Hing Ying Bei

If anyone ever cared, really cared for someone else it would have to be Hing Ying Bei. She was a warm hearted and well liked individual, and these wonderful traits came easily to her because she was such a sociable and amiable person, someone who was always making certain that those around her had whatever they needed. Hing was a talkative person who was tactful at all times but typically said what she meant.

Hing was born on a small farm village in Guazhou, Jiangsu, China. She was the daughter of Wen Qui Bei (father) and Wen Ying Tsui (mother). Hing was raised in Guazhou, Jiangsu, and Shanghai, China. During her childhood she learned to be reliable and respectful. Hing was an obedient child who wanted to win the favor of others. She found it easy to show sympathy and to perform kind acts for others. These admirable qualities would become a part of Hing's personality throughout her life.

Though Hing was frequently the one to initiate games and activities with her family, she was also quite often the family member who took the role of referee. Hing was a peace-maker with an ability to resolve all sorts of family conflicts. In fact, Hing worked conscientiously to keep those typical family spats at bay. Hing was raised with four siblings. She had two older brothers, Hing Tai and Hing Chan, one older sister, Hing Lan, and a younger brother, Hing Chun. Hing and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up, but they cared deeply for one another.

As someone who reveled in the sheer joy of her experiences, Hing was always enthusiastic about new adventures. Although she had an exacting nature, Hing was always tactful. One thing Hing will certainly be remembered for is that, when she got up in the mornings, she was ready and raring to go. As a young girl, Hing had a number of interests and was an active child. In her spare time she liked to play cards.

There was one thing that all of Hing's friends knew and will still remember, and that is that she was a talker. She could pretty much talk to anybody about anything. This quality is one of the primary reasons that Hing was such a popular person throughout her life. But Hing was also dependable, loyal and trustworthy. Hing was the kind of person who simply radiated good fellowship. While she maintained personal standards and her own personal values, Hing was very accepting of others. With a distinct skill for working things out, Hing was often the person who would organize events. In fact, Hing was fairly comfortable playing the role of “host” for just about any occasion. When Hing made friends, she made true and lasting friendships. While growing up, some of her best friends were Xiu Ying and Xiu May. Later in life, she became friends with Ping Luu, Wu Tien, Linda Au, Mrs. Liu, and Mrs. Kwok.

Hing was a faithful and loving person. Some would even call her sentimental and a romantic at heart. Her kindness and consideration radiated an aura of warmth to those around her. Hing cared for what others thought and carried that into her marriage. In 1955, Hing married Dun Ming Pak in Hong Kong, China. Compassionate and devoted, Hing worked hard to make her new life partner happy.

Harmony was important to Hing and she made every effort to maintain it with her family. Hing was blessed with three children, two sons, Cho Fong and Cho Kan, and one daughter, Wai Ping. She was also blessed with five granchildren, Tak Lin, Chun Yip, Chun Hai, Man Ting, and Man Kay. Hing was always conscious of the feelings others had. She was reasonable and understanding. As a result, Hing was quick to solve disputes and did so without much fuss. Her secret of success in this area was simple: Hing would listen before she would act.

Taking her work seriously came naturally to Hing, and she expected the same from those around her. Hing was a good team player, someone who was born to cooperate with others. She was what some would call a “people person” and it was demonstrated in her good communication skills. Hing was a steady worker, one who was realistic about schedules. The kind of details that would give family members and work colleagues fits were situations that Hing handled well. She could understand the details without getting lost in the broad “big picture.” Her primary occupation was as a manicurist. She was employed for 40 years by various companies. She brought harmony to her work environment, doing what was necessary in order to get the job done, while always maintaining respect for her colleagues.

Hing was one of those people who took pride in constantly putting forth her best effort. Nowhere was that more visible than in sports. Hing was always enthusiastic and a great team player. Hing also liked being a sports fan and enjoyed following her favorite teams whenever she got the opportunity. Tops on her list were wrestling.

Not only did Hing enjoy traveling, but she also seemed to enjoy planning all of those trips and vacations. She was a facilitator who could easily make up a near perfect schedule of all of the things to do and see. She rarely tired of going back and revisiting her favorite places. Favorite vacations included traveling tours of New York City, Hawaii, and China.

Hing was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of her favorites was her dog, Farlai, who was a best friend for 10 years.

Since it was easy for Hing to meet and get to know new people, she quickly made friends, even in retirement. Once she met those new friends, she loved sharing stories and talking about the good old days. Since she was practical and cost effective, Hing was ready when that day to retire finally came in 1993. Her new life involved relocating to Milpitas, California. In retirement, she found new pleasure in playing cards, traveling, and going to church activities. Even in retirement, Hing stayed in touch with her old friends and made plenty of new acquaintances. She was active in the community and felt fulfilled with the opportunities that retirement offered her.

Hing passed away on July 30, 2010 at San Jose Health Care in San Jose, California. She fought a brave battle against lung cancer. She is survived by her children Cho Fong, Cho Pak, and Wai Ping; and her grandchildren Chun Yip, Chun Hai, Tak Lin, Man Ting, and Man Kay. Services were held at Oak Hill Funeral Home in the Chapel of Roses. Hing was laid to rest in Oak Hill Memorial Park in San Jose, California.

Hing was a fantastic conversationalist who could engage just about anyone in a discussion. And whenever she said something, she meant it. Hing was a down to earth person, outgoing and gregarious. She was without question the type of person who enjoyed experiencing things first hand. She was practical and sensible, but what friends and family will remember her for most is the fact that she was so understanding and kind. Everyone whose life she touched will miss Hing Ying Bei.