Street, Keene. It would be nice for those attending to wear something purple as this was Carla’s favorite color.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to MFS Client Services Fund, c/o Monadnock Family Services, 17 93rd Street, Keene, NH 03431.


  • MFS Client Services Fund


  • Memorial and Celebration of Life Service Saturday, January 26, 2019

Carla A. Kirsh

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Hester Heath

February 2, 2019

Carla helped me through some of my hardest times and saved me, many times over. Although I last saw her many years ago she was the kind of person you carry in your heart, remember often and warmly and always wish the best for. The world will forever be a little less colorful, a little less loving and with fewer laughs without her in it.

Sending my deepest condolences to her friends and family during this difficult time.

Donald Flibotte

January 23, 2019

Carla was surely my guiding angel helping me threw my PTSD from a tour in Vietnam in 1967-1968 . Also I was going threw a divorce at the same time . Carla worked with our Nam groups showing us how to work threw our problems ether in a group or one on one meetings . Carla saved so many of us in the 90s ! Prayers and happy memories for Gordon and his family . May you rest in peace Carla !
Donald Flibotte

Emily Franzen-Langa

January 23, 2019

It was a joy to work with Carla at MFS. She was a devoted therapist and will be greatly missed.

Melissa Magaletta

January 17, 2019

I had the great pleasure and good fortune of knowing Carla many years ago when she first came to New Hampshire to work at Monadnock Family Services. Immediately it was evident that she was a very special person...very giving, very insightful and completely dedicated to the healing of others who had dealt with severe trauma.
I am so very, very sorry to learn of this loss and I extend my deepest sympathy to her beloved son Gordon and to his wife at this very difficult time.

Linda De Santis

January 10, 2019

I worked with Carla for years.
Carla was simply wonder with everyone she met and worked with. Always smiling and there for everyone. Carla touched may lives and will be missed very much. Rest in Peace Carla

Betty McCauley

January 9, 2019

I am so sorry for your loss. Carla was a very special person. If it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t be here now. She saved my life. She was always caring and loving. I will miss her Very much.

Sarah Bunyard

January 9, 2019

Thank you for sharing your mother with the world. To some she was a saint. To others a guardian, a mentor, a leader, savior, a cherished friend. To me she will always be the most important person in my life. Sometimes grumpy, mostly giving and loving, always a challenge in a good way and never boring. She was so very very loved.