Robert J. Abelson

January 26, 1927February 20, 2014

Arrangements under the direction of Bernheim-Apter-Kreitzman Suburban Funeral Chapel, Livingston, NJ.


  • Funeral Service Sunday, February 23, 2014

Robert J. Abelson

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Christopher and Julitsa Fleming

April 14, 2014

To Joan and Family,
It's Christopher and Julitsa Fleming reaching out to remember Bob in countless ways. I can't recall exactly when our parents connected but it surely was through Brooks or Sealfonds in Summit...Joan you remember, probably working with Ginny...oh if I could have heard just a tiny bit of what you two gals said working together. I think that's the first place I would have met Bob as I was a stock Boy working at Both places, Brooks being the store before Sealfonds, I talking late 1970's. Who knows how many times the two couples got together, how many times Bob and Joan got together with the Flemings for dinner at their house on Mountain Ave in Summit, met the Fritzes and Spencers I'd suppose, tow couples dear to my parents and so natural to introduce Joan and Bob. I would have been on the edges vicariously enjoying these folks enjoying each other, great times. Later on as I matured Bob and Joan always kept in touch no matter where I might be, mainly through my parents and dam if they didn't always know an opportunity to connect when our orbits intersected. Bob, such a sweet guy, intelligent to say the least, thoughtful, listening, kind and interested, interested in others...he really wanted to know how someone was doing, where were you going, what was on the horizon for you, so refreshing a person. I remember times when my parents had been living out west and I returning to the east coast to study at The Art Students League, literally drop the thoughts of continuing in medicine to do what I was at the core of my being, Bob and Joan made themselves known, a few times we got together. It was very clear that they always had an interest in the well-being of their friends meant a huge amount to me. In a way I found myself also reciprocating for my parents at some point, checking in between lengthy periods of time with Bob and Joan say when I would travel east for a portrait commission from Hawaii where Julitsa had I relocated...having a hour or so at the Abelson's was like going home...I mean how can a man be so warm ? He was, dearly so. Well I could go on perhaps, lord Bob would know how I have The Gift of The Gab ( Irish ) but I think the feeling is transmitted and thought Bob was not officially a teacher, in the Japanese sense, he is nevertheless a Master in every sense by action, a person we can always refer too as we carry on in life. In the Japanese sense of this it is said we find ourselves now standing upon his shoulders since he is even more so supporting our life...I am very fortunate to have met Bob and been a son of a friend of his, the benefits are great. He remains in my thoughts and my heart regardless of his forward movement ahead of mine, he is simultaneously supportive here and beyond, I am doubly lucky because he will be receiving me later on among a great nucleus of love. Joan ... Julitsa and I are so sorry for your loss, partners for 62 years says something few , so many more few perhaps these days, can imagine fast it is and yet how wide and long the eyes squint to see the edges of such a marvelous journey together !!! We love you Joan, Squeeze the heck outtah you we do sobbing like babies. Love you !!!! Love Bob !!! Wish we could be there, oh and the meet this family of yours too !!!! XXXOOO

Renae Tesauro

March 11, 2014

My condolences to Joan and the entire Abelson Family. Bob was a wonderful human being, a true gentleman and an ambassador of good will for many charitable organizations. His good deeds will go down in history. With sincere condolences for your loss.

February 26, 2014

So sorry to hear of your loss. May God
bless you and your family. Throw your
burden on Him because He cares for you. He is the God of comfort and wants to help you at this difficult

February 25, 2014

My heartfelt sympathy goes out to your family at this most difficult time. Be assured that God will help you cope with the heavy weight of your loss. Psalms 68:19 states that God daily carries our load.

Michael Lapone

February 24, 2014

A very special man. God Bless.

Diane Reid

February 23, 2014

Bobbie was a dear friend to me , I will miss him deeply. My condolences Joan and family

February 23, 2014

Very sorry that I lost touch with Bob in recent years. Wonderful, thoughtful guy.
My sympathies. Ernie Sciutto

February 23, 2014

Joan and family - We were so sorry to hear about Bob. He always was a kind and friendly man. He will be missed in the neighborhood. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Vince and Joyce Luzzi

Sharon Jairdullo

February 23, 2014

During my time at Sage I always enjoyed our conversations. He was a genuinely nice guy who cared deeply about making a difference and embraced his volunteering. I was very sad to hear this news. My condolences to Joan and his family.

Louise Rubey

February 22, 2014

To the Abelson family. My condolences to all of you. Mr A was a wonderful person. Hang on to your memories with him. I'm sure they will bring you comfort . You all now have a guardian angel ??