Thoughts and prayers with all of your family on this anniversary of TJ. Take comfort in the knowledge that he is at home with our Lord and Savior and on day you will be reunited. 

Sharon and Bobby so sad to hear about the passing of TJ.  The entire Kilcarr  family is in our thoughts and prays 
Kathie and Vic Muscia 

Bob. I’m am so saddened by your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I’m sorry I was not able to attend the services. God Bless Timothy and your family. 
Tom McKiernan. 

With heavy heart I say goodbye to TJ, my friend. Tri Tower will not be the same without you. I am ever thankful for the time we had together. My life is better for having known you and you will never be forgotten. 

Alex

I never had the opportunity to meet TJ in person, but I have worked with him for many years via email and phone calls. TJ was always very kind, personable, and easy to talk to. I wish I could have had the opportunity to hang out with you.  You could tell he was a good soul. I was very upset to hear of his passing 

I'm saying prayers for TJ and his family. I'm so sorry about your loss.
Rest in peace, TJ.

Respectfully, 

Scott Thompson at Thomtek  

Excerpt lyrics from "Pig" by Dave Matthews...

Oh, this love will open our world
From the dark side we can see the glow of something bright
There's much more than we see here
So don't burn the day away
Don't burn the day
Don't burn the day away

Is this not enough
This blessed sip of life, is it not enough?
Staring down at the ground?
Oh, then complain and pray for more from above? 
Ya greedy, little pig

Oh, just love will open our eyes
Just love will put the hope back in our minds
Much more than we could ever know
Oh, so, don't burn the day away
Don't burn the day away

Oh, come sister, my brother
Shake up your bones, shake up your feet
I'm saying open up and let the rain come pouring in
Wash out this tired notion
Oh, that the best is yet to come
But, oh, while you're dancing on the ground

Don't think of when you're gone
Love! Love! Love!  What more is there?!
'Cause we need the light of love in here

Don't beat your head, dry your eyes
Let the love in there
There's bad times, but that's OK
Just look for love in it
And don't burn the day away

Look, here are we
On this starry night staring into space
And I must say
I feel as small as dust lying down here
What point could there be troubling
Head down wondering what will become of me
Why concern, what we cannot see?

The time is short, that's all right
May we'll go out in the middle of the night
Take your hands from your eyes, my love
All good things must come to an end some time
But don't burn the day away
Don't burn the day away.

Love! Love!  Love!  What more is there?!
Don't beat your head, dry your eyes
Let the love in there
There are bad times
Well, that's OK
Just look for love in it
Just let love in there
Love
Love, what more is there? 

Sharon & Bobby (and family)-
I will always remember TJ and Brittani hanging out as kids and early teens in the neighborhood before we moved away. This is heartbreaking news and I wish I could pay my respects in person. I’m so very sorry for your loss. 
Jenni (McLiverty) Daniel 

Our heartfelt condolences to the Kilcarr family on the loss of this sweet young man. He was always kind and helpful and we are heartbroken to hear of his unexpected loss. God bless T.J. and you all.
Much love, 
Tracy Mascarelli 
& sons , Steven, Travis, Gary, and Corey Senecal


I only knew TJ  for the year we were neighbors but because of TJ’s kindness and loving spirit I felt as if I knew him for many years, not just one.  Always positive with a smile on his face, he made my day just that much brighter when I would see him walking Sophie or arm and arm with his beautiful wife, Erin.  The tears are flowing for a life cut short much too soon.   I take some comfort knowing how much better the world is and mine because he was part of it.  God bless you, TJ,  and God bless his family during this sad and tragic time.

TJ was one of the best people I have ever met.  
 
Over the 7 years we have been working together,  I have never seen him in a bad mood.  He was always happy, and you could count on him for a smile or laugh.
 
He cared about people.  When he asked how you were doing, he was honestly interested in what you had to say.  He always had kind and motivating words for everyone he met.
 
My kids grew up knowing him and he them.  He would often ask about my daughter's plays or dance recitals and say,  “Tell Aubrey that Uncle TJ says to break a leg”  ( he would remind me he was a closet musical theatre junky).
  
