Jeffrey Scott Toomey
7 June, 1958 – 15 February, 2021
Jeffrey Scott Toomey, 62, recently of Pinehurst, N.C., passed away on Tuesday, February 15, after a brief illness. Jeff was born June 7, 1958, in Gastonia, N.C., the eldest child of Richard G. and Nancy Goforth Toomey, Jr. of Greensboro, N.C. Jeff was on the move as a child, growing up in five cities between North Carolina and Florida. This travel experience seemed to carry into his adult life as he followed a teaching career spanning three decades in the golf industry, beginning seriously in Hilton Head and ending at Pinehurst. The two acclaimed golf venues were bookends in a career as a golf club professional and golf instructor. A graduate of East Mecklenburg High School at Charlotte, N,C., Jeff attended St. Andrews and Western Carolina Universities. He also pursued an early career in the Hospitality Industry that took him to resorts in Vail, Co., and to Embassy Suites in Greensboro, among other locations in the South Carolina Lowcountry. In his singular journey through life, Jeff was a loving son, husband, devoted father, friend and valued tutor to hundreds of students. He is survived by his father Richard G. Toomey, Jr.; daughter Alison Annette Toomey of Flemington, N. J.; Alison’s mother Annette Tolbert of Greensboro; fiancé Anne Beck Thompson of Pinehurst; sister Julia MacKenzie of Greenville, N.C.; brothers John R. Toomey and wife Diane of Collegeville, Pa.; Richard G. Toomey III and wife Amanda P. of Greensboro; nieces Suzanne Claytor and husband Andrew Claytor of Richmond, Va.; Blair Mackenzie and Mara Holland Mackenzie of Raleigh, N. C.; Sophia Toomey of Greensboro; and nephews David Toomey and wife Rosy of Jacksonville, Fla. and Michael Mackenzie of Greenville. The family plans a private ceremony in the Columbarium alcove at Jamestown United Methodist Church, Jamestown, N.C., with Rev. David Greene officiating. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that memorials be made to the American Cancer Society or to a favorite Charity.
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Jeffrey Scott Toomey
3 March 2021
My Dad taught me so much. He taught me how to live and how to love. And of course, taught me a lot about golf! He also taught me the truth about life. He always told me to live life with eyes wide open, to protect myself at all cost. He told me to use my energy for good. He was always a spiritual person and took that upon himself to teach and guide the people in his life. He was passionate about his beliefs and you could never sway him on that. He did not sugar coat anything, he was always honest and spoke his truths no matter what. He was strong minded but also a big teddy bear. He always felt for others. Out of everything that I miss about him, I am going to miss his hugs the most. This will never feel real, but I’ll be sure to live through him. I miss you so much Dad. I’m sure you’re working on everyone’s golf swing in Heaven! Tell your Mom I said hi, I think about you both every day.
1 March 2021
When Jeff was 2, I gave him a plastic golf club. Took a photo of his swing. Would kill to be able to duplicate it. He was always a "natural." He won the Columbia, S.C. Punt Pass & Kick competition for his age group (8). Steve Jobs said “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice." In everything he did, Jeff lived that advice, and never stopped searching for Truth. God bless you, my son. You will fill my heart forever. I pray you and Nancy are together, at last reunited.
28 February 2021
Jeff was a true friend and someone I will greatly miss. We grew up together in middle and high school, running around Charlotte and playing lots of golf. He was a unique man, someone who was truly genuine and cared greatly for his friends and family. He was always there to help someone in need. He loved life and exuded a “happy-go-lucky” charm that made him special. Rest In Peace buddy!
27 February 2021
Alison, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I never met your father, but have heard great things from your mom. She speaks highly of him. There is nothing like the love of a father for his child. Remember this as your father now rests peacefully in the arms of our Father God! Cherish the many memories that you made. You will carry these with you for the rest of your days and he will always be with you! Love you!
25 February 2021
Alison, I am so sorry to hear of your dad's passing! Your mom always shared so many memories that you had with him. I know he will continue to be with you and watching over you in the days ahead. I'm praying for you to find strength , peace and comfort through your memories during this time and days to come. Love you lots and miss you.
25 February 2021
Jeff and I share a wonderful, amazing and beautiful daughter together and would often talk about just how proud of Alison we are. He loved and adored her and was a great father and friend. This is such a huge loss and heaven's gain! He will be greatly missed and never forgotten. We love you so very much. Until we see you again, Jeff. Rest in sweet heavenly peace.
23 February 2021
I miss Jeff so much already... a true heart, a heart of gold ..a genuine brother/friend.
With Jeff .., what you see is what you get... no airs about Jeff. He spoke his truth the way he saw things.... he was genuinely authentic. He didn’t aspire to impress people, but for those he made connections with, were connections for life. He was on his journey to find his truth. He was full of love for his maker, and love for his family and friends.
This quote always reminded me of Jeff:
“Some people hear their own inner voices with great clearness. And they live by what they hear. Such people become crazy, but they become legend.” From the movie Legends of the fall.
23 February 2021
Best Dad a girl could ask for.
22 February 2021
I met Jeff when we were 10 years old, and we stayed close friends over the following 52 years. He was one of my best friends and I have too many exciting stories to choose one over the other. It was a blessing to have him in my life and I will never forget his story telling, laughter, smile and friendship.
21 February 2021
Jeff and I shared a ton of memories together. From him working with me on my golf swing, playing many rounds together, and my turning professional at the game! I always loved Jeff and will miss him greatly! That man loved his little girl Alison like no other! Swing those stick in Heaven buddy! I will miss you! Ryan
17 February 2021
Prayers for the family. Many great memories of Jeff.