OBITUARY

Mary Lou Daues

February 21, 1928February 8, 2021

nee Torrence, Fortified with the Sacraments of Holy Mother Church, passed away on Monday, February 8, 2021 at the age of 92.

Beloved wife of the late Fred C. Daues, Sr.; dear mother of Fred C. (Nancy) Daues, Jr. and Stephen L. (Betty) Daues; loving grandmother of Jessica Daues (Russell Riis), Fred C. Daues, III (Valentina Leon-Daues), Lauren Daues, Christopher (Brittany) Daues and Matthew Daues; special great-grandmother of Jake, Liam, Max, Sam and Logan; dearest sister of Barbara (late Earl) Cline, the late Robert (late Mickey) Torrence, the late James Torrence, and the late Lou (Marilyn) Torrence; dear sister-in-law, aunt, cousin and friend to many.

Mary Lou was a volunteer at the Beauvais Mansion and the City Art Museum. She was very active at St. Louis U. High and was a former president of the Mothers' Club. Mary Lou was also a member of the Pi Beta Phi Sorority at the University of Missouri.

SERVICE: Funeral Service, Monday, February 15th, 10:00 am at Our Lady of Providence Catholic Church, 8866 Pardee Rd.; St. Louis, MO 63123. Visitation Monday at church from 9:30 am until time of service. Interment at Calvary Cemetery. If desired, memorial donations in Mary Lou’s name may be made to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, 8251 Maryland Ave., Suite 16; Clayton, MO 63105. www.cff.org/StLouis/

The services will be lived streamed at www.olpstl.org

Services

  • Visitation - Monday

    Monday, February 15, 2021

  • Funeral Mass - Monday

    Monday, February 15, 2021

Memories

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Mary Helen Malle- Kamrath

February 15, 2021

Dear Fred, Steve, and family,
Mary Lou was one of my mom’s best friends. They raised kids together on Vienna and Murdoch. I am sure my brothers have some wild stories of the trouble you boys got into! Throughout all the years Mary Lou and Ellie stayed friends. When my mom was in in hospice, Mary Lou was there.
I am so sorry for your loss and so sorry we could not be there today with you. Sending love from the Malle’s to you!!

Marilyn Torrence

February 15, 2021

Barbara Fred and Stephen I feel so blessed to have met Mary Lou and your family and to be a part of it. I am so sorry to hear of Mary Lou‘s passing. What a great outgoing loving person. I am so glad I knew her and she was a part of my life. My heart goes out to Barb and Steve and Fred and the rest of the family. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

LOU TORRENCE

February 14, 2021

"Continued"
A final memory I will share was with Aunt Mary Lou, when she was in the hospital in December of 2019. When I arrived at the hospital to see her, I was pleasantly surprised to see her doing much better than I had anticipated. We carried on a very nice conversation for almost 2 hours. Mary Lou always had questions about my family as well as my brother and sisters families too. She liked to know what was going on. She liked to talk about her grandchildren and tell me what they were all doing, who you could tell she dearly loved. Any time Aunt Mary Lou and I would talk for any length of time the conversation would eventually turn towards the "Torrence" history of "before I was born". I would ask many, many questions about everything, and she knew the all the answers. I loved hearing her tell stories about Granddad or Grandmother or my father or any of the her other brothers or sisters. It was always a special treat for me. Her memory amazed me how she could still recall immediately everything from many years ago. I am deeply saddened knowing I will never have any more of these conversations with her. Aunt Mary Lou was very loving, witty, sharp, and classy !! She will be deeply missed by all.
God Bless you Aunt Mary Lou,
We love you, Louie

LOU TORRENCE

February 14, 2021

Many good memories of Christmas with Aunt Mary Lou and all the Torrence extended family at Aunt Mary Lou and Uncle Fred’s house. Fred and Mary Lou were so hospital and warm to open their house to be invaded by 3 families with children. I thought it was special the way Uncle Bob, Uncle Jim, my father Lou and Aunt Mary Lou and Aunt Barbara got along and joked and kidded with each other like they were still teenagers. Aunt Mary Lou’s hospitality was the best and we always felt loved in her house.

