Vida Ritchie DeMale

March 4, 1927March 30, 2021

Vida Ritchie DeMale, 94, of Eastham, formerly of Middletown, CT has passed on March 30, 2021. She was born in Hartford, CT on March 4, 1927, the daughter of David and Alice Mitchell Ritchie. She graduated from Hartford High School in 1945 and then worked for Southern New England Telephone Company until she was married to Daniel H. DeMale on November 25, 1950. They lived in Middletown, CT where their son, Daniel T was born in 1951.

In 1959, they purchased land and built a home in Eastham spending many wonderful summers with family and friends. Their dream came true in 1983 when they retired to their beloved Cape. Their time was spent enjoying square dancing, gardening, fishing, biking, and boating to their hearts content. Vida and Dan managed the Eastham Friendly Flower Islands (EFFIs) for over 28 years, playing a major role in its growth to over 20 Islands and position as a popular destination. In 2004 they were chosen as Eastham Citizens of the year. You are all invited to sit on their bench in their memory on the Windmill Green.

She is survived by her loving son Daniel, treasured grandsons Michael and Christopher and his wife Jennifer, beautiful great-granddaughters Eliana, Ava, Quinn, and Lucy of Naperville, IL. She leaves a sister-in-law Eleanor and brother-in-law Robert McNeil of Wallingford, CT. From Eastham, very special mentions of nieces Elaine Gaffey Lucas and Gail Gaffey Pietrycha her husband Richard and their children Gregory, Julie and Adam. From other areas, nieces and nephews Debbie and Tim Poach, Bonnie and John Zuzak, Tim and Lydia Gaffey, and Brian and Debbie Gaffey. Special mention to her cherished neighbors Mike, Joanna and John, and so many Cape friends.

The Nickerson Funeral Home is arranging her internment to be held at the Evergreen Cemetery, Rt. 6 Eastham on April 2, 2021 at 11 AM. There will be a celebration of her Life on a future date to be announced.

In lieu of flowers, donations in her Memory may be made to Friends of the Eastham Council on Aging or the EFFI’s. For online condolences, please visit


  • Graveside Service

    Friday, April 2, 2021


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Barbara Ravage

April 10, 2021

Meeting Vida was one of the best parts of being a Nauset Neighbors volunteer. Every time I drove her to an appointment, I learned something new--about her, about Eastham, about life. I was sorry when Covid put an end to our times together, but hoped to see her again. I will miss her. My condolences to her family and all who loved and admired her.

Bengt and Erika Weisshuhn

April 5, 2021

Every time we pass one of the many flower islands in Eastham, we think of Vida. When we hear the birds singing, we think of Vida, knowing how much she loved her feathered friends that came to her many feeders.
We cherish the memory of our dear friend. She was a great inspiration, big-hearted and courageous. Vida will live on in our hearts forever. Dear friend, rest in peace with your beloved husband Dan.

Kerianne Leidenfrost

April 1, 2021

Miss Vida was on our Reassurance program at the Police Department. She would call in daily and through the years she became a dear friend to me. We spoke often and shared so much with one another. This picture is a year ago when we visited her and I introduced her to my family in person, and my puppy! She was the strongest woman I know and she was all around amazing! She for years missed her husband and spoke of him so often. I know that they have been reunited and that is what she wanted so much! She was a fighter but she is home now and free! I will forever love Vida and I am so blessed to have been able to tell her how much she meant to me! Rest well Miss Vida I will always keep you in my heart - Kerianne