Tommy, I miss you even more now. Though with time, I have healed somewhat, but for the past couple of days, I miss my good neighbor/friend more and more. It still hurts. I stare out the window over your way, remembering our laughs, talks together, getting together to visit the pool area at my apartment complex and that would have been a good time you could have taught me how to swim. Time Tommy, time is healing me and I'm not going to pretend I'm all healed, no, when we lose someone we care deeply for, someone that had a deep impact in our lives, spent time with, it's not that easy, we cannot rush grief and I only talk to family, the family you met when I'm feeling down about your absence because only they understand, and don't condemn me for still going through or voicing my grief over you, that's where healing comes in, a true and genuine shoulder to lean on.  I've come a long way in healing but there is still some pain there after all, we were like peas in a pod, when neighbors saw one, they saw the other. It was wonderful spending time talking with you while waiting for the bus too, I never told you that, and thank you for those times Tommy,  you always put a smile on my face with your weird funny sense of humor when talking or texting me. When I wait at the bus stop now in the mornings while it's dark, once in a while it feels like your presence is there watching over me. I do believe in guardian angles and who knows, maybe God sending you to watch over me. I miss you Tommy, miss you a lot and so does my mother and sister, they mention you sometimes and they look over at your house when taking me home always and compliment how well the yard looks. I told them your father keeps up the yard and they say he's doing a very good job. You would be proud Tommy. Well, once this site ends, I will be sending a balloon once a month with a loving message on it Tommy and watch it fly high into the sky. I'm sure you will get my message as I do for my grandmothers, uncles, father and a favorite aunt. This Winter, if we get any snow, I will do something in honor of you I promised to do, build a snowman and put that red hat on it you admired the first time we met. Ok, better stop now, tears about to flow. Missing you and love always, from you good neighbor Dee, and family.

Tommy, my heart still hurts, you have no idea. I and family miss you so much. It was so wonderful to have met you and get to know you and our stories and views on life that we shared were always such a bright and interesting conversation. I miss those times. I wish you were still here, to taste my homemade pound cake. I miss you so much, it still hurts today as I type this I have tears in my eyes. you were truly loved for whom you were. I thought I was healing but it hurts again, but I will be fine Tommy, I will. Love Always, Dee.

Hi Tommy, it's almost a year since we last saw each other. I truly miss you I really do, but I know at some point, I have to let go but letting go to me is like forgetting all about you but I'm working through it. Those who's hearts you touched in your own special way we will never forget, I know I won't. I enjoyed every aspect of your company, in summer, winter, spring and fall, which I miss so much. Love always from your good neighbor, Dee.

Tommy, this picture reminds me of how you and Lexie use to sit and watch TV together.

Hi Tommy, last night, I had a dream about my father who went to be with the Lord back in 2002. It was like he was walking with me and holding on to my arm and just to have him for that moment, and laughing smiling while we were going somewhere was like 20 years of burden lifted off my shoulders because I had my father back. I miss him so very much, just like I miss you Tommy. I hope I will have the opportunity to dream about you and once again, look into your eyes and remember to tell you how much you are loved and missed.

Hi Tommy, time is moving swiftly, and my heart still hurts though not as much as it use too. Remember I told you it would take time to heal because I saw you every season, rain or shine, snow or fog, thunderstorms or just rain, we were like peas in a pod. When neighbors saw one, they saw the other, laughing and hanging out together. I guess I'm healing slowly, but it just seems like you and I should be hanging out in the yard, or ready for a cookout we often talked about doing. I miss you so much Tommy. In my heart, I miss our talks, laughing together, sharing stories, world events, I miss those talks. My family and I will always remember you Tommy. Missing you so much, Dee and Vaughn family.

Hi Tommy, Sylvia and I were talking about you this morning, how you would always be out there in your yard working and how she misses you coming into Home Depot to shop for supplies and your conversations with her about your supplies. Tommy, I don't cry as much as I use too but I still do every now and then if I think too long and hard on the good old days you and I had as good friends and neighbors and yes, the weather plays a big role in it, the feelings and thoughts that come to my mind after all, you were with us all this time last year. I saw Elsie, she's picking up a little weight and she looks good. She's not skinny anymore but being well taken care of. You would be so proud of Elsie. I keep looking at your yard, thinking about our plans to cook out back there but I have to get a grip sometimes because this is real, not a dream that you are no longer with us. I'll be fine Tommy, I only talk to the right person, one that truly understands what it's like to lose a loved one, good friend and or neighbor or both or all in one and that would be my sister, the one you met with my mother that day because she allows me to cry, to express, etc. and she doesn't condemn me for my words thoughts, but she lets me be me in that moment and that's what can help heal a person's broken heart. She is a jewel when it comes to an ear and heart to lean on. So, after introducing you to my mother and sister that day they picked me up after you and I walked Elsie, we pulled off and my mother was like, he's a handsome young man, very polite and intelligent and I agreed with her and told her how you were always doing for neighbors. Then she said, if I were younger, I would date him, and I was like, he's mine and we all laughed. That's just how it is, when you miss and misses someone you truly cared about and a lot of people cared about you Tommy, my family and I cared a lot about you and yes, we talk about you every now and then. I hope I can dream about you again to tell you how much we all miss you. I truly believe God allows that to happen. No one understands the spirit world and we do believe in spirits, good and bad ones. Things are fine with me and family, and your neighbors who misses you too. Well, until then Tommy, love and miss you a lot. Will send you another loving message soon.

