John F Charboneau

February 3, 1937January 2, 2019


John F. Charboneau, 81, died January 2, 2019 with his wife Judith by his side.

John was born in New Haven, Connecticut, graduated from Hillhouse High and joined the United States Army at the age of 17. He moved quickly up the ranks and was one of the youngest soldiers to earn the rank of Sgm. He retired in 1988 and moved to Port St. Lucie, Florida with his wife Mary Ann and his three sons, David, Brian and Matthew.

He became the director of the drug program at Martin Correctional Facility and after retiring from there he then was "super-sub" at Lincoln Park Academy.

He is preceded in death by two of his three wives; Lorraine, mother of Debra and Mary Ann, mother of David, Brian and Matthew.

He leaves behind his devoted and loving wife, Judith, together for 25 years and his beloved dog penny. He also leaves behind his sister, Jean and his cousin, Carol.

John has 6 grandchildren, in age order: Jessica Kwiatek, Dave Johnston, Lauren Slobod, Megan Perseghin who is serving in the United States Navy, Blake and Austin Charboneau and 8 great-grandchildren: Hayden, Tyler, and Kaylie Kwaitek, Brent Slobod, Ryder Austin, Liam Perseghin, Benjamin Slobod and Wyatt Perseghin. He also has two step-sons, Andrew and Noah Reilly (children of Judith).

He was active in his church, St. Bernadette, being a Eucharist Minister for the homebound, helping to collect school supplies for the Big Apple Ministry, and collecting food for the hungry through Project Mother Teresa.

John enjoyed all sports. But he loved the Red sox Baseball Team and had been a fan ever since he was a child. We all know in our hearts the Red Sox won this year's World Series just for John!

John enjoyed playing cards once a month with neighbors and friends, dining out once each month with his "dinner group" who are together for 25 years, and having breakfast with his best friend Bob, every Wednesday.

But most of all he loved his family, who will always feel that love. He was a beautiful, caring, generous, loving father, husband, brother, cousin and friend.

The most beautiful, loving celebration of John's life with so very many family and friends took place at St. Bernadette Catholic Church.

Anyone wishing to make a donation in John's name, please honor your favorite charity.


  • Memorial Mass Thursday, January 10, 2019

John F Charboneau

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Noah Reilly

January 20, 2019

I feel like I’ve known Mr. Charboneau, aka Matt’s dad my whole life. When he use to call to speak to my mom when they began dating I use to say “Matt’s dad is on the phone”, and that continued even after they were married. He use to always tell my mom, have Noah call me John or Mr. Charboneau. There are so many memories! I remember his stories and his sarsactic humor. He tried to be such a tough guy, but he was really a big softy. I remember eating family dinners with him and the Charboneaus before he began dating my mother. I remember playing hallway soccer and making so much noise and waking him up. I remember him being at most of our soccer games! He was always a great fan! The thing I remember most of all was he always treated me like a son. He was always good to me and our family. I will eternally miss him! Towards the end I started telling him I loved him and instead of handshakes I made sure we hugged. I know hes watching over everyone and only wants the best for everybody he loved. I will use the pain in my heart for motivation to be a better person. R.I.P. Matt’s dad! I will never forget you!

Matthew Charboneau

January 19, 2019

My father was a great man!! Served his country for 24 years moved up to the rank of E9 Sgt Major..the highest ranking achieved without attending a military Academy..The thing I remember most about my father was his ability to be free from judgement..My father would talk to anyone and everyone the same no matter where you came from..he was a great listener and made you feel like you were the only person on the world at the moment..i miss my father more than anyone could understand..he was my father as well as my best friend..when I was younger I played sports just to impress my father!! He would work ten hours a day and then show up wherever I was to catch any moment!! I loved making my father proud..Dad i love you and will continue to make you proud..cannot wait till we can talk baseball again..miss you so much!!

Deborah Charboneau

January 15, 2019

I was truly blessed to be my dad’s firstborn child, the little girl he always wanted! Although it was tough not seeing him all year because he was in the army, and moved often, I loved being with the other part of my family in the summers!

My dad always put his family first and was respectable and someone who I will truly miss!

As I got older I loved and appreciated him more and more every day and I’m so thankful I was able to see him as much as I was in 2018! When the Yankees didn’t win, I rooted for the Boston Red Sox and was so thrilled that they won the World Series last year because I knew how happy that would make my father! Dad, I know you are in a much better place than this earth and I cannot wait until the day I see you again along with my mom, and best friend Janice!

You leave behind a wonderful wife, Judi who took such great care of you when you needed it the most! She loved you through all your stubbornness and grief and always looked to God for strength! I could never thank her enough for standing by you!

Dad, give us all strength to go on with our lives without you as hard as that will be, I want my tears to be happy ones and for the sorrow to lessen more and more each day! I love you so much Dad and strive to be like you in every way!!! 😘

Deb Cogossi

January 10, 2019

I'll always remember John's smiling face...he went out of his way to make my family feel welcomed to a new neighborhood and always called out a warm hello when we were out. No matter how he was feeling he was, without fail, kind and considerate to us. I appreciated him attending my surprise birthday party and hanging out with a crazy group of people (half of whom he didn't know). My favorite memory is of John reaching out to my teenage son at the party and having a sincere real conversation with him. Not everyone thinks to do that with teens they don't know and not many people can pull that off with authenticity. I'm going to miss his smiling face so much and I'm so glad he found the strength to stay around as long as he did. Rest in peace, John, you were greatly respected and admired.

Jean Smith

January 5, 2019

My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family at this sad time. Love to all of you.