Raymond Francis Derek

December 29, 1969February 16, 2021

Raymond Francis Derek, 51, of Southington, passed away unexpectedly on Tuesday, February 16, 2021. Born on December 29, 1969 in Waterbury, he was the son of Suzann (Ostrowski) and Raymond J. Derek.

He graduated from Southington High School and played little league and midget football as a younger man. He loved pickup trucks and was known for always having one throughout his life.

In addition to his parents Raymond and Suzann, he leaves behind his sister Rebecca Derek, all of Southington, as well as his very dear friend Justin Wilson, whom he was best friends with since 15. Mass will be held at 10am on Thursday, February 25, 2021 at St. Thomas Church, 99 Bristol St., Southington. Because of the current pandemic, masks and social distancing precautions are required. For online condolences please visit


  • Memorial Mass

    Thursday, February 25, 2021


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Ambyr Bartlett

February 25, 2021

So glad to have so many amazing memories with Ray, growing up seeing him always with a big smile and hanging out with good friends. Today, we celebrate his life with his close friends and family. We love you Ray! I know Ray is smiling down at us right now. Happy to see old friends get together and celebrate life. My condolences go to his parents and loved ones. I hope that knowing Ray is in paradise now and we will all meet again soon, keeps our minds at ease. I pray tears are dried by happy memories. Below is a picture of his close friends making today a celebration his life.

Carrie Ralston

February 22, 2021

I will never forget " Hey Carrie" RIP Ray!!

Bob Bushnell

February 22, 2021

Ray and I have known each other since the 7th grade at DePaolo. I have so many great memories with Ray from keg parties, to going to the beach or just cruising around I could write a book. Ray was a original in our group of friends. You guys know who you are! Ray had a good heart, great sense of humor and a curious mind. My Condolences to the family and friends. Ray you will be missed!

Mike Zaborowski

February 21, 2021

Love and peace my brother, see you on the other side.

David Ballou

February 21, 2021

I really enjoyed my time I spent with Ray. God put us both together because both of us needed to be spiritually stronger. I will never forget when he finally destroyed his budda idol and then put his faith back into Jesus. He was always friendly to people he didn't know and I learned from him I too could be friendly to people and Ray gave me the confidence I needed to be friendly to strangers without worrying about being judged by strangers. Ray taught me people were just as eager to friendly right back to me. Thank you so much for all you have done for me! Love, David

Kristen Langton

February 21, 2021

Ray you are a one of a kind blessing to this world. Immortalized by your original quotes "kinda but not really " We will hang out again soon keep a Sam on ice for me. Jesus welcome our brother home with all of our love peace be with you forever Ray.

Todd & Jen Ralston

February 21, 2021

Rip brother we will all miss you.

Adair Langton

February 21, 2021

We were kids when we met but our hearts will never forget your beautiful soul so young and pure forever, reminding us all of what's Important , Love. God take you home Ray!

Joshua Langton

February 21, 2021

Fear not brother call my name, I will hear your voice and answer you always.