Tommy, I miss you so much. I can't help but stare into your yard, picturing you there with Elsie and sometimes your daughter. I remember the first day I meet her, (your daughter) she was so excited over Elsie being her dog. I'm getting better Tommy, though it's still very hard sometimes because this time last year, we had talked about cooking out in your back yard, and you were one week away from joining me in the pool where I live. Sunday, I bought some baked chicken from Shoppers and wanted to share some with you. That's what I did, shared food items with you and Elsie and the look of happiness and appreciation came across your face and that's when I knew, I have touched his heart. I was happy to give when I gave. I miss doing those things now Tommy. No, I knew it wouldn't be easy because I have to get through all the seasons, since our friendship was a year round seasonal bond. Yes, sometimes I stand and stare into the yard reminiscing on the years past we spent together as good neighbors and friends. I miss our talks, laughter, walking Elsie, I miss my good neighbor, you Tommy. I'll try and be strong Tommy, I'm working on it through the grace of God. He knows I misses my good friend and neighbor. It's not easy saying goodbye when you lose someone you cared so much for. If you were here, you would pat me on the back and say, hey sweetie, I'm fine, and you take care of yourself. I wish there was a phone line to heaven Tommy. I would be calling or texting you just like we use to do. The weather is so hot and beautiful now, just how you and I like it Tommy, your grass is so green and soft and plush looking, your Dad is doing a super job taking care of the yard. Love and miss you buddy.

Tommy, your yard looks so nice. Freshly cut grass, the flower bush, the rose bushes and the tall Iris flowers, just all look so pretty. I wish  you were here to enjoy them. Here is a picture I took of your yard. Love, Dee.

Tommy, I took the time today, to gaze through your pictures. What attracted me the most to you was, 1st, your service to this country, then 2nd, the love you and I shared for children and especially animals, since we are both lovers of animals. Your heart and soul was bigger than the blue skies above when it came to your children and your dog Elsie. My heart still breaks Tommy, it hurts so badly. I miss you so very much, but eventually I will heal from the pains of missing you, a trooper, a man of authority gone from us, a protector, and as we now approach the middle of spring going into summer, I will always keep you close in mind of how much you loved the outdoors, and hot weather like me. Just last week, our neighbor Jerome and I were talking about how much we miss our man. Miss you so much, love Dee.

Hi Tommy, your yard looks so neat and so pretty. The flower bush next to the steps adds a little heavenly touch to the yard. The tree that swing use to hang on is full of green bright leaves now. I stood there looking and remembering this time last year, you and I were laughing, talking and visiting with one another, and as the warm Spring breeze blows against my face as I stand there and smell the freshly cut grass, I will always picture our happy times and the joy of looking into your eyes and sharing stories. I miss you so much Tommy. Also, I found a key with the letter F attached as an ornament to it so if it's your Dad's key, please reply to this message. If it is your key, I hung it on the nail where the trash can is outside Tommy's house.

Tommy, I felt like your spirit was watching over me this morning. I truly did, I could literally feel your presence waiting at the steps watching over me. I believe, sometimes, God sends spirits to watch over us though we all have guardian angels so I thank him for sending you to watch over me. I miss you still and I will for some time to come. I had a dream about you, it was concerning sports and you handed me a volleyball to borrow since you know I play the sport and it was like you were busy doing other choirs where you were. That may be a message to me I don't know but I'm thinking you are in a good place working. I'll be in touch Tommy. You and my oldest brother would have gotten a long so well being you both are ex military. Guess what, Elsie doesn't bark at me anymore, guess she's use to me now :) Love and miss you.

