April 8, 1940 – March 5, 2020
Patricia Zyla, 79, of Toms River, NJ, passed away on Thursday March 5, 2020, with her son and caregiver by her side. Born Passaic, NJ, Patricia lived in Wood Ridge before moving to Toms River 23 years ago. Patty was a homemaker and always took care of her family and everyone around her. Often putting others before herself, she was selfless when it came to helping and lending a hand.
Patricia was predeceased by her devoted husband Richard in 2017. She is survived by her loving son Keith and his husband Herb Fehrenbach, her brother Joseph Biss and nephew Darren Biss. Patricia is also survived by her dear friend of 62 years Clare Mayer, who is more of a sister, and her late husband Joe, as well as their children, of whom Patty always thought of them as her own; Joseph & Kathy, the late Robert, the late Gary, Susan, Diane and Thomas. Patricia is also survived by her Jamaican guardian angel and caregiver Caroline, who showed Patricia great care, love and dignity.
Cremation will be private and a Celebration of Patricia's Life will take place at a later date.
March 8, 2020
Aunt Pat taught us by example what being a friend and a neighbor was all about. My brothers and sisters and I saw what a special friendship our mom and dad shared with Pat. And she cared about our family. We came to believe that friendship and caring was what neighbors do, and we had Pat and our parents to thank for that example ... and for so much more! We love you, Aunt Pat. We look forward to a future time when we will once again be part of an eternal neighborhood of family and genuine friends.
March 8, 2020
The first time I met Pat (Mom II) was at Easter at Keith and Herb's home in Millstone over 10 years ago. She told Keith, I was a keeper, and from that day on, I became part of the family. She told me I was like the daughter she never had and our love grew into a very special relationship.
Mom II, your artichoke pie was my favorite and I was honored when you finally shared the secret recipe, after much begging and graveling because I loved it so much. To the hundreds of pounds of potatoes we peeled for our holiday meals, of course with a couple of glasses of Korbel Rose Champagne. Let's not forget, my famous cornbread, made from Jiffy mix, which you insisted was delicious and I never knew if that was a little white lie or not.
Pat also brought into our lives, Caroline, an angel of a caregiver, who's love, compassion and dedication helped, in the more difficult times, to keep the good times rolling. Pat, we got you moving and shaking on the 4th of July as Caroline tried to teach me some Jamaican Rock and Roll!
I will cry, not with tears of sorrow, but with tears of joy, remembering how much love you brought to your family and all
of us who were lucky enough to know you. You will live in my heart always- Godspeed Mom II - I love you.
To Keith, Herbie and family I am sending my love and prayers. May the memories I share bring a smile, chuckle or just a bit of comfort today!
Kathy Flynn ( Mayer )
March 7, 2020
I loved my Aunt Pat . She was always available to laugh with me , dry my tears , or give a big hug . When I was like two , my Mom told her , “ Kathy’s hair is so straight I don’t know what to do with it “ . Well , Aunt Pat gave me a perm that has lasted for life ! On my wedding day , I told her to “ poof” my dress about 10x before I went down the aisle . I think she was ready to kill me , but she just kept “ poofing “ it- making me happy . Aunt Pat was such a faithful friend to my Mom - they shared a very special friendship that has endured through many years . “ A good friend knows all your best stories , but a best friend has lived them with you . “ Thank you Aunt Pat for all you have meant to us . I love you and so does my Mom , Rest In Peace , until we meet again .
March 7, 2020
I have so many wonderful memories of Aunt Pat from my childhood. Everything she baked was amazing! From her Christmas cookies to Jewish cake. And what a wonderful friend she was to my Mom. Always there! We were all blessed to have such a wonderful neighbor, friend, and second Mom in our lives. Rest in eternal peace Aunt Pat.