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Victoria Frances Drader

7 September, 194225 April, 2021

It is with great sadness and fond memories that we share the passing of Victoria Frances Drader, born September 7th, 1942, who left us suddenly on Sunday morning, April 25th, 2021.

Vicki passed away painlessly at her home upon finishing her favourite breakfast. Born in Vancouver, BC during WWII to parents Frank and Fey, Vicki grew up a bright, energetic and accomplished youth with an unquenchable passion for learning. She went on to earn a doctorate in Counselling Psychology at the University of Victoria before pursuing a lifelong career in clinical counselling. Along the way she would find countless outlets for her endless empathy, including a longtime volunteer position at the NEED Crisis Line, where she met her eventual partner of 48 years, David Stewart.

With an incomparably brilliant, intuitive and hardworking mind Vicki excelled at a great many feats and dedicated herself wholeheartedly to numerous causes over the years, though perhaps none more intensely than caring for her loved ones. Whether as a mother, partner, sibling, daughter, or friend, Vicki always had an open ear, an open mind, and an open heart for the people she loved, ever eager to jump in for support or to apply the 'fine heart of listening'. Her kindness in life was rivalled only by her genuineness, attentiveness, expressiveness and devotion to her family, particularly her children, Casey and Noah who survive her.

We mourn Vicki's passing deeply and we celebrate her tremendous, impactful, enduring life which was unquestionably filled with every ounce of love she had. Vicki lives on in the impressions she made in this world and on the people in her life. She remains forever in our hearts.

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Nancy Reeves

7 May 2021

I am so saddened knowing that Vicki is no longer in this world. She was very important in my life, the best prof I ever had and the best supervisor. I remember when I took Group Processes from her and she approached me after an exam and told me I had "aced" it. She said this with a very straight face, and in my nervousness about the exam, I thought she meant I had failed. She began to laugh and asked if I had wanted to do better that !00%.

Much love to David, the kids, Robin and all who loved Vicki.
Nancy

Carin Guthrie

4 May 2021

Vicki was Aunty to me,

I am forever grateful for her presence in my life. My memories of her are ones of joy, energy, laughter, good food, witty conversation and great compassion. She was always so wise and self-assured, she was a woman that I looked up to.
I will miss her.
David, Casey and Noah I am so sorry for your loss and I send you all my love and hugs, since I can not be there to hug you in person.

Love,
Carin

Margaux Finlayson

3 May 2021

I was stunned to hear this news. I first met Vicki in 1975, when in a training group that she and some other wonderful people facilitated. I remember Vicki as beautiful inside and out. She was vibrant, principled, highly skilled, creative and caring. She always seemed to bustle in to the group room and was almost always wearing velour. When two of us wrote a volunteer guide on a summer job grant (still a particularly fond memory), we appreciated Vicki’s astute edits. She was both smart and wise, and she was a fantastic person to work with and for.

Of all the couples I’ve known over my lifetime, David and Vicki stand out. They’ve epitomized how to be in a loving, respectful relationship and just seem meant for each other. David, Casey and Noah, my heart goes out to you and you are much in my thoughts. Healing wishes also to Vicki’s other family members and friends who are grieving—there are undoubtedly many.

Margaux (Margaret Rolls in olden days)

Bev McKenzie

2 May 2021

My earliest memory of Vicky was in 1958. I was visiting at her home and the Ed Sullivan Show was on the TV. Edd Kookie Burns was performing and she was oohing and aahing and so excited. I was an impressionable 9 year old and this made a lasting impression on me.
In later years, we shared many memories from our time as neighbours and shared many meals and glasses of wine.
Our condolences to David, Noah, Casey, Merrilee, Larry, Robin and families.
She will be fondly remembered.

Silvia Vilches

1 May 2021

Dear David, Noah and Casey, and all the Parkies who are family forever - we may not all be in touch much (or I might not be), but we notice what happens and we care. My heart goes out to you all. Much love, from all three of us, Silvia

Andy Lee

1 May 2021

Dear David,

We were so sorry to read of Vicki's passing. She was indeed a very bright light, and we can only guess at how immensely you miss her.

Many times in the last 30 years we've remarked to each other how indebted we are to you for the counselling you provided us, individually and together, and we tried various ways to tell you so, all with no luck. I'm sorry that this is the medium, but hey.

We wish you the best, and if you'd ever like to get in touch we'd love to hear from you -- or better, see you.

Love to you, from
Andy and Astrid

Danica Stewart

1 May 2021

I can't believe it. Every day it seems I can hear your voice echoing in my head. You've been an absolute beast in advocating for me when I didn't even know how badly I needed it. You've been phenomenal to my kids, checking in on them, exploring their interests, spoiling them rotten with books and love , treating them like your own grandkids. Good gravy Vicki you made me laugh like nobody could. To describe this as a loss would be an absolute understatement, the lives you've impacted are beyond measure as we know how badly we are affected. We all feel such a closeness to Vicki and now such a huge hole in our hearts.
Vicki was a tiny human with an enormous presence. I will always remember you with love and laughter with absolute admiration.
We love you Vicki.

Torrie Hester

1 May 2021

David, Casey and Noah,

Love you all. This picture captures a celebration in 2017; we were toasting my book. Vicki's love, wisdom, generosity, and planning is central and inspirational to my work and life. I am so grateful for Vicki and you all.

Love, Torrie

Astrid Firley-Eaton

30 April 2021

Dear David,
I was deeply saddened to read of Vicki’s passing and I am sorry that there will not be a celebration of her life, we could all share in.

A few years ago, I sent you a note of appreciation for the tools you provided me & which have served me so well all these years.
Unfortunately, the letter was returned & I was unable to find a current address for either one of you.

I hold you in my thoughts,
Astrid

Kevin Johnston

30 April 2021

I met Vicki around 2002, as I was (and continue to be) best friends with her son Noah.

I remember being in complete awe at the breakfasts she would prepare for us. It was unlike anything I'd ever seen! She was constantly smiling and allowed us to really embrace being teenagers - and all the fun (and trouble!) that comes with that.

I have some of my best memories spent at her and David's house on the water. Their kindness was so appreciated and their love for family was incredibly apparent.

The last time I saw her was at their house for the Super Bowl in 2020. Of course, there was an absolute feast prepared. It was a ton of fun and I wish I had known at the time it would be the last time I'd see her.

She will be greatly missed and my heart goes out to her friends and loved ones. I hope you can find some peace knowing how lovely a woman she was and the impact she had on the world.

FROM THE FAMILY