OBITUARY

Milton Wesley Paul MYERS

October 24, 1961May 20, 2022

On May 20th 2022, Paul (Coach) Myers passed away peacefully in Toronto after a relatively short battle with cancer. At the time of his passing, his loving wife, Julie and his two children Dayna and Mitchell were by his side. He leaves behind many brother and sister in laws, nieces and nephews, wonderful neighbours, countless friends and colleagues, too many to mention by name. He knew he was loved and he loved them back.

Coach Myers’ amazing story began on October 24th, 1961 in Birmingham England. Born Milton Wesley Paul Myers (he hated his full name) to Pearl Dee and Ivor Myers; he was a force to be reckoned with from the beginning. After a short stay in the UK, his mother, with him and brother (Desmond) in tow, moved to Porter’s Mountain, Jamacia where they stayed until their eventual move to Streetsville, ON, Canada when Paul was nine years old.

From there, the rest is history. Paul spent his time playing football and dreaming of where life would take him next. He joined the Army Cadets and then quickly moved on to the Toronto Police Force where he rose through the ranks, making a lasting impression on each community in which he was stationed.

In the mid-eighties he found Rugby. This sport grew into a deeply rooted passion that would establish a path for his life. He joined the Oakville Crusaders where he learned the ins and outs of the game. After his move to the Toronto Beaches in 1993, his true home, he joined the Balmy Beach Club’s team and began to work his magic there. He’d often spend full weekends on the pitch with his loving (and patient) wife and (sometimes bored) children, cheering him on. Rugby was his happy place, it’s where he met his greatest friends, where he got to have fun, how he connected with his children, how he escaped from the stress of his day job. That game was his saving grace, his saviour.

He had an amazing gift for coaching. He coached EVERYTHING. Even if he didn’t know how play the sport, he’d learn the fundamentals and in a blink of an eye he’d make a difference. He had a way with connecting with people no matter their age, finding their strengths and helping to develop them. This ability for developing potential led him to one of his proudest roles: His involvement in the Toronto Inner-city Rugby Foundation (TIRF). He acted as the Head of Development and Technical Director of the Foundation until his eventual retirement in 2019. Paul lived and breathed for TIRF and the kids who took part in its’ programs. He spent countless nights at fundraising events and days in the hot sun teaching people about the joy of rugby. He wanted to touch as many lives as possible, give as many kids and young adults the opportunity to be kids and to awaken a passion that would put them on a path to success. Paul’s children often joked that the TIRF kids were his “other children” and would like to personally thank them all for making his life so full.

In his last few years, he got to do what he loved best: reading, gardening, watching rugby and spending time his wife and kids. He was happy, he was fulfilled. He spent his days talking and laughing (loudly) to friends on the phone, travelling to Europe, going to the Rugby World Cup and New Zealand to see the All Blacks. He bought a very fast car, enjoyed summers on Lake Erie. He got to witness his daughter graduate law school and his son excel in his pursuit of a master’s degree and find love with his girlfriend, Brianna.

Paul deserved more time, yes, but those who loved him and will miss him can find peace in the fact that he lived a big life full of everything that made him happy. His legacy of strength and community will live on through his family and friends he made along the way.

The family asks that in lieu of flowers, donations be made to TIRF (https://tirfrugby.ca/donate/) or a cancer research organization of your choice.

A celebration of life will be taking place on Sunday July 10th at the Balmy Beach Club in Toronto (more details will be announced at a later date).

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  • David Asgeirsson

    Friend
    07/10/2022

    Very sorry that I am unable to join the Celebration of Life today, but I wanted to share that Paul was very inspirational for me, and helped encourage me to get active in coaching kids in rugby. His legacy will live on in our community for a long, long time.

  • Kip & Cathy King

    Friend
    06/30/2022

    Sending our sincere condolences. Paul was a wonderful person.

  • Daniel and Janine Bouchard

    Other
    06/29/2022

    From the Bouchard family in the Beaches, Janine, Daniel, Madeleine, Philippe and Jonathan, we wish to send our condolences to Julie and her children. We knew Paul from hockey days when the boys played with son Mitchell. It was always a pleasure to see Paul at the numerous arenas, always smiling, a very inviting and warm person to chat with.