I miss my buddy. I miss our talks, laughter together, Elsie even though I see her walking with your Dad, your daughter visiting you and that big smile on your face with your joyful heart when she was always around. Just seems like it's getting harder and harder because this time last year, you were here, but at some point, I have to let go, and once that time comes, (because no one can rush grief) you will always be in my heart and mind forever. I already knew it was going to be hard last Aug to carry on but I'm making it so far. It takes pain a min to go away Tommy, but I will be fine, and I'm getting stronger each passing day, that's what you would want for me, to get stronger and carry on. Tommy, I promise you, once this site closes, I will send up a balloon in honor of you with a message on it. I did that with my grandmothers and Dad and uncles and I feel my message reaches them some how. I hope mine will reach you when that time comes. You were in your neighbors lives and mine for a short time, but those times were so precious. A young, tall handsome strong trooper is missing in our lives, that trooper was you Tommy.  Love Always from your neighbors and me.

Missing you more and more. This time of year, I always loved looking out of my window watching you working in your yard, Elsie sunbathing and sometimes, I would see your daughter out in the yard playing with Elsie and I couldn't wait to get out there so we can chat and Elsie run up to the fence barking at me before she realize it's me, and that pretty smile your daughter always gave me. I miss you my friend, neighbor. As the trees and bushes began to wake up with their new flowers/budding, and the rains fall to water them to grow strong, so will my love for you each passing year. I miss you something terrible Tommy. Sometimes, when I wait at the bus stop, I can feel your loyal loving presence there, and I wish I could hear your voice say, hi Dee, I'm healing very very very slowly, and one day, it won't hurt no more, but the fond memories of you will always be in my mind and heart forever.

missing you more and more as the weather opens up. I promised to build you a snowman and it didn't happen because of the type of snow we had. I'm still waiting on the dry snow though I don't think that will happen now but you never know Tommy. I wish I could get another peak into heaven and see you and many others up there having a grand party. It's still hard to wait at that bus stop in front of your house with out you being out there to hover over me and make me feel protected in the dark mornings I'm there waiting for the bus. It still hurts Tommy, You didn't know at the time, but you were well loved by me and my family for who you were, what you had done, and serving this country. My family misses you too, especially my mother you admired so much. Well always love in my heart and mind for you Tommy,

Tommy, I was at one of my spots last night, one of the spots I use to tell you about, and saw a guy who had eyes just like yours, literally a twin to you. He wasn't as tall and handsome like you but looking into his eyes, I felt like crying, well, actually I did a little but the guy didn't notice it. I showed him a picture of my good neighbor and friend (you) and told him he has eyes just like yours and he agreed. It was like looking into your eyes again. How I wish that was so Tommy. My heart is still broken. I told you it will take me a while because I really cared about you and when neighbors saw one, they saw the other, me and you together, talking, laughing, sharing stories, past, present future. The snow has loosen up now, so I think I will get out there and build a little snowman for you. I hope you can see it from heaven. Missing you :(

Hi Dear Tommy, I thought about you the other day when we had that horrible wet snow fall which turned into nothing but ice. I wanted to build a snowman as I promised. I hope maybe we get another snow fall and this time a dry snow and I promise to build that snowman for you. Love you always Tommy. Miss you so much

Dear Tommy, I still miss you very much. I will admit, I did shed some tears on Sunday. The weather is breaking and I remember how I use to see you outside enjoying the weather, working in your yard, Elsie laying out soaking up the sun from my window across the street. I miss our talks. Love always, your good and loyal neighbor, Dresia.

adding a candle for you Tommy, you were like a candle in my life when ever we crossed paths. You gave me reason to laugh and smile a lot.

Dear Tommy, I miss you my neighbor, this past weekend I stood in the window looking over at our yard, the Beware of dog still on the gate and fences, and I could picture Elsie running up to the fence barking at me before she realize who I am and you coming over with your handsome smile and innocent eyes to meet mine and we would chat for a long time. I miss those times Tommy. Yes, I shed more tears because yes, you were a good neighbor to me and everyone doing favors for people asking nothing in return. I miss you buddy, I truly do. Love always, your friend, Dresia.

Happy New Year dear Tommy my good neighbor. It's still very painful to not see you or hear your voice anymore. I miss your texting me also. You are sadly missed Tommy. We had our first snow fall but it wasn't enough to build a big snowman but I promise to do that for you once we get a big snow fall. Love always in my heart for you.

Missing you so much Tommy. Christmas is almost here> I think of you every single day, I miss our talks, laughter, jokes, and just being with you, a guy full of humor and loved everybody. You were a gem in my life and I miss that gem so much. I hope you are watching over me when I stand alone at that bus stop where we first met. You were in my life for a short time, but that short time felt like years of friendship. Thank you for being you Tommy. Love and miss you dearly.

