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Brenda Anne O'Toole

10 October, 195518 April, 2021

On April 18, 2021 we said goodbye to Brenda Anne O’Toole. She passed away peacefully at home with her family by her side after a courageous battle with cancer. She was 65.

Brenda was the kindest, most caring and loving woman you ever met. She was a garage sale aficionado, a master in the kitchen and garden, and a family historian, with a passion for tracking the family tree. She was immensely devoted and loyal, to the company she dedicated over 40 years to, and ever more so to her friends and family. For them she loved fiercely.

Brenda’s favourite quote was “I love you,” something she said frequently and encouraged those around her to as well. Because of her, those who knew her live more openly and love more deeply. For that, we will forever be grateful. Because of her, we will forever be loved.

Brenda was a loving wife to Martin for 43 years. She was the ever-caring mother to boys Timothy, Joey and Colin and the ever-guiding light to daughters-in-law Jen, Kayra, Alexandria and Kara. The job she loved the most was Nanny to Keinen, Shea, Clover, Hailey, and Roxy. With a family the size of a traditional clan, she will be greatly missed by both the Whetham and O’Toole families. Brenda is predeceased by her daughter Amanda, her parents, Harvey and Agnes Whetham, as well as brothers John (Pat), Dennis (Debbie) and Jerry (Judy), sister-in-law Mille Hookey (John deceased), and brother-in-law Tommy O’Toole (Phyllis deceased).

She will also be missed by siblings Marlene (late John), Glen (Linda), Doreen (Jim), Brian (Debbie), and Neil (Lynn); siblings-in law Mary Adams (Richard), Shirley Lawlor, Margaret O’Toole, Pat O’Toole, John O’Toole (Marian), Edward O’Toole, Kit Winsor (George), Cindy Taylor (Bob), and obviously, based on the list above, many, many nieces and nephews.

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Tom Vann

7 May 2021

Brenda was a wonderful gentle lady. Our Condolences to the family. Tom, Lucy, Jenny Vann.

Glenys Brown Spinney

30 April 2021

Dear Martin and family,
I was so saddened to hear about your loving wife Brenda. Thinking of you and your families with deepest sympathy. Wishing you strength for today and comfort in the days ahead. Hugs going to you and your family

Glenys Brown Spinney. .

Judy Belanger

28 April 2021

I will always remember Brenda for her kindness, loving nature , thoughtfulness and our almost 40 years of incredible friendship. She will be in my heart forever. My sincerest condolences to the family and friends of the O’toole’s. -Judy

Sheila Lawrence

24 April 2021

Martin and family , my heart goes out to you . I will mention her in my prayers. Take care my friend and stay safe . One thing I can say about Brenda she always had a smile when we would meet . She always made a efford to say hi when we were all together .
Take care Martin ❤️

Kelly Gimmer

24 April 2021

Brenda was my Mom's best friend and we spent a lot of time either going shopping in the U.S.A or garage sales around town. She never met a sale she didn't like and would easily fill my Mom's trunk :)
She was funny, very caring and giving. You couldn't help but smile when you were around her. She always went to everyone's functions, be it baby or wedding showers, birthday parties and weddings. You could always count on Brenda. And she really was the best friend my Mom could ever hope for. I will miss her.
My thoughts and hugs go out to Martin and family.

Betty Rose

24 April 2021

To Martin and his family
I am so very sorry to hear about Brenda's passing she was such a great and loved person by everyone she met and always a smile on her face Brenda will always be loved and well missed by u all but just hold all the memories close tc love huggs to u all( cousin Bet)

Cindy Taylor

23 April 2021

Dear Martin, Tim, Joey, Colin and families,

Our deepest sympathies to all of you as we hold on to the wonderful memories Brenda left us with.

Brenda was an incredibly loving wife, mom, mother-in-law, grandmother, aunt, sister, sister-in-law and friend. All our lives have been enriched for having known her.

She put up a strong fight over the last year and has inspired us all.
Rest in peace Brennie, you are loved and will forever be in our hearts.

Love Cynt and Bob

Tania Findlay

23 April 2021

Aunt Brenda always brought the light. She is the most kindest loving woman that I've every known. 🙏

SYLVIA WHETHAM

23 April 2021

I really don't know where to begin. My aunt was a part of my life since I was born. My aunt Brenda and my aunt Doreen would always get me out of the crib I was like there little doll. And then I was always with my aunt brenda when I grow up. Don't tell the boys I changed their diapers LOL, and I was in their wedding I was the flower girl I still remember her telling me that the priest loved me. This is funny I don't know said it but they said Martin was a goofy nefie and I cried.She was always there for me and Martin they were like my second parents. I told my aunt that she could keep my brother and sister and she laughed. She was beautiful she was the best mother figure, aunt and friend and I will totally miss her. Love you always Sylvia
inside and out.

Cindy & Bob Taylor

22 April 2021

Dear Martin, Tim, Joey, Colin and families,

Our deepest sympathies to all of you as we hold on to the wonderful memories Brenda left us with.

Brenda was an incredibly loving wife, mom, grandmother, mother-in-law, sister, aunt, sister-in-law and friend and all of our lives have been enriched for having known her.

Brenda was strong through her battle and inspired all of us.

Rest in Peace Brennie, we love you and will miss you.

Love,
Cynt and Bob