Penelope Ann Lilley

18 March, 193813 July, 2020

Penelope Ann (Penny) Lilley passed away peacefully on Monday, July 13th, 2020 in Keller, Texas.

Penny was born Penelope Ann O’Daniel on March 18th, 1938 in St. Louis, Missouri. Her parents were George E. O’Daniel and Alene Bomer O’Daniel. She spent her childhood in Long Island, New York and Kansas City, Kansas.

Penny graduated as the valedictorian from Washington High School in Kansas City, Kansas, where she was a member of the National Honor Society. She loved singing, among other pursuits, and was active in several choruses. After high school, she attended the University of Kansas, where she studied occupational therapy and graduated with distinction. She was a member of Kappa Kappa Gamma sorority.

While at college, she met Neil W. Lilley. They wed in 1961 and were lovingly and devotedly married for nearly 60 years.

For many years, she worked as an occupational therapist at Menorah Medical Center in Kansas City, Missouri. She volunteered in her community in several roles, including serving as President of the Board of the Richard Cabot Clinic and acting for several years as a docent tour guide at the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art in Kansas City.

Penny was a longtime member of Saint Andrew's Episcopal Church in Kansas City, where she served for several years as a member of the altar guild. Later, she attended St. Martin-in-the-Fields Episcopal Church in Keller, Texas.

She enjoyed travel, particularly to various national parks and European destinations, where she and Neil emphasized seeing the wonders of nature, historical landmarks, and fine arts. Penny also enjoyed family vacations at Lake Lotawana, Missouri, Gull Lake, Minnesota, Breckenridge, Colorado, and Green Valley, Arizona. She was an avid golfer, and a member of Mission Hills Country Club in Mission Hills, Kansas where she enjoyed many friendships. She was also a fan of the Kansas Jayhawks and the Kansas City Chiefs.

Most of all, she is remembered as a loving and dedicated wife, mother, and grandmother who cared for all and who always had a beautiful smile and a charming laugh.

She is survived by husband Neil W. Lilley, and by son Neil B. Lilley and granddaughter Katharine Lilley of Huntington, New York, and by son Jeff Lilley, grandson Walker Lilley and daughter-in-law Michelle Lilley of Keller, Texas, and by nephew Chris Baker and niece Caroline Baker of Baltimore, Maryland. She is preceded in death by her sister Georgia O’Daniel Baker.

In lieu of flowers, please consider donating in memory of Penny Lilley to Saint Andrew's Episcopal Church at

Online condolences and reflections can be expressed at

A graveside service will be held on Thursday, August 6th, 2020 at 10:00 AM at Forest Hill Cemetery, 6901 Troost Avenue, Kansas City, Missouri.


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Amy Haun

8 August 2020

Dear Lilley family,
I was so sorry to read about the loss of Penny in the KC Star. I imagine, like many mothers, she was the "glue" of the family. I am thinking of you all during this difficult time and praying you feel God's presence in your lives.
with love,
Amy Haun

Patsy Stine

5 August 2020

To the Penny Lilley family:
Please accept our condolences in your loss of Penny. She was a special classmate in our WHS class of 1956!
Patsy (Potter) and Don Stine

Jazmine Bustamante

3 August 2020

Penny and Neil used to come into my pharmacy and they were always so sweet. Penny had a heart of gold through and through. It pains me to see her that she has passed, but I know she’s up above watching us. I’m so sorry for your loss Mr. Lilley. I’ll keep you and the family in my thoughts and prayers.

Rod Minkin

3 August 2020

Hello Nick,

Gerre and I wish to offer our sincere condolences upon Penny's passing. We are very sorry for your loss. In our tradition there are some words of comfort: "May her memory be for a blessing." Please give our good thoughts to all of your family.

Rod and Gerre Minkin

Jean Challinor Hall

28 July 2020

Nick, I just wanted to tell you how sorry I was to learn about Penny's death. There was an email from St. Andrews including her obituary. I had lost complete track of you both and hadn't realized you were in Texas. I would ordinarily write you a note, but have no idea of your address. You probably know that Dave died 14 years ago of heart problems. Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and your family.


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