Hi Tommy, Thanksgiving with family was nice. I miss bringing you home cooked goodies. The leaves on your tree are almost gone. Sometimes I wish that swing was still hanging from the tree so i can enjoy swinging in it. Your Dad has been keeping the yard looking just like you use too. I still expect to see you coming from around the corner doing things in your yard, you were always so hard at work in your yard, Elsie running up to the fence to greet me after barking at me. One day, I stood there, still in disbelief Tommy, and just before my eyes became full of tears again, I actually heard your whisper say to me, "Don't cry" and another time, while starring into your empty yard about to get teary eyed again, I heard you again say, ("Don't worry). Every time my sister takes me home, she slows down and stare at your house, she misses you too. I miss you so much Tommy, as I'm sure a lot of your close friends and neighbors that loved you do miss you too. My buddy my friend, I will always cherish a spot in my heart in remembering you. Love always, Dee.

Happy Fall Dear Tommy. The leaves are just about gone from your tree. Fall is very beautiful this year, you would have loved it. I watched the leaves from your tree fall and dance in the wind, race across the yard, like Elsie use to do when greeting me after barking at me :) I watched the leaves wirling around like little children playing with each other. I believe those leaves had a mind of their own (laughing) Soon frosty snow will fall and I am still planning on building a little snowman in your yard and putting that red hat you admire when we first met. Love and miss you dearly Tommy.

 Dear Tommy, as I stood at the bus stop November, Sunday 6th, I stood there starring into your yard, I always do when I wait at that bustop), expecting you to come around the corner, raking your leaves, picking up sticks, Elsie playing with her toy/s or just laying out in the cool Fall breeze, I think about that swing you use to have hanging from the tree. I reminisce on our time spent together conversa ting about so many things in life, your plans, my promises to bring you home baked goodies, Tommy, I can't help it, my heart feels like it's breaking in other places. I know I have to let this go at some point, but you understand Tommy, it still hurts, deeply too. I had planned to surprise you and help you build a snowman this winter since I chickened out last winter. I miss your distinct voice, a voice that was distinct like my father's voice. I see your Dad walking the dogs and I always give him a hug. I know you would appreciate that because my hugs are real and I just don't hug anyone like that. As I stood there going back in time while looking at your yard, a yellow leaf smacked me in the face, I thought to myself, I wonder if that was Tommy, smacking me into today (laughing now)and letting me know, you're in a sunny bright place now?. I appreciate the family always posting my comments in honor of you though they can be painful somewhat but that has helped me a lot to begin to heal, and it also says a lot about you Tommy. I want to also thank you most of all, for being my good neighbor and friend too. I'm going to buy a balloon, and write every name of my favorite relatives, Dad and grandmothers and will include your name, kiss the balloon, and write a message on it to all of you and release it in honor of them and you Tommy, my dear friend and neighbor.


Acknowledging a good friend and neighbor on Veterans Day, our good neighbor and friend Tommy Mayers. Miss you buddy :(

 A candle in remembrance of my dear neighbor and friend.

Hi my dear neighbor and friend Tommy. Here is my salute to you: It's titled,
                                                       "Thank You" 
They walk the line so that we can be free. Some stay on US soil, some go overseas. All to defend our freedom and everything that freedom means. They do it without hesitation and while giving up their dreams, When their time has come they leave to go far away, They do it to keep all of the "monsters" at bay, They give up their time, they give up their lives, they give up their families and say "goodbye" to their wives, father, mother, sister, brother. We see them every day and walk on by, Many without a "thank you" most without a "hi", Many protest against what they do and all they fight for, Many hold up signs as the solders fall to the floor, you have the right to demonstrate because of all that they give, Due to all they give up, you have the right to live, the next time you walk by a solider and don't even give it a thought, think of all that they did and all the battles that they fought. So, Tommy, I'm not giving this a second thought, thank you dear neighbor, thank you dear friend, for the sacrifice and time you committed in protecting this country, in remembrance of you dear Tommy this coming Veterans Day. Love Always, Dee and family.

Tommy, I have a poem for you, it's titled: My Memory Library

Imagine if I was given one moment, 
just a single slice of my recent past.
I could hold it close forever, 
and that moment would always last.

I'd put the moment in a safe, 
within my hearts abode.
I could open it when I wanted, 
and only I would know the code.

I could choose a time of laughing, 
a time of happiness and fun.
I could choose a time that tried me, 
through everything I've done.

I sat and thought about what moment, 
would always make me smile.
One that would always push me, 
to walk that extra mile.

