14 January , 1967 – 2 October , 2019
Matthew Robert Tobin January 14, 1967 – October 2, 2019 Matthew Robert Tobin passed peacefully on October 2nd in his Scituate home, cradled in the love of Paige (Margules), his wife of 27 years, and his devoted children, Maxwell and Hannah, as the morning sun lit the room and they played and sang his favorite songs. It followed a marvelous night for a moondance and a twilight reading of Old Man and The Sea. Matt’s greatest source of pride was his unconditional devotion to his family, and he was known for his fondness of Bruce Springsteen and bad country music, so it was, as it should have been. Raised in Brighton by James and Helena Tobin, he had a remarkable moral compass that was forged in part by the hands of his 11 siblings (Jeff, Paul, Mark, Michael, Catherine, Elizabeth, Sheila, Theresa, Maureen, Eileen, & Amy) during 52 years of Sunday gatherings and Wednesday spaghetti dinners. This compass was honed to guide an ethical and compassionate approach to his work, family, and friendships that commanded an immense respect. With little more than gumption, a sharp mind, and a strong work ethic, Matt strode through the halls of Catholic Memorial, Boston College, and Suffolk Law School on the way to becoming a partner and owner of the law firm Murphy, Lamere, & Murphy, PC for 21 years with his spouse Paige and their dear law partner, Michele McNulty. Matt often quipped that he and Paige were lucky to be “life partners and law partners.” Matt proudly represented many Massachusetts municipalities and school districts, harnessing his passion and skill to strongly advocate for his clients. As a mentor to many young attorneys, Matt wielded his red pen mightier than any sword, guided by the conviction that “education is not the filling of the pail but the lighting of a fire.” He was a big fan of the Oxford comma and occasionally enjoyed the semi-colon. Matt will be warmly remembered and emulated for an unmatched sartorial sense rooted in his respect for others and the good fortune in his life. The imposing figure he cut in his suit, ties, and scarf as he charged from the courtroom to a Scituate Harbor social gathering, however, was quickly outshone by his sparkling sense of humor and an inimitable laugh. No one could laugh more at his own jokes than Matt. Matt deeply valued his friendships, of which he was blessed with many, as well as his community in Scituate. We will sorely miss, yet fondly remember, our lazy Sundays spent at Humarock Beach. He was the favorite uncle to many nieces and nephews. He took joy in playing Spikeball with them in the backyard and spending time hiking, biking, kayaking, and skiing. Matt had a special fondness for his brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law, treasuring time spent with them at Red Sox games, concerts, restaurants, and travelling to see the Patriots in Dallas and enjoy pinxtos in Spain. His diagnosis of cancer changed none of this. Matt drew upon his faith, family, and humor to realize that though he was given a cross to bear, he would be sure to carry rather than drag it. “Any fool can fight a winning battle, but it takes character to fight a losing one.” Matt’s love is still with us – sure as he was up with the sunrise every morning, strong coffee and the Globe in hand with his beloved dog Pippa by his side, readying to do good in the world. His character is an enduring source of inspiration to all those who knew and loved him. Matt joins his mother Helena, sister, Theresa, brother Michael and his devoted dog, SportyLulu, in rest and peace.
A visitation will be held on Sunday October 6, 2019 from 4-8pm at Richardson-Gaffey Funeral Home, 382 First Parish Road, Scituate MA. A funeral mass will be held on Monday October 7, 2019 at 10am from St. Mary of the Nativity Church, 1 Kent St. Scituate.
Please consider a donation in honor of Matthew Tobin to Dr. Oxnard’s Research Fund at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute. Dana-Farber Cancer Institute Philanthropy Office PO Box 849168 Boston, MA 02284
- Visitation Sunday, 6 October , 2019
- Funeral Mass Monday, 7 October , 2019
9 October 2019
I am so sorry for your loss. Matt was a great guy and I enjoyed working with him on the Town of Whitman Planning Board as he served as legal council. Matt was always upbeat and had a great attitude.
Matt was also a classmate of mine back at CM, graduating class of 1985.
Matt will be missed by all.
Thoughts and Prayers go out to you and your family.
7 October 2019
In spite of all the adversity, you were so strong today at the funeral, and last night at the wake. The obituary was so moving I shared it with multiple people you've never met and they were amazed at how beautiful it was. In spite of this undeniable loss for you, and in spite of knowing the last week was inevitable and unavoidable, you were and have been the pillar of strength. My admiration for you has only grown as my heart aches for you.
