John R. Wilcox

Dr. John Richard Wilcox, 87, passed away peacefully on January 1, 2026, in Danbury, Connecticut. A lifelong scholar, devoted family man, and steadfast man of faith, John’s life was a testament to the values he held dear—education, service, and love.

Born on January 1, 1939, in New York City to Herbert and Margaret Wilcox, John grew up immersed in the vibrant culture of the city that would shape his intellectual curiosity and spiritual foundation. He attended Mount St. Michael Academy for high school before continuing his education at Marist College. Following his undergraduate studies, he entered the Marist Brother Seminary, deepening his commitment to his Catholic faith. His academic journey continued at Fordham University where he completed a MA in Religious Education. He was awarded a Fulbright Fellowship to study at the University of Nijmegen in The Netherlands. His academic journey culminated with his receiving his Ph.D. in Christian Social Ethics from Union Theological Seminary.

John dedicated much of his professional life to Catholic higher education and since 1974 to Manhattan College, where he served with distinction as a professor and Chair of the Religious Studies Department. Later, he became Vice President of Mission at the college—a role that allowed him to integrate his deep faith with his passion for education and community building. In recognition of his contributions to Lasallian education and values-based leadership, he was honored as Manhattan College’s Distinguished Lasallian Educator for the academic year 1996–1997. John also published multiple books focused on religion and ethics.

Needless to say, enormous reserves of spiritual energy were needed, both by John and by his spouse Suzanne, to fulfill their assigned roles at this time. Each found some of this energy during summer workshops and retreats. For John, the Buttimer Institute melded the activism of teaching and administering with the quiet practice of prayer. “Live Jesus in our hearts forever”. For Suzanne, and ultimately for both, Benedictine spirituality contained rich depths of access to peace in God’s presence. “Sit in your cell and it will teach you everything”. Camaldolese monks and nuns, reformers of the original “benedictine path”, attracted both John and Suzanne. In the year 2002, both John and Suzanne professed vows as Oblates of Camaldoli, a contemplative community monastery in Big Sur, California.

John’s devotion extended far beyond the classroom. A committed Catholic throughout his life, he remained deeply involved in every parish he joined. Most recently, he was an active member of St. Gregory the Great Church. His early years as a Marist Brother laid the groundwork for a lifetime of spiritual commitment that guided every aspect of his life.

For 52 years, John shared a wonderful marriage with Dr. Suzanne Dale Wilcox—the love of his life and constant companion through decades of joy and challenge alike. Together they raised three children: Kenneth Wilcox and Lillian Wilcox, who survive him; and Chris Wilcox, who preceded him in death. With his loving family, John spent many happy hours and Lake George enjoying their summer house and boat. Kenney organized hundreds of wiffle ball tournaments; Chris and Lillian fished to their hearts content.

John was known for his gentle spirit and calming presence—qualities that endeared him to all who knew him. He had an innate ability to bring out the best in others simply by being present. His unwavering patience and kindness left an indelible mark on friends, colleagues, students, and family alike.

Outside of academia and church life, John found joy in many pursuits. He was a voracious reader who never missed a Sunday edition of The New York Times or The Wall Street Journal. A true cinephile with eclectic tastes rooted in childhood double features at local theaters in New York City, John delighted in films both classic and contemporary.

An avid runner well into his later years, John could often be seen jogging through Cross River and Waccabuc—always offering a friendly wave to neighbors along the way. Winters were spent with Suzanne in Naples, Florida—a cherished tradition filled with warmth and relaxation.

Travel was another passion that brought great joy to John's life. Together with Suzanne or on family adventures, he explored Germany, Italy, France, Russia, Canada, Mexico, the Bahamas, the U.S. Virgin Islands—and countless destinations across the United States including the family favorite trips to Disney World.

Dr. John Richard Wilcox leaves behind a legacy grounded in faith, education, compassion, and love—a legacy that will continue to inspire all who had the privilege of knowing him.

May his memory bring comfort to those who mourn his passing and serve as a guiding light for generations to come. A Liturgy Service will be held on May 9, 2026, from 11:00 AM to 12:00 PM at St. Gregory the Great Church 85 Great Plain Rd., Danbury, CT 06811. A reception will follow in the Deacon Murphy Parish Hall at noon.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in John's memory may be made to CMMB (Catholic Medical Mission Board), POB 37041, Boone, IA 50037-0041

Arrangements by Green Funeral Home, Danbury, CT.