If I'm feeling sad and low, 
if I'm struggling with what to do.
I can go and open my little safe, 
and watch my moment through.

There are moments I can think of, 
that would lift my spirits every time.
The moments when you Tommy picked me up, with your jokes and smiles,  
when the road was hard to climb.

For me to only pick one moment, 
to cherish, save and keep, 
is proving really difficult, 
as I've gathered up a heap!

I've dug deep inside my heart, 
found the safe and looked inside, 
there was room for lots of moments, 
in fact hundreds if I tried.

I'm building my own little library, 
embedded in my heart, 
for all the moments spent with you, 
before you had to part.

My little library acts as a promise, 
I'll never EVER forget you Tommy, my dear neighbor and friend.

Revised copy of yesterday's posting. Tommy, my dear neighbor and friend, the season is changing now, I stand there and watch the leaves swirling around in your yard, dancing in the wind, as the gentle warm breeze caresses my face, I picture you and Elsie out there playing ball, Elsie running up to the fence to greet me after she barked at me, along with you taking the time to always spend time with me and as I comment on this site, I always have to pause to collect myself to continue to write to you because my eyes get full of tears 
 well, I think you know where I'm going, it's hard Tommy, it's tough but eventually I will get through this and it's going to take a very long time. I thought about you after cooking my stir fried pears and apples yesterday. I wish there was a phone line to heaven, it would be busy all the time because I want so bad to hear your voice again, hear you call my name. Every time I stand at my favorite bus stop, I never miss a day without shedding a tear. Your absence hurts Tommy. If you were here, you would say, Dee, come give me a hug, sweetie it's alright, I'm wonderful now, if I can just dream that and you tell me that, It would bring some healing to my broken heart. My family and I miss you and Veteran's day is coming up. I will send you a beautiful poem I know you would appreciate.

IT HAS BEEN BROUGHT TO MY ATTENTION THAT I SHOULD NOT HAVE POSTED THE NUMBER GIVEN TO ME BY VIVIAN. I HAD THE WRONG VIVIAN IN MIND WHEN I THOUGHT THIS VIVIAN IS THE VIVIAN I KNOW FROM VOLLEYBALL AND NOT KNOWING IF SHE  MARRIED OR NOT. SO MY APOLOGIES ONLY TO THE FAMILY. I WAS ONLY TRYING TO BE HELPFUL AND HONESTLY DIDN'T KNOW.

Tommy, my dear neighbor and friend, the season is changing now, I stand there and watch the leaves swirling around in your yard, dancing in the wind, as the gentle warm breeze caresses my face, I picture you and Elsie out there playing ball, Elsie running up to the fence to greet me after she barked at me, along with you taking the time to always spend time with me and as I comment on this site, I always have to pause to collect myself to continue to write to you because my eyes get full of tears 
 well, I think you know where I'm going, it's hard Tommy, it's tough but eventually I will get through this and it's going to take a very long time. I thought about you after cooking my stir fried pears and apples yesterday. I wish there was a phone line to heaven, it would be busy all the time because I want so bad to hear your voice again, hear you call my name. Every time I stand at my favorite bus stop, I never miss a day without shedding a tear. Your absence hurts Tommy. If you were here, you would say, Dee, come give me a hug, sweetie it's alright, I'm wonderful now, if I can just dream that and you tell me that, It would bring some healing to my broken heart. Vivian, who plays volleyball like myself, has been in touch with me. She want's your family to call her. She wants to visit Mackenzie so to the family, please call Vivian at that number.

To Tommy's family. I hope to one day meet you all, but in your own time if it's meant to happen. I have left both email addresses so I will wait on you if that meeting should ever take place. Again, try and be strong going into the holidays now.

Good Morning Tommy, 

You know, as time is moving, the realization of you not being home anymore is starting to hit me even harder now because I was so use to you being home and seeing you daily. It's one thing for someone to be on vacation, but it's been a long time now and it just seems like you should be there with Elsie and not seeing you in that empty yard is getting harder to except. I know if you were here, you would say, Dee, sweetie, I'm great, doing fine and you would pat me on the back and say, stop worrying about me Dee, that's kind of you to think of me but chill out Dee . So in your honor, I will work on doing that Tommy. I miss you very much, waiting out there in the dark for my bus, I feel so lonely now Tommy. I have to truly depend on God's protection when waiting at dark bus stops since you Tommy, my guardian angel, is not here with me. Our soldier, our buddy, great neighbor, a walking teddy bear when it came to children and animals, we all love and miss you so much. I don't mean to always sound so negative Tommy, but this loss was a big and painful loss to me and my family who met you too. Sometimes I wonder Tommy, will my heart and emotions ever heal, remember I told you it's broken in four parts but I will be ok, remember I told you time heals.  I made a pound cake recently for my party I had this past Saturday and I thought of you, how I use to save you a slice of my treats but not anymore. If those whose lives you touched didn't love and care about you, we, I, would not be deeply affected by your absence. Ok, well, I will be in touch. Hugs Tommy, from a good neighbor/friend who misses you so much, also, my sister thinks of you too and says hello.