He would ask about my son’s new school, and say he couldn’t believe he was getting so big...he remembered when he was a baby.
  
Through our conversations about family, TJ always brought up his.  He was so proud of his mom, dad, and brothers.  From his stories I quickly realized that he had very loving family and great childhood.
 
He often mentioned how happy he was with Erin.  He spoke about all the fun they have together in Connecticut on the beach, going crabbing and fishing.
 
At work there was no better mentor.  TJ was very successful and busy, but he always took time to teach new sales reps how to become successful.  
 
TJ invested in people.
 
He was a great co-worker and friend and I will miss him tremendously.



BRING IT IN, BROTHER...


I'll remember the first time we met,
There was something special about you, 
Like being reacquainted with an old friend, 
And thinking how can this be true, 

You were like an energetic little brother, 
Always on the go,
Thinking two steps ahead,
And finding new ways to grow,

You rarely let things get to you,
And even when they would, 
You'd smile and nod your head, 
Only focusing on the good, 

You always asked about our families, 
Always including everyone, 
Asking each other trivia questions, 
Just to make work more fun,

Talking about sports, 
And places we both knew,
Solidified our friendship, 
And what it turned into,

We watched your transformation, 
With every year that passed, 
As you accomplished great things,
Creating memories that would last,

I'll look back on those memories, 
When i hear someone say your name,
And I'll  smile with tears in my eyes,
Remembering the last time you came, 

We talked about work,
Then we talked about lives, 
We talked about back home,
We talked about our wives,

When we were done talking, 
And i was almost to the door, 
You said (bring it in brother),
Like every time before, 

We both said goodbye, 
One last hug, and that was it,
Thank you for all the memories, 
Each and every bit.


LARRY BRACEY 2022


TJ was loved member of the Tri Tower team since 2015 and epitomized everything that we were founded on Quality, Integrity and Reliability.  

To our fellow brother we say, “How lucky are we to have known someone who makes saying goodbye so hard”

It was truly a pleasure to have you as a friend and co worker.

~Your Tri Tower Family ~

As a fellow telecom broker, we have been working together for years. Although we only conducted business over the phone and via email, TJ’s personality was shining through.

He was always so helpful, personable and made himself available for any business matters.  
You can tell a lot about somebody’s values through doing business together and TJ was one you remembered for his warm personality. 

I am deeply saddened by his sudden passing and my heart goes out to his loved ones. You are in my prayers.  Sending you my most sincere condolences. 

Love & Light 

Sandie Brodier @ Rincon Technology , inc

I just recently met TJ at a work function for the first time after speaking with him for years on the phone. he was good guy, very personable. We are all upset over here over his passing.
Casey Collins @ Ghekko Networks

TJ is a very bright light.  I enjoyed working with him at Alred University.   My heartfelt condolences to his loved ones and teammates. 

-Brenda, Director of  AU Residence Life 2001-2014 

Dear Sharon and Bob,
We are so sorry for your loss!! Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all of your family at this sorrowful time! 



Bob and Sharon, 
My heart is broken for your family.
And the Alfred  University family too..
I wish I could  be there for you and with you
At this time of sadness and grief.
I am so sorry!!!
Carol ☘️

Dearest Kilcarr family

My heart is broken over the passing of TJ.  My prayers go out to all of you. Godspeed TJ Godspeed. I’m sure you and Nick and my dad are having some great football conversations right about now. Rest in peace TJ


I'm very sorry to hear about TJ...My heart is so heavy and I'm very sad for his wife, Parents, siblings, extended family and friends...
TJ was a standout of the many young men I have come to know during my days coaching little league.  
During his childhood he stood out as a gifted athlete and he had a personality that shined like the sun!  
He is now a Shinning Star in Heaven and I pray for him and his entire Family and Friends...may the Lord bring Peace to all Hearts that have been broken.  God Bless and Peace...
Tom Zimmerman and Family

OBITUARY

Timothy "Tj" Joseph Kilcarr

3 January, 1990 – 29 August, 2022

Michael J. Higgins Funeral Service Inc.

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