Jean deSales Barrett
October 28, 1922 – November 24, 2018
Jean deSales Barrett, nee Dugan, age 96, died at home on November 24, 2018 after a long and productive life. She was predeceased in 1998 by Thomas, her husband of 51 years. Born October 28, 1922, and raised in the Hell’s Kitchen neighborhood of Manhattan, Jean graduated from St. Michael’s High School on West 33rd Street and received her bachelor’s degree from Ladycliff College in Highland Falls, NY. Jean worked during her college summers teaching swimming and organizing competitive swim meets for the New York City Department of Parks and Recreation. After college, Jean taught math and science at Highland Falls High School while attending graduate school in physics at Fordham University. Many of her students at Highland Falls High School were World War II veterans returning to earn their diplomas. She met Thomas in his native Highland Falls following his graduation from Columbia University. They married in 1947 and Jean devoted her considerable energy to raising their son and six daughters, first in Middletown, NY, then in Cresskill, NJ, followed by Jamesville, NY.
In Jamesville, while continuing her post-graduate education at Syracuse University, Jean returned to teaching math at Jamesville-DeWitt Middle School from 1968 through 1980 and finished her teaching career at Jamesville-DeWitt High School in 1985. She was an active volunteer at Vera House in Syracuse, a shelter for survivors of domestic violence. Jean and Thomas retired to Spring Lake, NJ, where she was a daily communicant at St. Margaret’s Church, an avid player of tennis and golf and a member of the borough recreation committee. In her sixth decade, she picked up running and completed the Spring Lake Five Mile Run. After her husband’s death, she moved to Fairway Mews in Spring Lake Heights where she shot a hole-in-one on the 10th hole on June 8, 2002. She walked the boardwalk five miles a day and rode her bike to the beach until she was almost 90, and regularly played bridge into the last year of her life.
Jean is survived by her seven children: Jean (David Ruhnke) of Montclair, NJ, Mary of Rochester, NY, Eileen (Elissa Dennis) of Oakland, CA, Patricia of Spring Lake Heights, NJ, Ursula (Charles Miller) of San Diego, CA, Thomas (Mary Ellen Hornik) of Sayville, NY and Monica (Alexis Frazier) of Brooklyn, NY; seven grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.
Visiting hours will be from 4 to 7, Friday, November 30th at the Neary-Quinn Funeral Home, 39 South Street, Manasquan, NJ. A funeral Mass will be celebrated at St. Catharine R.C. Church, Spring Lake at 10:30 a.m. on December 1, followed by interment at St. Catharine Cemetery, Sea Girt.
Instead of flowers, the family requests that donations in Jean’s name be made to any of the following worthy organizations: the Youth Sentencing Re-Entry Project (https://www.ysrp.org), the Oakland to East Bay Scholarship for Oakland students attending Cal State East Bay (https://www.csueastbay.edu/giving/make-gift.html) (select Oakland to East Bay Scholarship), the Marine Mammal Stranding Center in Brigantine, NJ (https://mmsc.org) and Vera House, Syracuse, NY (verahouse.org).
- Friends and Family Gathering Friday, November 30, 2018
- Memorial Mass Saturday, December 1, 2018
- Entombment Saturday, December 1, 2018
Jean deSales Barrett
November 29, 2018
Jean,Mary, Eileen,Patty,Ursula, Tom and Monica
It was very sad to hear about the passing of your mother. She was an amazing and accomplished woman. I spent half my life in that home with you guys. So many great memories. She was a wonderful influence on me and my family. I am so very sorry for your loss. Eleanor Schroder Kelly
November 29, 2018
Jean, Mary, Eileen, Patty, Ursula, Tom, Monica and family-
I am so saddened by the loss of your mother. She was a great lady and a strong influence in my life, and those in my family. She taught me, tutored me, picked on me - in good fun (if her morning paper wasn't delivered before 6am), and made lasting impressions upon me.
She was a strong, tough, sharp, outgoing, athletic woman who was passionate about education. Your mother, and the way she raised you all, was the gold standard by which my mother tracked our growth and behaviors as kids. The Schroders are grateful for the influence that your parents had in our lives!
You and your extended family are in our thoughts and prayers.
-Chip Schroder (Manlius, NY)