I have a few memories that I would like to relate. First one was back in maybe 1992 or so, Uncle Bob was going through cancer treatments and Mary Lou and Barb wanted to come to the Lake to visit Bob at his house. They took the train from STL to Jefferson City where I met them at station. It was about 10 or so and they were ready for breakfast. We stopped at a local diner in Jefferson City that was recommended to us, before heading to Uncle Bob’s house. Upon entering the diner Mary Lou noticed some patrons with biscuits and gravy and how disgusting it was, because it looked like someone had been “sick”. We all had a good laugh about it and I said something like “Welcome to the Ozarks”!
Another good memory of Aunt Mary Lou was when Mary Lou, and Barbara and Cathy were coming to visit my brother Perrey at his house when he was going through some chemo and radiation treatments. Their car broke down on Hwy 44 and it added some interesting details to their trip to say the least. Once they arrive at Perrey house we had a great visit that was emotional at times do to what Perrey was going through.
"To Be Continued"

Jim Ahrens

February 14, 2021

I met Steve in grade school at age 9. We’ve been friends that long. Been through a lot in all those years. I remember Mary Lou as a beautiful caring soul. She was sincerely interested in how you felt about your life and things around you. She was genuine and never dismissed your answer. You could tell by the way she looked you in the eye. She knew I would always tell her the truth if she asked me anything. She knew she had my respect, because I wanted her to have it.

Bobby and Julie Harkness

February 14, 2021

As I thought about Aunt Mary Lou this week, the first thing that came to my mind every time was her love of life and laugh. Like many other of her nieces/nephews have already posted, the family gatherings at Christmas especially are something I will always remember. The many uncles, aunts and cousins all gathered to celebrate together. The laughing that happened was something I remember the most. Laughter until there was crying or uncontrollable until your side was aching. To see my dad, Bob with Aunt Mary Lou, Aunt Barb, Uncle Jim and Uncle Lou all sharing sibling time together. Such wonderful memories with Aunt Mary Lou always in that laughter. I will miss her dignity and poise that she always had. She was an important part of the "Torrence" family and will always be.

Dan Kelly

February 14, 2021

I met Mary Lou when I was in high school, shortly after meeting her son Steven who is still one of the best people on planet earth.
As is normal for that age Steve threw me under the bus every time she caught him up to something.
We became friends after we both figured that out and remain so.
I found Mary Lou to be wise with her counsel, and am grateful and better for it.
We spent many happy hours over the years in discussion about any and everything.
Bon Voyage Mary Lou
Thank you for enriching our lives and leaving us a good example to live up to

Taylor Covington

February 14, 2021

Ever since I met grandma Lou I felt close to her. I always liked sitting next to her at the dinner table because we both took the longest to eat the smallest portions of food, not to mention we are both left handed. Whenever I started trying to garden, I loved showing her the flowers I had planted during Easter get togethers and she always made me feel good about my progress. I once had some blue flowers which she thought was silly because she said flowers usually were not blue. Grandma Lou is truly one of the most sweet, thoughtful, and caring people I’ve known and I will forever be grateful for the memories I share with her. There are many things that will forever make me think of Gigi, but especially every time I ever plant a blue flower.

CAROL & DENNIS HOVE

February 14, 2021

Aunt Mary Lou was elegant. She had a reserved but delightful laugh and cherished her family and friends. The time we spent with her was always special. She will be missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Mark Travers

February 14, 2021

Hello Fred and Steve. I am so sorry to hear the news about your mom. Fred, I remember when we were about 8 and your mom picked us up from baseball practice and drove me home. Even then I knew she was kind and graceful and a wonderful mom. I would like to be with you at the service but, as I have not yet had the vaccine, I want to err on the side of safety. I will be with you both in spirit. And I will keep your mom and dad in my prayers. Best wishes to you and your families.

FROM THE FAMILY