Tommy, my dear neighbor and friend. It still seems so unreal to me. I hope I can eventually heal from your absence. I felt so protected, safe when you would come out in the mornings when bringing Elsie out and you would stand and we would talk until my bus came while it was still dark. I felt proud to have a 6'5 handsome man in my presence until I boarded the bus, now you are not there anymore. My sister took me home last night, and ma was with us and they slowed down and looked at your house and said, No more Tommy and I broke down and cried. Your absence truly broke a lot of hearts but I'm speaking of mine, it's ripped into 4 parts Tommy. Now besides you, I only have my sister to share my most inner feelings with, thank God for her. Fall is here now, I remember how you would be out there faithfully mending to your yard, and I could see you from my window and I couldn't wait to get out there so we could chat, then sometimes I wasn't fast enough, I would miss you. If only heaven had a phone line, it would stay busy 24-7, because I would be calling Dad, both grandma's, my two favorite uncles, and two of my favorite aunts. God allowed me to dream about them because I asked him Tommy, and I was able to see where they are and talk to them, in heaven. I hope he will allow me to dream about you again so I can give you a hug and tell you how much I truly miss you and how painful it is that my good neighbor, friend is not here anymore with us, those who truly cared and loved you. I can say so much more, but I will save those personal lines for when I visit your site. I see your Dad sometimes Tommy, walking the dogs, and it's good to stop and talk to your father, to give him a hug, everyone can use a genuine hug. Tommy, you are at Gate of Heaven with my Dad, mommy's mother and a faithful aunt. I would like to come and see you if the family will let me know where you are and I promise to put a flag on your area, (ok, getting teary eyed again). I'll end this on a good thought though I'm still hurting Tommy, I hope you are not working too hard in heaven. To the family, my email address is, dresiavaughn30@gmail.com and the other one is, Dresia.vaughn@frb.gov and I hope to meet you some day and give you all big hugs too, the kind Tommy always loved from me.

Hi Tommy, my family and I miss you very much, especially me. I miss our long talks, me walking Elsie, bringing you cookies and home baked goods. My friend, my buddy gone but will always live in my memory and heart and hearts of neighbors who liked and admired you, a tall walking teddy bear.

Hi Tommy, I'm doing ok, still painful though losing a good neighbor and friend. I truly miss you buddy I truly do. I will be ok, it takes time and you can't rush time. My family are doing well. I finally told ma how you use to ask about her and admire her class and her beauty and she smiled a big smiled. She misses you too. Every time my sister or mom drop me off they look over at your house. Well, I will be in touch and I hope God is relaying this message to you, we love and miss you dearly Tommy.

I salute your veteran. My condolences for your loss and gratitude for your loved one's service to our country.

Tommy, Sunday, I broke down in front of family while ma tried to console me. It's still very painful, and it's going to be that way for a long time. If I could hear your voice, you would tell me, Dee, stop worrying about me, I'm in heaven now and man it's so beautiful here. I know you don't mind me building a snowman and putting that ugly red hat on it's head you admired the first time we met. I will have to get approval from you Dad since I see him walking the dogs to build it in your yard. I think I may have the stamina when the time comes. I wish you were there to help me build it. It will be small, but in your honor. I also made a promise to get Elsie a toy and I still plan to do that. I will hold true to my promise and next time I see your Dad, I will give it to him for Elsie. I miss you Tommy, now it's like I'm looking through gray colored lenses again instead of colorful lenses which means, my world is gray with out a good neighbor like you and friend in it. But I will be ok Tommy, in time I will be ok. It just shows how much some of us cared for you in the neighborhood. Well, I have to be strong because you would want me to be. I still feel like this is a bad dream. I had a dream about you last week that you was helping to move chairs, pretty royal type chairs. I wonder if they have you working in heaven now :)

O Tommy, I forgot to say, "Thank you for your service to this country" That's another thing we had in common, the military, me born into a military family and you having served in the Marines. I would have saluted you if I had know sooner. So, now, I salute you dear soldier.

