Meadowlawn Funeral Home and Meadowlawn Memorial Gardens

4244 Madison Street, New Port Richey, FL


Shirley M.V. McIlwain

September 23, 1931January 4, 2020

Shirley was born at home in Washington, D.C., on September 23, 1931, to the late Carl and Opal Viehmeyer and is the older sister of the late Patricia Ann Bolduc. Shirley is the mother of 5 children, twins Diane Denise and Deborah Dawn, daughter Joanne Carlene, son Scott Carl and the late Joseph Edward. There are 13 grandchildren, 15 great grandchildren and 2 great great grandchildren.

Shirley was born a singer and as a young woman was all set to attend Juilliard School in New York for dance, drama and music. Just about that time, she met her husband to be, Joseph Edward McIlwain. She was 17 and he was 19. They fell in love and were married and they had twin babies and she postponed her music career.

She sang after the children were older with local bands in Maryland. Eventually she stopped singing and 20 years went by. Amazingly, at the age of 63 her voice was restored and she began to sing professionally at many churches, weddings and nursing homes.

Shirley grew up in the 1940’s and was a talented dancer, seamstress, cook, baker and wedding cake designer. She made wedding cakes for so many happy couples and cheesecakes were her specialty which she sold to restaurants.

Interment will be private at Meadowlawn Memorial Gardens, in New Port Richey, Fl. There will be a pending memorial in her honor March 2020 in New Port Richey.


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Shirley M.V. McIlwain

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Debbie Gettman

January 11, 2020

Although I did not know you personally, I can tell that you were a remarkable person from all the kind words said about you on this posting site. You sound like a remarkable woman. I have the privilege of knowing your daughter Diane. I worked with her for several years, and she too, is a remarkable woman. The 🍎 does not fall from the tree apparently.
May you Rest In Peace in eternity. You are with God now, and even though your family misses you terribly, they also have been provided comfort in the fact that they will meet you in heaven someday.
Warmly, Debbie Gettman

Diane Tayman

January 8, 2020

It happened today and I was caught off guard. I ate some delicious butternut soup that was so good and I had the thought I have had a zillion times during my lifetime, “call mom” and tell her about the yummy soup. Then, my heart remembered that I simply cannot call her. I cried. I have had the joy to talk to her twice a day for the last 13 months or 14 hours per week. I always remember there can be 1000 butterflies on the lawn, but only one mother, Good night, mom. Or maybe I should say “good morning” because there is no night there. Good morning, mom. Your daughter, Diane,

Joyce Roberts

January 8, 2020

I did not know Shirley personally although, I did meet her on several occasions. I was always struck by beauty and her youthful appearance. She is the mother of one of my closest friends, Diane Tayman. She is the grandmother of my dear friend Shannon Brechtel (who is like a daughter to me) and the great grandmother of my granddaughter, Emily Tayman. She was obviously a very impressive woman; talented in more ways to count. Most of all, she was a dedicated wife, mother and grandmother. She was indeed a queen on this earth. May her soul continue on in Love and Peace for eternity. May that Love also comfort her dear family and friends during this time and beyond.♥️ (Joyce Roberts)