My thoughts go out to Clair's family and friends. I grew up in the neighborhood with Clair and went to Darnall, Horace Mann and Crawford with him. I always enjoyed his friendship!
Al Varney, Cedar Rapids, Iowa

I think of Clair often Sylvia and the boys.  I hope you are all well. I miss you all.

I am so desperately sad to just hear this.  I wish I could have been at the service to pay my respects.  Clair was my best friend in the world.  No one can ever take his place.  There is so much I could say but not enough space ever.  I hope his family will be alright.  If I can do anything let me know 619-546-0835  I will visit him.

Dear Steffan family. Sorry for your loss. Curly will be deeply missed. Riding in the back of the 1961Ford wagon to go surfing at OB  with your whole family are some of my best memories. God bless you all. Chuck Haley.

Ah, Curly!  So sorry to learn you left us too soon!  I remember you well and the funny, friendly, great guy you were!  We met at the Quinlivans in 1967 and I took an immediate liking to you!  I think of your Dad and Mom frequently and how much fun I had at your house playing poker in the old days.  Rest In Peace old Buddy!

We just heard this tragic news.  My sister and I have such fond memories of Curly as we all grew up on Streamview.  Our sincere condolences to all the Steffan siblings and to dear Gerry.  

The Quinlivans

Clair made me laugh. His stories will not be forgotten and neither will he.

Clair was the kindest, strongest, and most charismatic person I have ever met and I have met my fair share. He also had the strength and a grip / handshake like no other and ALWAYS ALWAYS looked you in the eye and genuinely cared about what you had to say. They just don't make them like that anymore. This is a painful loss, gone too soon, but lived his life enjoying and appreciating every moment. Rest in Paradise and Godspeed buddy ;'( If I can help with anything at anytime please say so in Clair's honor I would do ANYTHING. Mike Orr

The Sorrento Valley Racquetball & Fitness Center family of members give our condolences to the family of Clair Steffan. Sylvia and family, he was truly a great racquetball player and an even better person. He will be missed by all of us here.

My brother was the easiest, most friendly person to talk with. He genuinely loved people and truly loved his family. Matthew and Mason have a challenging future but their mother and father have given them a firm foundation to begin their lives. We sometimes believe in the wrong heros, but clair's courage, strength, and love make make him my hero.
Michael Steffan

Sylvia, Clair was passionate, gregarious and full of so much life!  He knew what was important - his best friend (you) and your wonderful boys.  So many of us get misguided, but Clair knew what was truly important.  I saw it in him every day as your neighbor and your friend.  I can only imagine what a great son and brother he was as well.  

I will always have fond memories of him.  Sharing a glass of excellent red wine on your porch and then a game of ping pong with him will always be a cherished memory.  

Matt and Mason, you have a full and exciting life ahead.  You are just starting out and finding out what is important to you.  Your Dad helped you get this far and will always be a guiding light for you.  Look up in the sky...he is watching over you.  Make the most of your God given talents and know that your Dad will always be there for you.  His spirit is strong.  Make him proud and take care of your Mom - she is your rock.  Seek out what truly makes you happy and always do something for others - it will pay you back in ways you will never imagine.  Stay positive and pick yourself up when you fall down.  This was the essence of your Dad.  He choose a beautiful and heartfelt woman in your mother and they created a wonderful family - that you should be proud of!

Your Friends - Mark, Chris, Corey and Luke Brown

Bob, Carol and Genevieve Steffan feel that the service was essential Clair.  Silvia, you were the essence of grace and welcoming to all.  
The life of Clair and his good character was expressed superbly and with subtle passion in the four brief memorials.   The Minister gently cloaked him in a loving faith and captured his strength of belief.
I met my brother in that room, through the words offered at the service.  I knew him for sure, but at the service my heart was opened to Clair's living days; his love for; you, his family and goodness.   The essence of Clair is duly noted here in my heart as “SPECIAL” and far above ordinary.  
Bob Steffan

Claire... 

You will be missed and thought of daily, it was an honor and a privilege to meet and spend time with a man such as yourself devoted father to two beautiful children that you adopted and cared for as your own. We have spent a lot of time with your son Mason we also have grown to love him as our own and will always be there as a loving family to Matthew and Mason to see them grow into a young men. What great times we had at SFC Sporting events, you coming over to our home, and spending hours sitting with us talking about life, current events, and our children. Your beautiful spirit will be greatly missed, cherished and revered. 

Sylvia, Matthew and Mason, Our hearts go out to your family.
 
God Bless,
John, Paige, Jessica and Cole Burton

Sylvia, it was such a shock to hear this news from Brandy. I still remember when I met Curly and you. It has been such a long time since we spoke but know that my prayers are with you and your boys. My fondest memory is when I think Brandy was 2 or 3, we had visited you and she was in Curlys arms. He asked her if she wanted to stay with "Uncle Curly" instead of going home with us. She said yes and as we slowly drove off she just was so happy in his arms waving goodbye to her mom, dad and brothers. She really was crazy about her uncle Curly. He will be greatly missed by the family.

Dear Sylvia, Matthew and Mason,

I can remember standing in the  bleachers with Clair watching Mason and Josh play flag football.  Clair was so kind to explain what was going on for me.  Our hearts go out to your family.  We pray for God's comfort and peace over you all.

From,
The Tahimics at SFC

I was blessed to have 30+ year with the man of my dreams. I know that you are in heaven and I know that I will see you again. I miss you my best friend, lover and husband. XO

It was an honor and a privilege to know Clair.  He was an amazing man, father and husband.  He will be missed. I am so sorry Sylvia. My heart breaks for you and the boys now.

What a great picture of Clair-his smile and eyes speak of his gentleness, his good nature, humor, boldness in speaking the truth and his kindness.  I can hear his voice in my head "Hey, Honey..." when speaking with you, Sylvia.  He would do Anything for Matt and Mason.  We love you all and know our family has been blessed by the love in your family.  As always prayers your way.

Sylvia, my dear friend, my heart is breaking for you.  There are simply no words to express our sorrow for your loss.  You and Clair were one of our first friends when we moved to the neighborhood, you always made us feel so welcome.  Clair and his pal Toby were a great source of encouragement for Steve while building our house, they always stopped by on their daily walks and offered advice or just chatted about the recent news.  He will be surely missed by everyone who had the privilege of knowing him.  We love you and will always be here for you!  Sue and Steve

God bless you Ms. Sylvia.

Michael thanks for being a good brother.

To your family; may God continue to bless you.

OBITUARY

Clair Anthony Steffan

8 April, 1951 – 20 September, 2013

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