Mary A Hayes

July 16, 1933April 8, 2018

HAYES - Mary A. (nee Howard) April 8, 2018. Beloved wife of 60 years to Dr. W. Merrick Hayes Jr.; dear mother of W. Merrick Hayes III, Katherine (Robert) Meyer, and Jeffrey (Melinda) Hayes; grandmother to five grandchildren; sister of Dr. William J. (Mary Jane) Howard. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Thursday May 31st at 9:30 AM at St. Rose of Lima Church, Parkside and Parker Ave., Buffalo. Flowers are gratefully declined, if desired contributions in Mary’s memory may be made to Northgate Healthcare Center Patient Activity Fund, 7264 Nash Rd., North Tonawanda, NY 14120, c/o Carla Marsh. Share condolences at:



  • Mass of Christian Burial Thursday, May 31, 2018


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Jane Graves-Kirby

May 6, 2018

I grew up sailing with Mary and Merrick Hayes, baby sat their youngest son, played at the beach with their kids....These two beautiful people were dear friends of my parents, Bob and Swanie Graves...they were a part of the little sailing club they called "the crew"....they all had such fun together and no doubt they are all having a cocktail together with those that went before them...we miss them all and their love of life, fun and laughter. God love them all. Our thoughts and prayers are with the lose both parents is a strange feeling....I know how it feels however I believe that the love and memories will sustain you all.
Fondly, Jane (Graves) and Mark Kirby

Joan Willard Gruen

April 15, 2018

To Mary's children and grandchildren,
You mother was one gracious, kind, fun lady I have known for 70 years. I will miss her very much. We went through a lot together. She was never "down", but always realistic.
You have my thoughts and sympathy
Joan Willard Gruen