Philip Joseph Kelman

October 30, 1955June 10, 2018

Philip J. Kelman, 62, formerly of Raleigh, passed away unexpectedly on June 10, 2018 in New York City. Born on October 30, 1955, he was the son of the late Dr. Arthur Kelman and Mrs. Helen Parker Kelman. A creative and talented musician, he will be deeply missed by family and friends.

Graveside Services will be held on Thursday, June 21st at 11:00 AM at Raleigh Memorial Park, 7501 Glenwood Avenue.


  • Dr. Arthur Kelman and Mrs. Helen Parker Kelman, Parents


  • Graveside Service Thursday, June 21, 2018
  • Graveside Service Thursday, June 21, 2018

Philip Joseph Kelman

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Kathleen King

January 11, 2019

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... when we were in our late 20’s I was just at the very beginning stages of seriously considering performing my own music on stage. I asked Phil, “ What do You do when you make a mistake on stage?” Phil answered,”If you make a mistake,**** it, just keep going”.
Then I asked Phil, “what do you do when you’re at a jam session with other musicians and you noticibly start messing up?” Phil answered, “you drop out for a few seconds and drop back in”. Both pieces of advice have served me well for years now.
I asked Phil “How do I start getting gigs at coffeehouses or bars?” He answered, “leave them a tape and talk to them and say I would like to start playing my music here”.
Another long-term musician friend also moved out of state.
I successfully reconnected with him thru email. He was planning a visit to Madison a two years ago and he emailed me,asking me to help him get gigs at local coffeehouses. I emailed him saying “when I was starting out as a musician,I asked another musician friend for advice about how to get a gig . He said ‘you walk in and leave them a tape and talk to them about wanting to play there’ the modern day version of of that advice is to email them one of your YouTube videos with a cover letter on it.” Then I emailed him a bunch of local coffeehouse websites.
I take a bow after my own stage performances by holding out my mandolin infront of me in presentation. I got the idea from seeing Phil years ago taking a bow after his high school jazz solo performances by presenting his flute infront of him.
Much Love,
Kathleen Camilla King