Matt loved you. We all knew. We saw it in the way he spoke to you and of you to others. The love you two shared was the kind few couples really have --- respectful, mutual, and deep. Throughout this journey you two were forced into since his diagnosis, those around you learned and saw what two people who really love each other say when time is limited.
He loved his children as well. He was most proud of them in a way that was never boastful -- because he didnt understand the concept of being boastful. He was a proud father who always wished the best for them both knowing full well they had options in their lives never afforded him but was happy to be part of a marriage which gave such options.
He loved his family --- both sides, and all of them. Never once did I hear a critical word about any one of them. He just smiled and rolled with any and all adversity and never once complained. They loved him back as strongly and today at the funeral and last night at the wake anyone there clearly saw that behavior in action. He will be sorely missed.
He was such a gentleman. No cussing. No dirty jokes. No critique of others. No road rage. He listened -- always. He chose his words carefully and waited to until others said their piece. He loved his Red Sox. He admired his dad, brothers and sisters and all their children. He was, to me, the calm, gentle, smart, giant of a person I regret not working even harder to embrace.
I'm so sorry Paige. God bless you.
Susan and Mark Daileader
7 October 2019
Dear Paige, Max and Hannah, we are so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute to Matt. Hoping you can find peace in your loving memories. With much sympathy and prayers from The Daileaders.
6 October 2019
My heart and prayers go out to Paige, Hanna, Max and the rest of the Tobin family. Matt was my friend for over 40 years. In our teens and into our twenties Matt, my Cousin Al, and our friend Paul were inseparable. We would debate about everything, songs, sports, politics. Most of the time Matt won, you knew he was going to be a lawyer. He introduced us to Motown and bands like the Temptations. His favorite Papa was a rolling stone. And then there was the Gap Band. We played their songs everywhere we went. Although I never understood his preference for Roy Orbison. Matt loved to dance, if you ever saw him you might not call it dancing, but he was proud of his patented dance moves. The box step and the spin move were his go to's. Then he would put his finger on top of your head and you would have to spin. The guy always had a sense of style, always looked sharp. Penny loafers or White Bucks with no socks even in the winter. He would change the lyrics to songs and be adamant they were accurate. Through the years with lifes changes we saw less of each other but when we did it was if nothing had changed. I will miss my friends laugh, especially when he told a story or a joke. One he probably told a hundred times laughing at it himself you couldn’t help but laugh with him. A true friend never judging. A true scholar and a gentleman, one of a kind. He loved his family deeply and when you are with the Tobins they make you feel like you are part of their family.
I will miss my friend. I’ll see you on the other side Matt. Love you brother.
6 October 2019
To the Tobin Family,
We are sad to hear about the passing of Matt. Please accept our deepest sympathy. All of us at Roadplates enjoyed being part of Matt’s Mission over the past years. Matt will always remain in our thoughts.
Gary and Ryan Donovan
4 October 2019
It has been so many years but when I heard of Matt's passing, I was so saddened for all of you. I remember him so fondly and both of you were always an inspiration to others. I am thinking of you and your family.
With my deepest condolences,
4 October 2019
My sincerest condolences to Matt’s family. I am a union-side labor lawyer who faced Matt repeatedly over the years on the other side of the table. Matt was one of those management lawyers that you couldn’t help but like and admire. Matt was certainly tough and focused on representing his clients, but he was honest and fair. In all candor, we both had a hard time keeping a straight face when we faced each other because it was easy to make him laugh and it was always clear that he understood when you were “pushing” things a bit too far. Matt always talked about his family with such great pride, especially his kids. I cannot imagine what this loss must feel like to his family and firm, but I hope you all take some solace in hearing from people like me who knew him only as a lawyer, on the other side, but who can only speak to his integrity and good humor.
3 October 2019
The grace and joy with which Matt lived his life will be forever remembered. It will shine on in his children, and in you, Paige. Love you and holding you in the light, hugs, Alix
Aisling Farrington Eisner
3 October 2019
To the Tobin Family,
We were so very sad to here that Matt passed yesterday morning. He was a beautiful soul, and we are more blessed in our lives for getting to know him and your incredible family. His humor, smile, and warm spirit is already missed, but will forever live on through the countless lives he touched. His love for his family was always on display, as well as his humility and love of life. We are better people for knowing him. Peace and love, Aisling and Michael Eisner and family, Duxbury MA