Barbara Weishaus Rubenstein

3 July, 19209 May, 2017

BARBARA WEISHAUS RUBENSTEIN, Age 96 in Bridgeport on May 9, 2017. Predeceased by BENNETT RUBENSTEIN, beloved husband of 57 years, parents HARRY WEISHAUS and LENA RAND WEISHAUS, and brothers SAMUEL WEISHAUS and URIAN WEISHAUS. Survived by her devoted children CAROL MARTIN and spouse PETER MARTIN, of Seattle, WA, JANET LUKE and spouse RICHARD LUKE of Los Angeles, CA, ARLENE RUBENSTEIN of Seattle, WA, and LEILA RUBENSTEIN of North Haven, CT; beloved grandchildren MEGAN LUKE-GRUNDY and spouse TIMOTHY GRUNDY of Los Angeles, CA, JULIA LUKE of Los Angeles, CA, and ANNA RUBENSTEIN of Seattle, WA. Barbara "Bert" Weishaus Rubenstein was born July 3, 1920 in New York City. She had a happy childhood growing up with her parents and brothers in the Bronx. Upon graduation from high school and business college she became secretary to her future father-in-law at the Rubenstein family business of Security Mills in New York City. There she met young Bennett “Bud” Rubenstein. They were married January 9, 1943 while he was on active leave during World War II. After the War in 1946 the couple moved to the township of Norwich, Connecticut, where Bennett took over operations at the Yantic Woolen Mills factory, a satellite of Security Mills. There they lived for 40 years, raised their four daughters and joined the Beth Jacob Synagogue, where they were active members of that Jewish community. Barbara was president of the sisterhood, for which the couple worked as a fundraising team putting on successful musical shows. In later years they worked together as co-owners and realtors of the Rubenstein Realty Company. In 1986 the Rubensteins retired to Oronoque Village community in Stratford CT, to be in close proximity to their youngest daughter Leila, who resides at Benhaven, a school for autism in North Haven. They built close working relationships with the staff, and provided funds for a building on the campus. Bud passed away in 2000. In honor of his love of music, Barbara and her daughters donated Bud’s vast collection of jazz, swing, Broadway and classical records to the Trinity College Watkinson Library in Hartford, CT in 2013. By that time Barbara had moved to The Watermark retirement community in Bridgeport, CT, where she enjoyed and excelled in her bridge game with good friends. Barbara will be missed by her family, friends and all who knew her. A private graveside service will be held Friday, May 12 at the Hebrew Benevolent Association Cemetery in Preston, CT. Donations in her memory may be made to Benhaven, , 187 Half Mile Road, North Haven, CT 06497 Please visit to leave an online tribute or condolence.


  • Private Graveside Service

    Friday, 12 May , 2017


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Janet Luke

27 May 2017

Thanks to all who miss our mother and remember good times past with her. She will always live for us, in you.

Arlene Rubenstein

23 May 2017

Thank you all for your kind words of sympathy. She is in all our hearts and minds and we will miss her so much. She had such a great presence and was always there to listen to the stories of others.
Arlene and Anna Rubenstein

Donna Fermo

14 May 2017

I am so sorry to hear, my deepest condolences. I manage the salon at Watermark where Barbara visited weekly. She will be truly missed.

Jo-Ann & Dave Todd

13 May 2017

To all the Rubenstein Families, both Dave and I are sorry to learn of the loss of your mother. Mrs. Rubenstein was a wonderful neighbor and a great friend to our family. You have our deepest sympathy.
With Love....

Janet Slater

12 May 2017

To Bert's family. I am so saddened. Bert was a dear and caring friend, and a great bridge partner over the years, and I will miss her always. My deepest condolonces to you.

Stu Nelkin

11 May 2017

Janet, Arlene and all of your family,
Sincere condolences on the loss of your mom. Certainly a long life extremely well lived. Fond memories of your mom and dad and still remember your home on the corner that we passed every day for years.