OBITUARY

Shirley E. Kalkofen

November 30, 1934February 8, 2019
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Shirley Eileen (Potter) Kalkofen, 84, passed away Friday, February 8, 2019 at McClay Senior Care in St. Peters, MO. Shirley was born November 30, 1934 in Woonsocket, RI to Walter E. Potter and Dorine (Alarie) Potter. When Shirley was a child, Walter and Dorine moved their family from New England to southern California.

Shirley loved all things dance. Growing up, Shirley and her sister, Claire, danced on local TV talent shows, rubbing elbows with the likes of Sammy Davis, Jr., among others. While her passion was tap dance, Shirley was also very talented in ballet. She graduated from Englewood High School.

As the maid of honor in her sister Claire's wedding, Shirley met her future husband, a U.S. Marine Corps Sergeant, Robert Kalkofen. Married in 1953, Bob and Shirley lived in California until 1965 when they moved their three kids to Mexico, MO to run the local A & W Root Beer restaurant with Bob's brother.

Shirley's love of dance only grew with time and she instilled that passion in her daughters. When the owner of a local dance studio retired, Shirley took over and taught various styles of dance to hundreds of kids; from tap, ballet, jazz, and ballroom to whatever else caught her interest. Her legacy continued in Mexico for years after she retired and through her daughters and granddaughters. Her youngest granddaughter, Alexa, graduated from Mizzou as a four-year Golden Girl, the university's dance team.

Shirley continued to share dance with friends, teaching line dancing, clogging, and square dancing well into her 80's. Shirley was the life of the dance floor at every family wedding and developed a reputation for dancing to "Come on Eileen" on a table!

The only thing Shirley loved more than dance was her family, whom she loved intensely. Throughout her kids' and grandkids' lives, she moved heaven and earth trying to go to anything and everything that her family was part of; sporting events, plays, concerts and recitals.

After closing the A & W, Shirley went to work as a bookkeeper for A.P. Green Refractory for several years until retiring and moving to St. Charles, MO. Never one to sit still, she worked at WalMart as a cashier until her health started to fail in November.

In addition to her parents, Shirley was preceded in death by a brother, Walter E. Potter, Jr., when he was a child. She is survived by her husband of 65 years, Bob; their three children and their families: Bob and Bobanne of Prairie Village, KS, Cheryl and Warren Sims of Blue Springs, MO, and Jill and Jeff Carmichael of Foristell, MO; six grandchildren, Chris (Erica) Kalkofen, Alarie (Michael) Ornburn, Iris (Evan) Smithey, Greg (Sarah) Sims, Zachary (fiancé Marissa) Carmichael, and Alexa (Andrew) White; five great grandchildren, Aidan, Miles, Lily, Gabe and Ingrid, with another great grandson expected in June; and her sister, Claire, and her family of three children and three grandsons.

Heartfelt thanks go to the staffs of The Villages of St. Peters, McClay Senior Care, and Seasons Hospice (Patty) for their care of our Mom these last two months.

Memorial donations may be made in Shirley's name to American Cancer Society or Sarcoma Foundation of America.

Services

  • Visitation Monday, February 11, 2019
  • Funeral Service Tuesday, February 12, 2019
  • Interment Tuesday, February 12, 2019
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Shirley E. Kalkofen

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Helen Lewis

February 12, 2019

I had the privilege of working with Shirley at Walmart. She was such a sweet lady. My deepest sympathies.

Dee Groeper

February 11, 2019

Jill, sooo sorry to hear about the passing of your dear Mother. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Ann Cleek

February 10, 2019

Shirley introduced me to line dancing at the Sr Center in Columbia,Mo. She was passionate about dancing and now it continues with many of us remembering her. Bob would always be there too and we all loved them both. The last time I saw them was an MU BB game they attended to watch Alexa. A wonderful couple-I want to remember her that way and send prayers to Bob and her family.

Charlesa Sargent

February 10, 2019

My sympathy to you and your family🌹

Charlesa Sargent, a Mexico Elk member

Robin Abbott

February 10, 2019

Bob & family,

Shirley was an amazing lady and loved her family. I truly enjoyed working with her at Oliver’s and of course going dancing with her. She had such a passion for her dance. Sending hugs and prayers to you all. God bless.

Robin (Lower) Jacobi Abbott

Toni Fountain

February 10, 2019

As a teenager I worked with Shirley and every time I saw her after that she always spoke to me and we would carry on a conversation. She was a sweetheart and i am so very sorry for your loss. Bob and family you have my heartfelt condolences. But to be absent from us , is to be present with the Lord!!! God bless you all.

Janet Williams

February 10, 2019

I send my condolences to you and the family, Bob. May your joyful memories help all of you through the difficult mourning period. Peace and Love. Janet

Steve and Dixie Sims

February 10, 2019

Shirley was a wonderful woman!! Always love to see her and Bob at the Elks Lodge and dance with her! She was a great dancer!

We also enjoyed going to the A & W to eat and enjoy a visit with them.

Jean Stephens

February 10, 2019

I knew Shirley in Mexico, we were a weight watchers team. She was pAssionate about dance and her family, and was a wonderful woman. I will miss her and give prayers to everyone.

Shirley Bolli-Youngs

February 10, 2019

Bob and Family,

I'm so very sorry to read of Shirley's death. We still use your family's recipe for clam chowder, served most Christmas Days. You brought a big crock pot of chowder to the house when Don passed away. I just wanted to let you know your kindness and generosity has always been appreciated, and your family is loved.

Shirley Bolli-Youngs

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Her last time dancing on the table at Alexa's wedding 10/6/2018

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Where Mom's "Dancing on the tables" all started. Grandma and Grandpa K's 50th Wedding Anniversary.

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