Lillian Wiles

December 26, 1919September 18, 2018

Lillian Wiles, 98 Madison, CT

Lillian (“Lil” or “Lilly”) of Madison, CT entered heaven peacefully on September 18, 2018. Lil was passionately devoted to her family, her God, her friends, her neighbors, and her work colleagues. Her good natured, strong willed, and resilient personality served her well. She had a youthful fun loving personality and made many friends during her 98 years of life on earth. Lillian was born in New York City the day after Christmas in 1919. She grew up with five brothers. Lil graduated from Julia Richmond High School. Lilly worked for S.S. Kreeger from 1939 - 1956. She moved to Rumson, NJ in July of 1956. Lillian then worked the rest of her career in the banking industry for Merchants Trust which later became PNC bank. After living most of her life in NJ, she moved to CT in 2012 to be closer to family. Lillian Ragonese married her longtime sweetheart Stephen R. Wiles on July 1, 1956 at Blessed Sacrament Church in New York City. It had been over 60 years since Lil saw her husband, and their reunion in heaven must have been amazing. Devotion has mainly forms and synonyms. Love and care are two forms of devotion. Lil loved her family deeply. Like a healthcare professional with a big heart, she took fabulous care of her husband Steve, mother Grace, and uncle Charlie who were all suffering from various illnesses. When her younger brother Sal had a highly contagious illness as a child, Lil disregarded the quarantine sign on Sal’s bedroom door in order to help her Mother take care of him. Another form of devotion is loyalty. Lillian was extremely loyal and committed to family relationships. Her parents Grace and Salvatore, and brothers Sal, Anthony, Lenny, Henry, and Joseph were very important to Lil. She always made time to babysit her nephews, nieces, grandnieces, and grandnephews. If “being there for your family” was an Olympic sport, Lil would have won many gold medals. Lil had many hobbies. Her enthusiasm for the beach, food, cooking, and photography was huge. The beach was where you could find her on most summer weekends. She frequented beaches like Edgewater, Trade Winds, and Ship Ahoy. Her famous tan reflected her many hours in the sun (and her wonderful Italian roots). Lillian’s appetite was famous among her family. At age 90, she could still out eat people twice her size and half her age. She was a passionate cook and her eggplant parmesian could be smelled from a mile away. Lilly loved to photograph family and friends. She took thousands of photos. We all remember seeing stars after Lil took many pictures with her blue flash cubes. Lillian’s faithfulness and volunteering for others was always the central part of her life. She volunteered extensively for her church. Her spirituality is also captured in this passage:


Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there, I do not sleep

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glints on snow

I am the sunlight on ripened grain,

I am the gentle autumn rain

When you awaken in the morning hush,

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight,

I am the soft stars that shine at night

Do not stand at my grave and cry,

I am not there, I did not die.

All are welcome to join Lil’s family at her wake and funeral service. Please see details below.

WAKE Friday, 9/21/18 from 4-7pm. Neary Quinn Funeral Home 39 South Street Manasquan, NJ. 08736 Phone: 732.223.0003

FUNERAL Saturday, 9/22/18 at 10am Holy Cross Church 30 Ward Avenue Rumson, NJ 07760 Phone: 732.842.0348

Memorial contributions can be made to the Alzheimer’s Association. The link is Better yet, please ring their 24/7 Helpline at 1.800.272.3900. Your donations will be such a beautiful way to help others and also to honor Lil’s life.

Please share any of your memories in Lillian’s guest page. Here is her link:

Jody Paul Ragonese Cell: 860.227.1883 Work: 860.744.0000 Email:

*Wishing you a positive and healthy day!


  • Visitation Friday, September 21, 2018
  • Funeral Mass Saturday, September 22, 2018
  • Committal Service Saturday, September 22, 2018

Lillian Wiles

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Mary Eagan

September 21, 2018

Lillian and I were dear friends, we shared a love of family and friends and service to our God. She was full of love and life, enjoyed a sunny day sitting near the pool at the beach and a savored a great meal with friends and family. I have great memories with her that include going went up to her brother Sal 's home to celebrate with them Saint Patrick / Saint Joseph day - we had FUN! Other memories include going with her to her beach club and enjoying a night of music and a delicious BQ and sharing night of music and a delicious dinner at Mia's a restaurant near her in Oceanport, again it was fun. We both loved Christmas and since her birthday was just after I often had a few of her friends over for a little party to celebrate both her birthday and Christmas. I have missed he since she moved but she is often been in my thoughts and prayers. I am so grateful and know Lil was too for the care and love she received from Sal and Jody and the family. I trust she is at peace and I look forward to our meeting again one day and enjoying the banquets in heaven.

Cherie Ragonese

September 20, 2018

Our most dear Aunt Lil, so generous with her love for her family. Always there to care for others and did it in a way no one else could - from the heart and with abundant kindness. She lived a life that set strong moral and Christian values for her nephews, nieces and their children ensuring goodness in the world. A beautiful, wonderful woman with utmost honesty and integrity. She was always the highlight of holiday gatherings and was elated to be with family. She was one of those rare and special individuals and I feel truly fortunate and blessed to have had her in my life. My comfort in her passing is knowing she is finally with the souls of those she loved most.