Hi Mackenzie, it's Dee, remember me? always remember, your father loved you with a passion, he often talked about his beautiful daughter and how you delighted his heart whenever he spent time with you. I want you to try and be strong, do it for your father, that's what he would want you to do, and keep doing well in school ok, if you feel sad and need to cry, you should be able too. Continue to keep in touch with Elsie your dog. I will say a prayer for you ok, It was nice meeting you and seeing you again. You are a beautiful girl too. If you want to say hello to me, or feel like it, you can email me at: dresiavaughn30@gamil.com

Good Morning to all who loved and knew Thomas Mayers, Jr. I was blessed to know Mr. Mayers since March of 2015 when he came into my office for the first time. I believe we had a connection that extended past the typical doctor patient relationship. He could be real with me and I could be straight with him, and together we worked on getting his health in order. He kept my office staff in stitches with his stories and jokes; he was quite a talker!! But most of all, he talked about how much he loved his daughter, Mackenzie. When he missed his Sept 1st appointment, I knew something was wrong. He never missed an appointment with me; always my first patient, 8 am sharp! My heart breaks to know that he is no longer with us. He has taught me to always smile even in pain. Mackenzie, your Daddy will always be in your heart and protect you from above; that is how strong his love is for you!! You keep doing well in school, cry when you feel sad, then smile knowing that your King is proud of his beautiful Princess.

Unbearable sometimes Tommy, I wish this was a nightmare but it's not.  I shed tears yesterday, as I'm sure others have who truly liked and loved you. I miss seeing you outside, in your yard with Elsie, walking up and down the road with Elsie, running into you while waiting at the bus stop chatting a long time and sometimes while cleaning the apartment grounds. I'll never forget how you complimented that ugly hat I had on which I thought was so funny but you saw beauty in my hat, I should have given it to you since it was a unisex anyway. I, we the neighbors truly miss you Tommy, in time, this hole in my heart will heal, it's going to take a while, it truly will, pain doesn't heal overnight. I hope this message reaches your spirit to let you know you are truly missed and thought of often. The seasons will come and go, and I have to get through the seasons not seeing you anymore as well. I'm thinking, if we get a big snowstorm like we did last year, I will build a small snowman in your honor. I will be in touch.  I pray God will give you this message.  Love always, Dee and family.

Forgot to add, a candle from mom and sister.

Hi Tommy, I wanted you to know, my sister and Mother passed a message on to you. They are sorry they did not get to know you better. The first time they met you, they liked you right away and Elsie. They too were shocked to learn of your passing and to this day, it's still too hard to except right now but we will get through it. They will never forget your mannerism, your smile, your conversation with them, what I shared with them about you, being such a kind neighbor, doing for others, love for animals which struck gold with my mother and our family because we love animals too, Tommy, (I) shed tears still every now and then, mostly now, but in time, my broken heart will heal. For those who knew you and were very close to you, our hearts still ache. It's not easy Tommy, no it's not easy, not seeing you in your yard cleaning and mowing, Elsie running up to the fence to greet me, our long talks about life, etc., but I must be strong and carry on, that's what you would want me to do. The last time I saw you before we went our separate ways, it was like, something was telling me to hug and kiss you just because, and now I wish I had done that. Gone too soon, but you will always be in my heart and mind. Save a seat for me in heaven Tommy. We will all reunite very soon in Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

 Tommy, my great neighbor and friend, when I wait at the bus stop in front of your house, and or look out my window,  I expect to see you and Elsie out in the yard, playing or mowing and taking care of your yard, now the yard is empty, no more Tommy outside with his dog Elsie, and Tommy loved his daughter to death, he often talked about her, cherished her like a rare diamond, and I had the privilege of meeting her twice. Tommy, I will miss you dearly, we've known each other for a long time, your weird and funny jokes, laughter, our interest we shared together loving animals, our conversations about God and his son Jesus Christ, our long conversations about life, family, your daughter, I will miss seeing another snowman in your yard, hearing you mow your grass, seeing you waving at everyone and cutting other neighbors grass, our conversations about cooking out when it got cooler. I still can't believe it, it's like, someone hit me in the head with a brick and wake me up from this nightmare, the day you left, tore a big hole in many hearts, and especially mine since I was the close neighbor and friend of yours. I will miss you my buddy, I will truly miss you. This tear will take some time to heal, meantime, my condolences to the family of Tommy.

Kathy,Chrissy, Mark, Carol, Grandma, Tom & all loved ones- I am so very sorry for your loss. Tommy had a very kind heart & an amazing smile.  He would do anything he could for anyone he knew, he cared more for others than he did for himself. He is watching over you now.  May God comfort you all during this difficult time.  Rest in Paradise Tommy, I wish you knew how much you were loved while here on earth.

