Lillian "Bibby" Scheer

A child of the Great Depression, Bibby was born in Washington, D.C. to Aaron and Mary Scheer (née Filvarof) in March, 1936. Her sister Dorothy “Dotty” came just 13 months later and, from that moment on, they were joined at the hip. Their unshakable bond was emblematic of their tight-knit family.

Bibby helped raise her niece and nephews as a co-parent with her sister. Caring for the kids brought great joy to her life. She packed overstuffed school lunches and schlepped the kids to and fro, teaching them vocabulary words along the way. She praised even the shabbiest of art projects, hailing the kids as geniuses, which, remarkably, she genuinely believed them to be. She would become tearful when receiving a birthday or Mother’s Day card from the kids reminding her that she was not only an aunt, but also a mother in their eyes. She truly was their second Mom.

When she was a young woman, people often remarked on Bibby’s natural beauty and commented on her striking resemblance to actress Hedy Lamarr. Beneath her exterior was a truly wise, witty, self-effacing, kindhearted soul with an amusing expression for every occasion. Generous with her time and even more so with her advice, Bibby wasn’t afraid to speak her mind and always did so earnestly. It is impossible to imagine anyone sweeter or more loving. She was selfless in the sincerest sense of the word.

Bibby was a talented artist; and her style, which was unique and recognizable, could best be described as elegant. She also had a talent for impressions, particularly of actors and characters such as The Wicked Witch of the West. She had an encyclopedic knowledge of trivia and a love of old Hollywood. She could recall minute details of films, and easily remembered and identified actors, writers, producers, and directors. Bibby took pride in staying well-informed on current events. She also loved food, ensured that everyone who visited her home was well fed, and in her later years, described herself as a foodie.

Although Bibby was very pragmatic and would likely be mortified by this obituary celebrating her life, she was far too special to us to have abstained from writing it. As her final days approached, she related that she "lived a happy life" and remarked that “anyone would be so lucky as to make it to 89 years.” Near the end, she shared her mother’s darkly humorous expression, "If whiskey don't get you, cocaine must!"

Bibby is survived by her sister Dotty Schor, her niece and nephews, Mary, Michael, and David Schor, and their partners, Brian Rabinovitz, Lori Donley, and Anna Schor (née Ginzburg), respectively. She is also survived by her grandnephews Elliot, Joel, and Ben, and her grandniece Delilah.

Services will be held at the Garden of Remembrance Memorial Park, 14321 Comus Rd., Clarksburg, MD, 20871, on Monday, May 5, at 12:30 pm.