  • Paul Lewis

    Friend
    06/16/2022

    Julie I was so sad to hear of Paul's passing. He was a good friend at the club. A cheery person and friend to everyone. He made a difference through his job and sports activities. Seeing the write up in the Beach Metro and the comments here, he made an impact and will be missed. Paul Lewis

  • Steve Whitaker

    Colleague
    06/13/2022

    Paul was a much respected and staunch supporter of the Sports, Wellness and Achievement Network of the TDSB. It had an immeasurable impact to have such an accomplished and experienced leader believe so wholeheartedly in what we were doing as a fledgling organization. I can't thank Paul enough for the time and energy he managed to give us in amongst all his other commitments. On a more personal level, he was always such a pleasure to talk to - a fine, warm human being! He will be greatly missed. Sincere condolences to the Family and all who knew him. Steve Whitaker

  • John & Laura Altilia

    Friend
    06/07/2022

    Julie, Dayna, and Mitchell; We are so very sorry to hear of Paul’s passing. Words just simply do not express how sad we are, nor convey to you all our heartfelt condolences. Paul indeed lived a full life, but none-the-less far too short. We are sending all our love, hugs, and prayers in hopes of giving you some comfort. Keep all the memories of Paul close to your heart. Much love; John, Laura, Ayla, and Bri Altilia

  • Karen Duffy

    Friend
    06/06/2022

    Our thoughts are with you from our linked rugby community in Selkirk in Scotland. We were so lucky to catch up with Paul and Julie on our last Duffy clan visit to balmy beach crew in 2019. Paul was simply a beautiful soul, who was always so cheerful and kind. Lots of love - Bert, Karen and Shirley Duffy and family

  • Pete Rava

    Friend
    06/05/2022

    Great man. I will miss him dearly. No more discussions around those big round tables at at the BBC will be had. Consumate gentleman who inspired so many. RIP

  • Kathleen and Rick Chenette

    Colleague
    06/03/2022

    Julie, Dayna, Mitchell, family and friends. Our deepest condolences on the passing of your husband, father, family member, and super hero! Paul and I met when we became MTPS cadets at the same time. We all then went to OPC in Aylmer together, and became “real” policemen! After that we kinda all went our own ways. We would see each other now and then, but whenever we did, it was always a big hug and laughs. Several years ago, Rick needed EMS to transport him to Windsor Met hospital. Paul’s niece was the EMT!! We reconnected via messenger. Small world! Paul was sooo proud of his family, his children and extended family. Prior to covoid, we had talked about getting together, when the family came down to holiday on Lake Erie, Wheatley…. I will miss a wonderful man, whom I am sure impacted so, so so, many young lives. Once again, Rick and I send our love and prayers to your family.

  • Debbie Knifton

    Other
    06/01/2022

    My sincere condolences to Julie, Dayna and Mitchell. As the mother of three former BBC and Malvern rugby players, I spent many hours on the sidelines watching the players and coaches in action and I was always impressed by Paul's dedication to the kids he coached, and the game he loved. He was a wonderful role model and an all round great guy both on and off the field.

  • Jules Marsen

    Friend
    05/31/2022

    I will always consider myself very fortunate to have had Paul as a friend. The thing that always stood out to me was that the happiest and most excited I ever saw Paul was when he was talking about the success and achievements of other people. That’s a rare quality that speaks volumes about a person. RIP mate. Jules

  • Kristine Myers

    Friend
    05/29/2022

    Julie, Dayna & Mitchell, Paul was a positive force of nature! He had nothing but kind words for everyone he spoke of and always had that beautiful smile on his face. We will miss him terribly. Much love, Kris & Mike.

  • Simeon Charles

    Friend
    05/27/2022

    Paul was an amazing guy. Our last interaction was last summer I was refereeing a beaches game only for Paul to complement me on how much my refereeing skills had improved. Complements from Paul was not something I was familiar with so when I got that I was delighted. Saddened to see him leave so soon but like many I am thankful for the times we have had surrounding rugby.

  • Turbo ****

    Friend
    05/22/2022

    Thanks "solo' for all the work you did with the BBC Rugby.Your "instinctive' knowledge of coaching and the game will surely be missed.Gone Way too soon.RIP. Turbo.;(

  • 05/26/2022

    From the Family

  • 05/26/2022

    From the Family