"I'm so sorry and shocked about the loss this family has suffered.  Life is so quick and short sometimes.  At least he left behind a great legacy for everyone.  May he be at peace"

Kathy, Tom and Family, We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Know that you all will be in our thoughts and prayers always.
John and Debby Giancoli and Family

I was so sorry to hear of your loss.  The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.

Kathy, Tom and Family, I am so very sorry.  My heart breaks for you and I am sending you all my Love and Prayers.  Vicky

Carol and Family, 

I am very sorry to hear about Tommy.  I have so many great memories of hanging out with you all, going to basketball games, and making sure you didn't miss Mass.  Tommy was such a nice and fun guy.  I pray that God gives you all the strength and peace you need to get through this tough time.  Tommy will be missed by so many, but his memory will be kept alive by all of us that loved him!  

Love, 

Heather Lee (Youhouse)

Im so sorry for your loss. I loved tommy very much. I have no words except to offer my condolences and hope God will comfort your family. I wished it was all a bad dream. I can never express how much he meant to me and im saddened beyond belief. Until we meet again love you Tommy Mayers. Prayers to everyone missing him and mourning his loss. Rest in peace.

Tom and Kathy and Family,
There are no words that can heal the sadness you must have in your hearts at this time on the loss of your beloved son and brother my heart goes out to all of you and you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless and keep you.

Tom,
I am so sorry for your loss. I never had the privilege of meeting Tommy but with you as his dad, I know he was an amazing young man. My prayers are with you and your family.

I'm So sorry to hear about Tommy. I don't ever expect to hear something like this about someone I grew up around. I've always considered you guys as my family even though I haven't seen you lately and I'm sorry for that. My memory of him has been frozen in time for years.You guys are an amazing family and Tommy will never be forgotten. Thanks for always being there for me whenever I needed you guys.

My deepest condolences to you all.  May God's love surround you and bring you peace in this difficult time.

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Tom and Kathy  I'm so sorry for your loss it is so hard to lose a love one and harder when it is your child God bless you both may God heal and give you strength You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers

Kathy, I'm very sorry to hear about Tommy! He was a great person and very loving. You and your family are in my thoughts and prays. Hugs and kisses to you all. May God be with you and bring you strength to guide you through this. May Tommy rest in peace and his memory be honored! With Love, Denise

Kathy, Tom, Grandma, Mark, Carol, Chrissy and every other member of one of the most amazing families I've ever had the pleasure of loving:

I could never in a million years express my sadness, my sorrow nor my heartache for your loss. I had the pleasure of literally spending every day of nearly 10 years with each of you. I will never forget those minutes, those hours, those days and those years. I'm pretty sure I showed up to Stateside Drive one day and didn't leave for almost 4 years! How could anyone voluntarily leave knowing that the most loving group of individuals lived under that one roof? The good times & the bad times we all shared...but most importantly I will never forget the hysterical laughter that we shared. Nearly 20 years later, I would be remiss...to even for the smallest moment in time....forget what Tommy meant to me. He was a friend, a cohort but most importantly a brother. We had our moments just like any brothers do, but what I will miss the most is the competitive rivalry that will never be duplicated. The "one-up" king of the world, Tommy motivated people to be better than he was....in and at anything...just ask Mark! 
Tommy loved his family and friends till the day was long and always had your back regardless of the situation. You can't replace that character trait and you probably never will. Funny thing is, Mark is the same way. 

Kathy & Tom you raised an amazing young man and your level of PROUD should never be dismissed. You are two of the most amazing parents I've ever known....to me and your own children. 

I love you all and I wish only the deepest condolences one has to offer.

Love your "brother", your "son" and your lifelong friend and family member.

Forever & always,
Jeff Morton

Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. So sorry for your loss. The Aldridge
Family

Kathy, I am so sorry for your loss words could never express the heartfelt pain I feel for you. I can only see and remember Tommy at age ten which makes this loss so very hard for me as children are always children. My heart aches for you thus, I have been in constant prayer since hearing of his death. What can I do other than pray, after loosing a child? Unfortunately, we are out of town on holiday so unable to make it to the service however, I wanted you to know that you and Tom will remain in my prayers. Please let me know if I can do anything anytime as well kisses, hugs to you. With Love and prayer, Meg

Chrissy and family, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Fly high my friend. I pray that you found what you were looking for, some peace. Love you and gonna miss you Tommy boy❤

OBITUARY

Thomas Richard Mayers, Jr.

17 February, 1977 – 31 August, 2016

Hines-Rinaldi Funeral Home

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