Harry J Will Funeral Homes

25450 Plymouth Rd, Redford, MI


Pamela Jean Messink

July 31, 1952May 11, 2020

Detroit-Pamela Messink born July 31, 1952 passed away May 11, 2020. Survived by her loving husband Chris Messink and her 2 brothers and one sister. She is preceded in death by her only son Michael. Pamela loved life, she inherited her green thumb from her grandmother and later started her own plant business which she enjoyed. A memorial service will be held at a later date.


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Pamela Jean Messink

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Dad and Pat Messink

May 27, 2020

So sorry for your loss, Chris. We loved Pam and enjoyed it so much when you came to the lake. She was a wonderful person. One of my personal things with Pam is the way she would help me get in the floats as I got older. Oh, how she loved the floats and I loved it that she helped me so I could float with her😍😎🌞. And the food, the snacks she always brought with her were wonderful😋.
Love you, Pat
Pam was a very thoughtful, conciderate person. I’m proud she was a part of our family.
Love, Dad

Andi Symonds

May 25, 2020

The first thing I think of when I think of my Aunt Pam is her smile! I loved seeing her smile and loved making her smile. I’m going to miss her dearly. I enjoyed the summers when we would float in the lake, with drinks in hand! She would always bring so much food when you guys came up to visit! It was awesome! I’m going to miss the Chex mix! I know she would say, it was just the box recipe or something like that, trying to not make a big deal about it but damn, was it good! I swear I would eat it for months after you went back home 😋

I think about the time she watched Ella while we went to the Fire Station and I picture her and Ella sitting on the couch, aunt Pam with her arm around the dog as we left! It was so funny.

I miss baking pies with her. It was just so special to be with her in the kitchen... In our favorite house, Poppie and Nanna’s house where so many of our best memories are.

Her strength is admirable, my lake floats will be missing her and so will I, so much. What comforts me is knowing she is reunited with Michael. Think about that hug and welcoming party he gave her. Thinking of you uncle Chris, so much. I love you ❤️

Mary Tramp

May 24, 2020

Chris, I am sending thoughts and prayers to you for the loss of Pam. Pam was a very special person. She had many gifts that she shared with all of us. She was a compassionate caregiver, lover of animals, and nature. She was a dedicated wife, mother, and friend. You and Micheal were the loves of her life. I feel very fortunate to have called her my friend.
Much love and peace,
Mary Tramp

Tina Terrill

May 24, 2020

My heart is broken for you, as you mourn the loss of Pam. Pam was a Woman of great strength and compassion who loved you, her family, and friends beyond measure. She was a true angel to all of my family when she helped care for my Mom. She was an long lasting friend to me for almost 40 years. I will always miss her and think of her when someone says “is it my turn”, or when I have a question about my plants, or when I reminisce about our times at the clubhouse. My heart smiles when I remember her smiles. Pam will never be forgotten, her spirit will live on through all of us who knew her. Her love for you is unending. She is now with Michael and a loving god who will care for her until we meet again.

Love and prayers,


Suzanne Griggs

May 20, 2020


When I think of Pam, I see her beauty, her smile, Christmas lights and she dancing around the stove while cooking a meal. I’m a “newcomer-visitor” to the Knots having gone to college with Joanie. Pam welcomed me with open arms. I just feel so happy when I think of her sharing her home, the fabulous clubhouse, her plants and backyard kitty stories with me. I will so dearly miss her. I’m so sorry for your loss of her beautiful soul. I think of you and say many prayers for you. May her memories bring you peace during this difficult, sad time. Much love, Suzanne Griggs

Joan Freed

May 20, 2020

Pam was a sister, mother, and friend to me. She was with me when I received the call that my brother had died. She traveled with me several times up north to Oscoda, and I have the finished puzzles on the wall to prove it! We laughed, cried, shared recipes and always had a great time. Pam I miss you so much it hurts, but I still feel your presence. Chris you are the best, and you have inherited a group of women that will keep Pam's Paradise alive, visit you often, of course calling first! Lol know that I write this with much love in my heart.
The Balonie. Aka Joan

Roz Salter

May 19, 2020

So many memories! Mostly fun ones, but some of sorrow. But it has been a privilege living them all with Pam, especially her baptism and confirmation. It was as beautiful as she was!
Pam always welcomed us into the Detroit Clubhouse where we had so many good times. (And thanks to Chris, made it comfortable whether winter or summer). Will miss Pam forever!
Rest In Peace with Michael and our dear Lord my friend!
Chris....so glad you like the Knots cuz you are stuck with us forever!

Liz King

May 19, 2020

Pammie was a very special long time friend. Even though I live in NC and didn't get to see her as often as I wanted, when I came to Michigan, we always got together and it was as if no time had passed. Several years ago I broke my ankle and recovered in Mi. Pam was the best, most fun caregiver you could ask for. That has always been her special gift, she loved to take care of you! Chris, I know you miss her everyday but know you were well loved by a wonderful woman!

Kenny & Brenda Gaunt

May 18, 2020

We are so saddened to hear about Pam. We have many great memories of the times we spent together, and think of them often. Please know you are in our hearts and we are here for you. We would love to add some new memories to the wonderful old ones.
Wishing you peace,
Kenny & Brenda

Roy and Alexis Messink

May 16, 2020

Pam was always low key and always so much fun to be with. She was a great mother to Michael, and wife to her husband, my brother Chris. Our family lost a rock— a person we can always count on. She will always be in all of our hearts, and she will never fade from our memory. We’ll save your favorite float and a cold beer for you when we’re at the lake, Pam— until we meet again.


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