Scott Anthony Bonin

Hello everyone and thanks for coming to help us celebrate Scott’s life together. As I stand here, I see many friends and relatives. I am humbled and impressed at how he must have touched your lives. I can only speak for myself, but when I think of how he touched my life and our children’s’ lives, he will be in our hearts forever and we are so very saddened, knowing that we will never again have our hearts touched by such a complete and total love like we got from Scott.

Scott was an incredible man that nobody can replace… at least not in my heart. We’ve been together for 18 years, married for 12 years. What we had was not a perfect marriage; but then none are. We had a lot of struggles over the last few years, but we could both finally see the light at the end. We gave life to two very beautiful children, Trey and Emily. He also touched the lives and hearts of his step children, Andrew and Daniel.

As I am sure you all know, Scott was a man of few words, but not when it came to talking about his family, especially all 4 of our children, he only wished that he had gotten to spend more time with them. I still remember one conversation I had with him. We were talking about our kids. About how we wanted to see all of them grow up. He is so proud of the man that Andrew has become and the things he has accomplished. He had lots of dreams for the children, yet encouraged them to follow their dreams. Our daughter was in a major production of the nutcracker in Vancouver this year, it was her first of many ballet’s I am sure, Scott was so proud of her and he was so excited to see it, but unfortunately he missed it because of a cold a couple days before his passing. What to say about Trey, he was Scott’s rock through our family struggles and had such a special place in Scott’s heart. Scott was a proud father. He was the type of father who would flaunt his kids to his friends and talked, or should I say bragged about them often.

Scott loved our family vacations, his favourite by far was Mexico, he got his paperwork ready last Spring so when a few things were resolved, he would be prepared for a family trip to Mexico, but with the kids this time.

Scott lived his life the best way he could. He never had enemies nor did he step on anyone. Scott was well loved and I guess seeing everyone here right now, having this crowd at his funeral only proves that indeed Scott was and is well loved. How could he not be? He was such a kind soul. The type of person that can lift your spirits and make you feel like you are the only person in the world , at least I think of him that way. If I could live my life all over again and went back to the time when Scott asked me to marry him, a million times over I would still say yes! Marrying him was the best decision I have ever made in my life and I would not change that ever. That’s how much I love my husband and my best friend… That’s how much I will keep on loving him.

I could stand here and list all the reasons I love him, many of which you have likely already read, such as “Scott’s love was genuine and infinite and he was likely the most loyal, honest and compassionate person I will never know and I am so blessed to have been the love of his life.

This past week, I have cried more than I ever remember crying and I know it will not stop for some time. The tears usually start over different things, like on New Year’s we ordered Chinese food, when I was looking at the menu, I saw beef in black bean sauce, which is Scott’s favourite, but he rarely ordered it because it was too spicy for Emily. I cry over all that Scott is going to miss with the kids, he and Trey had plans to build Trey’s first car, Trey has mentioned many things he had planned on doing with his Dad and now can’t. I think of Scott missing the children’s graduations, weddings, grandchildren, especially walking his princess down the aisle, he had the father/daughter song picked out as soon as she was born.

You’re here today, and I thank you for that, it means that he touched your life in some way or another. That means that you will miss him in some way or another.

I struggled with finding a way to end this eulogy, when I found this online and it seemed so fitting:

When I looked outside last night I noticed a single star,

With fog so dense you couldn't see the moon, I knew it could only be you.

I stared at you for a while hoping for a reason,

Then realized at that very moment that you weren't gone at all,

In fact you are and always will be alive in our hearts and memories,

Your love is just that strong,

So strong in fact that it has burned a hole in the fog,

Just so that the light of you can keep us warm and protected at night.

Though night shall fade and day shall come,

I know that you have not left us,

For you are now our shadow that guides and protects all of our days,

We know now that we shall never walk alone again,

For you will always be there holding our hands.

One would not think to ever hurt us,

For they will see my Husband and our children’s dad at our sides,

And know that a man of great stature and power protects me and our children.

We will sleep easy tonight,

Knowing that you are here with us,

When I feel that extra bit of warmth and security at night,

I know it is but your arms wrapped around me.

We will never be Alone; And You will never be forgotten.

Scott, if you are listening here today, please always know

You are in all of our hearts forever and for always!

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Scott passed away unexpectedly December 22, 2014, in Surrey BC . Scott was born in High Prairie, AB. He spent his younger school years in Alberta. After moving to BC he attended South Delta Secondary School, and had many friends in Boundary Bay where he grew up, and was always one of his favourite places to go for family outings. He loved to travel, his favourites were Cannon Beach and Mexico and he cherished his time in Kelowna.

He loved hiking with his family and biking with his stepson Andrew. Anytime he spent with his family, especially Trey and Emily, meant the world to him. He worked at many car dealerships as a service advisor, most recently Open Road Honda and Jim Pattison Volvo.

Scott is survived by; his Wife: Traci, children: Trey (12) and Emily (10), Adult Stepchildren: Daniel Mann and Andrew Mann, his Mother; Ingrid Bonin, Grandmother: Marie Bonin. And many aunts, uncles and cousins. Scott is predeceased by his birth father Stephen MacDonald, his Dad Gordie Bonin, his Paternal Grandfather, Joe Bonin, his maternal Grandmother, Ruth Hanson and his Maternal Grandfather, Edward Hanson.

Scott will forever be in our hearts. His love was genuine and infinite. For those that knew him , consider yourself lucky as he was likely the most loyal, honest and compassionate person you will ever know.

"In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to The Estate of Scott Bonin, for a trust fund for, his children, Trey and Emily."