Carole Kathryn Bickimer

16 April, 193323 September, 2020

Carole Kathryn Bickimer, 87, passed away on September 23, 2020.

Carole was preceded in death by the love of her life, her husband Thomas Elwood and her son, Paul Bickimer and grandson, Paul Bickimer. Carole is survived by her children Tom Bickimer (Mary), Mary Ferran (Dave), Leslie Bullington (Greg), Laura Kalmus (Bernie), 21 grandchildren and 22 great-grandchildren. Anyone who was blessed to know our Mom experienced her unwavering faith, unconditional love and grace.

Carole was born on April 16th, 1933 in Fort Wayne, Indiana to Harold and Bernadette Briggeman. She was the youngest of three. She now joins her siblings, Don (wife, Joanne) and Marilyn (husband, Robert) in heaven.

Carole graduated from Mt. Mary College with a degree in Education and was teaching elementary school when she met her true love, Thomas Elwood Bickimer. They married in 1957 and in the years following joyfully welcomed five children. Together they built a family on a foundation of faith and love. After 16 years of marriage, Carole had to say an early good-bye to her husband, Tom. Leaning on her devout faith, she raised their children with steadfast and unconditional love.

Carole’s family grew to include 21 grandchildren and 22 great-grandchildren. She made each grandchild feel unique and special through spending one on one time during their “Grandma Days” together.

Carole enjoyed watching sporting events with her family. A native Hoosier, she was an avid basketball fan who always participated in the family’s March Madness bracket. Carole was also an avid Chiefs fan who rarely missed tuning into their games.

A woman of many talents including art, pottery and gardening – she mastered them all. Most important in Carole’s life was her service to others. She spent many years volunteering at Seton Center and St. Joseph Hospital.

Carole was a devout Catholic and founding member of St. Thomas More Catholic Church. She remained a member for over 50 years. Carole embraced all she met with grace and compassion. She especially held her many friends close to her heart. Carole was loved by all who knew her, and will be deeply missed.

On Thursday October 1st the rosary will be prayed at 9:30 a.m. followed by a eulogy at 9:50 a.m and a Mass of Christian Burial at 10:00 a.m. at St. Thomas More. The service will be live-streamed beginning at 9:50 a.m. To view, click the Join Live Stream button on this site. After the service, burial and internment will be held for the family at Mount Moriah Cemetery South.

In lieu of flowers, the family suggest contributions be made to Seton Center, 2816 East 23rd Street, Kansas City, MO 64127 or Urban Rangers, 5908 Swope Parkway, Kansas City, MO 64130.


  • Harold Briggeman, Father (deceased)
  • Bernadette (Oddou) Briggeman, Mother (deceased)
  • Thomas Elwood Bickimer, Husband (deceased)
  • Paul Bickimer, Son (deceased)
  • Paul Bickimer, Grandson (deceased)
  • Tom Bickimer (Mary), Son
  • Mary Ferran (Dave), Daughter
  • Leslie Bullington (Greg), Daughter
  • Laura Kalmus (Bernie), Daughter
  • Twenty One (21), Grandchildren
  • Twenty Two (22), Great-grandchildren

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Mark and Becky Thimmig

October 2, 2020

Mark Thimmig: I remember Aunt Carole's sweetness and kindness and her passion for her faith. She always cared, always took the time to listen, and always prayed for others' needs.

Becky Thimmig: I remember how Aunt Carole's light shone! She counseled me often with a deep wisdom that sprang from her life of faith. She taught me how to carry my cross well.

Our prayer: Thank you, God, for Aunt Carole! We know You better through her. She was one of the most selfless and loving people we have ever known.

Ellen Sterner Sedeno

September 29, 2020

I am so sorry for your loss and also the worlds loss of such a wonderful and kind person. Mrs.
Bickimer was always so welcoming and always smiling. While her life had many sorrows she always had a joyful spirit. As a friend of Mary’s I always admired the whole Bickimer family for their closeness and love of their Mother.

She was very special.
May God help Bring you comfort during this time. Fondly, Ellen Sterner Sedeno

Loretto Colwell

September 28, 2020

Please accept my sympathy and prayers for all of the family.
I knew Carole at Seton Center and always enjoyed visiting with her on Mondays. Carole had such a gift for arranging the items for display in the Thrift Store! Sister Marie Madeleine and I visited Carole many times at Santa Marta and had a delightful time.
May God grant her eternal rest and grant peace to her loved ones.
We will miss her and we will attend the live stream on Thursday.
Blessings, Sisters Loretto Marie and Marie Madeleine

Michael Mansfield

September 28, 2020

Dear Tom and all of the family,
Sending lots of healing and time and gentleness your way as we mourn the loss of your mom, grandma, and great-grandma. It was such a great place to grow up in Kansas City with the Dalton, Bickimer, and Stewart corner of the world so close to Cherry Street.
Over the years I've spoken with your mom at church or in the neighborhood. Our moms have stayed close friends.
Know we are keeping you all in our hearts.
Michael Mansfield
and The Mansfields of Cherry Street

Peggy Calhoun

September 27, 2020

I am so very sad to receive this information as are my children and their father George. Carol was the sweetest person I've ever known. The kindest neighbor we could ever ask for. It was evident the love she had for her family.
She used to pay John to get rid of squirrels and chipmunks! He'll always remember that.
I'll miss helping her pick out plants and flowers these last few years when she'd drop by the Nursery. It was a special joy to see her.
Rest in peace my friend.


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