Mary E. Allen
May 3, 1946 – December 29, 2020
Mary Elinda Allen, 74, of Oak Ridge, NJ passed away on Tuesday, December 29, 2020.
Mary was born in Pompton Lakes, NJ on May 3, 1946. She was raised in Pompton Lakes, NJ. She was a graduate of Pompton Lakes High School and went on to graduate from Sherwood School of Business. She spent time employed at Royal Master Grinders,Inc. and the Board of Education of West Milford.
She married Raymond Allen Sr., her husband of 43 years, in Pompton Lakes in 1970. Ray pre-deceased her in 2013. Mary’s family brought her the greatest joy in life and her love and generosity was immeasurable.
She is survived by her children Deborah Dalmedo of Sparta NJ and her husband Michael; Melissa Witherow of Apex, NC and her husband Eric; and her stepchildren Patricia Hoogmoed and her husband Arthur, Mark Allen and his wife Janice, Margaret Kean and her husband Victor, and was pre-deceased by her stepson Ray Allen, Jr..
Mary was a loving, nurturing, and supportive Nana to Andrew and Tyler Dalmedo and to Brianna, Colin, and Liam Witherow. Her grandchildren brought her great joy and she loved nothing more than being surrounded by her family and grandchildren.
Mary was pre-deceased by her father Edwin P. Van Riper, her mom Mary Van Riper (nee Whitmore) and her brother George. She is survived by her brother Albert.
Funeral arrangements are entrusted under Goble Funeral Home 22 Main St., Sparta, NJ 07871. Services will be held privately for family and invited guests at this time.
If you would like to send flowers to the family for their private service, please have them delivered to Goble Funeral Home no later than Friday, January 1st.
in lieu of flowers, donations in Mary's memory may be made to United Methodist Communities 3311 State Highway 33 Neptune, NJ 07753 (Bristol Glen).
Saturday, January 2, 2021
Mary E. Allen
Alex & Connie Dalmedo
January 1, 2021
Since Mary came into our lives 22 years ago we have shared many wonderful memories in our family gatherings. She was cheerful, friendly and kind. We never heard her utter an unkind word towards anyone. It seems nothing ever upset her.
We have missed her during her illness and we'll miss her even more now, but we are consoled knowing she is now resting in peace.
May God bless our dear Mary.
December 31, 2020
If I had to sum up Mary in one word it would be family. It was the most important thing to her, and it showed in all she did. As an in-law, she always made me feel like one of her girls. I can honestly say Mary was the one who gave me an appreciation for cooking and creating a memorable meal! She was THE BEST cook. I learned so much from her and always looked forward to talking with her, helping out in the kitchen, and watching her work her magic. Her pressed table linens, to freshly cut flower arrangements, beautiful platters, to fine china always left an impression on me and I now have my own collection of these things, and “recipes” because of her influence.
For Mary, there was something special about family gathering around her table and having the best of everything … from spending time with loved ones, to sharing stories, telling jokes, having fun, reminiscing, spreading love, and laughing … roaring to the rafters … all while eating some of her best food. Our gatherings as a family were always something I loved, and I will cherish those memories forever. She made them special in her own way.
It always funny when Ray would say “he was a regular guy.” We all laughed and laughed like we never heard it before! And it was because of Mary that he was a regular guy because she was the one who made sure he got his Wheaties and prune juice every day! I don’t think anybody ever thought to give her the credit for that! And it was certainly credit worthy!
I feel blessed to have married into such a wonderful family and it was Mary that helped me make that transition. My husband Mark is Ray’s mini-me and I learned a lot from her about the Allen’s. I will always remember the vacation we took together to Florida (so funny) and when we went on the cruise which are all GREAT memories. We will miss you, but you are forever in our hearts and in our memories. May God bless you abundantly as you enter your eternal resting place. Until we meet again.