Doane Beal & Ames

729 Route 134, South Dennis, MA


John M. DeShaw

27 December, 194031 January, 2020
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John Melvin DeShaw

December 27, 1940 – January 31, 2020

John Melvin DeShaw, age 79, of Bonita Springs, FL and Dennis, MA, passed away at Joanne’s House at Hope Hospice in Bonita Springs, FL on January 31st, 2020 with his loving wife of 55 years, Patricia (Arena) DeShaw, by his side.

John was born in Framingham, MA, where he was raised and educated. He was the son of the late Gordon E. and Sarah H. (Cotter) DeShaw. He attended St. Stevens through middle school followed by Framingham High School. From 1961-1964 he served in the US Army as a paratrooper in the 82nd Airborne Division. He was honorably discharged in 1964.

In 1970, he started his long career with New England Telephone as a technician out of the Framingham office. Over time, he advanced into the financial management ranks. His management assignments took him all over the world - living in Iran, Hong Kong and Singapore – helping to build the global business for Verizon and developing life-long friendships with people around the globe. In 2002, he proudly retired as an Executive Director of Verizon International after a 32-year career across the Bell System.

John was an avid golfer and enjoyed countless rounds with friends and family at Dennis Highlands, Dennis Pines and Shadow Wood Country Club in Bonita Spring, FL. John was also an avid wine collector and loved nothing more than sharing bottles with friends and family.

John was predeceased by his beloved son Johnny at age 18. John’s life revolved around Johnny. He nurtured and supported him as he grew into a talented student, athlete, musician and person. John continued to honor Johnny’s legacy by establishing a scholarship fund in his name at Bryant University.

In addition to his wife, Patricia, he is survived by his beloved sisters-in-law Mary (Main) DeShaw of Naples, FL and Dennis, MA, Elizabeth Cary Deshaw of Fairhope, AL and Grace Carlin of Pittsburg, NH; many nephews, nieces, great-nephews and great-nieces; and his son Steven DeShaw and his wife Mary DeShaw of Nashua, NH and their children Sarah and Alex. John was predeceased by his siblings George, Robert, David, Gordon and Mary DeShaw.

Arrangements: Visitation for relatives and friends will be held at Doane Beal & Ames, 729 Rt 134 South Dennis, MA on Monday February 10th from 8:30 -10:00 AM followed by a funeral mass at Our Lady of the Cape, 468 Stony Brook Rd Brewster, MA at 10:30 AM. Internment at the Bourne National Cemetery will follow at 2:30 PM for those who wish to attend.

In lieu of flowers, donations in John’s name may be made to the John M. DeShaw Jr. Memorial Endowed Scholarship Fund at Bryant University. Visit www.bryant.edu/givenow or mail donation to Bryant University, P.O Box 40, 1150 Douglas Pike, Smithfield, RI 02917; or alternatively to the Alzheimer’s Association @ http://act.alz.org/


  • Patricia (Arena) DeShaw, Wife
  • Johnny DeShaw, Son (deceased)
  • Steven DeShaw (Mary DeShaw), Son
  • Sarah and Alex DeShaw, grandchildren
  • Gordon E. and Sarah H. (Cotter) DeShaw, parents (deceased)
  • George DeShaw, Brother (deceased)
  • Robert DeShaw, Brother (deceased)
  • David DeShaw, Brother (deceased)
  • Gordon DeShaw, Brother (deceased)
  • Mary DeShaw, Sister (deceased)
  • Mary (Main) DeShaw, Sister-in-law
  • Elizabeth Cary Deshaw, Sister-in-law
  • Grace Carlin, Sister-in-law
  • As well as many nephews, nieces, great-nephews and great-nieces.


  • Visitation Monday, 10 February , 2020
  • Funeral Mass Monday, 10 February , 2020
  • Interment Monday, 10 February , 2020


John M. DeShaw

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Gordon DeShaw

February 10, 2020

Uncle John, had this car that was beautifull. It was red and white 1963 Corvette Sting Ray. The hubs sparkled when he turned down the street. I was in awe. The next words would be the happiest in my life. Do you want to drive it.? YES, but I am only 5. He picked me up and placed me on his lap and behind the steering wheel, closed the door. Vroom off we went!

Sharon Gallagher Frank

February 9, 2020

Many fond memories of John, at Laurie & Stew's family celebrations. Roland loved hearing all about his wine cellar!
This picture tribute is beautiful, shows how much he was loved, our heartfelt sympathy! Sharon & Roland Frank

Vincent Arena

February 8, 2020

Pat and family, sorry for your loss. John was a wonderful man, always fun to be around at family events. Sending love and prayers
Vincent and Susan Arena

ed butler

February 4, 2020

Dear Pat, We are so sorry to hear of John's passing. He was a great guy with a sense of humor. I will always remember him having lunch with Paul Palange and I in Chinatown. He used to leave with stains on his shirt for which we gave him a hard time. At a subsequent luncheon he reached into his suit jacket pocket and pulled out plastic sleeves that secretaries wore to protect their blouse sleeves, he wore them during lunch. Many funny stories from Iran as well. You had a great life together .
With fond memories.
Ed and Kathy Butler

Gordon McGinnis

February 2, 2020

We are so sorry to hear of John's passing but Jane and I and our children are also very happy to have known and experienced so many worldwide experiences with you and John.He was a wonderful family person and a dear friend. His most recent difficulties are now behind him and he's in a new great place.Jane and I will forever cherish our last dinner together on Jane's birthday -September 15.