Clarence Thomas Kamalii Jr.

Clarence Thomas Kamalii Jr. was a man for whom actions would speak louder than words. His life motto might well have been “if it isn’t logical, it’s not important.” The qualities of being fair, just and the ability to recognize what was right were clearly driving forces in Clarence’s life. He was also the kind of person who could respect a “do not disturb” sign, whether it was real or implied. He was analytical and observant, with an ability to be simultaneously spontaneous and keenly perceptive. Clarence was modest in his actions and extremely literal in his thoughts and in the manner in which he communicated with others. When Clarence said something, he meant it. All those who knew him appreciated this trademark quality.

Clarence was born on July 31, 1946 in Honolulu, Hawaii. His parents were Clarence Thomas Kamalii Sr. and Helen Dolores Kamalii (Chaves). Clarence was raised in The Hawaiian Islands. Even as a small child, Clarence wanted to understand what was right and what was wrong in any given situation. As Clarence grew older, he realized the importance of being treated fairly, and in return, he treated everyone around him the same way. This belief in fair play served Clarence well throughout his life and despite his natural shyness; he enjoyed a solid group of friends.

Since Clarence sought to treat those around him with respect, he often found himself in the role of playing peacemaker within his family. He was comfortable in working through the types of sibling rivalry situations that quite often occur, because he just walked away. Clarence was raised with 3 siblings. Priscilla, Rodney and Stella. Clarence was constantly involved in activities with his siblings. Clarence and his siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up, but they shared many life experiences.

During his childhood, family and friends viewed Clarence as a quiet and reserved person with what most would consider a calm and tranquil demeanor. In fact, he was a fairly curious child who had the ability to entertain himself and didn’t require much in the way of outside stimulation. A great deal of Clarence’s free time was spent learning how and why the things around him worked. He was an active child who loved being outdoors and absorbing all the sensory input that nature could provide. He played Basketball, Football and Baseball. In his spare time he liked to play all sports.

The fact that he was curious was an asset to Clarence while he was in school. Experience was Clarence’s best teacher. He graduated from Aiea High School in 1964. Clarence's memorable achievements included Captain of the Aiea High School Football Team.

Clarence's ability to work through problems and assignments without wasting time and energy demonstrated to his instructors that he possessed a real “stick to it” attitude that allowed him to succeed despite an underlying desire to defer making difficult decisions. Clarence was an analytical and an independent thinker, qualities that allowed him to develop and implement effective strategies and techniques to meet his college workload. Clarence had a full football scholarship, attended for a few years and then decided to come home.

This same loyalty and up front honesty Clarence shared with his friends carried over to other aspects of his life, including his relationships with his family. On June 9, 2004, Clarence exchanged wedding vows with Marta Kay Wade in a friend's front yard of Kurtistown, Hawaii. The marriage became a solid relationship, due in part to Clarence’s skill at bringing fresh energy and clarity to meeting Marta's needs. He was a great listener who enjoyed the couple’s “together” time, especially when it came to celebrating special occasions with each other.

As the family grew, Clarence adapted to the challenges of parenthood. Clarence was blessed with 4 children, 1 son Keoni Kamalii and 3 step daughters Darnell Ladao (Eddie), Johanna Moore (Michael Diaz) and Myra Miranda (Tony). They were also blessed with 11 grandchildren, Liliana, Kayle and Kona Kamalii, Christina, Jovan, Jaren and Jarico Johnson, Stephenie and Kekoa Moore, Alicia Miranda and 1 great grand child Jayston Johnson.

Clarence was an Army Veteran. He understood his duty to serve his country and the importance of getting a job done. He was comfortable with the routines of the military and even liked them to some degree, especially when it came to grasping the clear instructions and guidelines he was expected to follow. Clarence saw action in the Vietnam War. Through his hard work and dedication, he achieved the rank of E-5. He received several awards including a Vietnam Service Medal, Army Commendation Medal, National Defense Service Medal, Vietnam Campaign Medal, Air Medal and 2 Overseas Bars.

Clarence particularly enjoyed the “alone” time his hobbies provided. His favorite pursuits were Basketball and Tennis and later in life enjoyed a round of golf. Clarence was content to enjoy his hobbies alone but was also willing to share his interests with close friends.

Clarence and Marta moved to Menifee, CA in September 2011.

Clarence appreciated the occasions when he was able to travel and get away on a vacation. He enjoyed learning about different locales and was open to exploring new and different places. Favorite vacation spot included going back home to Hawaii. He let Marta make all the plans and he would go along for the ride.

Clarence was a lover of animals and cherished his pets. One of Clarence’s favorites was Poipu, A Rottweiler. They were best friends for 11 years. His family was rounded out by Keaka and Bentley.

Clarence passed away on May 23, 2023 peacefully at home listening to Hawaiian music with his wife Marta by his side along with Johanna, Myra, Jennifer and Bentley. He is survived by his loving wife, Marta, son Keoni, his stepdaughters Darnell, Johanna and Myra along with many grandchildren, a great grandchild and numerous nieces and nephews. Along with Aunties', Uncles, and cousins throughout the Hawaiian Islands. Services will be held at the Miller Jones Mortuary, 26770 Murrieta Rd. Menifee, CA 92585 on July 14, 2023 at 10:30 am. Clarence will be cremated and scattered in Hawaii at a later date.

Clarence strongly believed that talk is cheap. He was the type of person who would show others his feelings through his actions. He was practical and realistic but was able to be flexible when the need arose. He had a curiosity about the things around him and tried to experience life directly rather than sit back and talk about it. The experiences he treasured most were those he shared with his loved ones. Clarence Thomas Kamalii Jr. will be greatly missed.