Gerard Paul Donahoe Jr.
6 August, 1960 – 14 March, 2021
Gerard (Jerry) Paul Donahoe, Jr., age 60 of Washington, DC passed away at home on March 14, 2021 after fighting cancer diagnosed 8 months ago. He was preceded in death by his parents, Gerard P. and Virginia A. (Humber) Donahoe. He leaves behind his partner of 23 years, Daniel P. McGlynn, of Washington, DC, his 3 sisters and their husbands, Diana M. Steel & Peter Dini of Poway, CA; Carol A. & Kenneth Page of Hollis, NH, and Ellen V. & Joseph Ferreira of Winchester, MA and 7 nieces and nephews, Conor, Aisling, Justin, Nicholas, Scott, Karina & Thomas. He also leaves behind many aunts, uncles, cousins and dear friends in various parts of the U.S. and other countries.
A graduate of Winchester High School, he also received a B.A in Political Science from Bates College and a Masters in Urban Planning from the University of Pennsylvania. He was active in his alumni groups and was a class officer and class agent and organized alumni activities such as hiking in the mountains. He worked at Jones Lang Wooten in New York. He moved to Washington, DC in 1994 and, until illness forced his retirement in September 2020, he was a Housing Program Policy Specialist with the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development.
Jerry loved the outdoors and sharing it with others. He was a fantastic organizer of adventures and a travel planner extraordinaire. He traveled the world, visiting all the continents, including Antarctica. He loved to be on or near water, especially the ocean; he felt energized by it. He loved to sail. He loved being at the beach. He loved to float in a pool supported by noodles. He loved being in a hot tub and longed for one at home. He loved to downhill ski and competing on a race team in the winter months and being at a beach on Cape Cod or at Cape Henlopen State Park beach in Delaware when the weather was warm.
He was passionate about bringing people together and forming new bonds and friendships. His church community, St.Thomas’ Parish in DC, was an integral part of his life. He was a church greeter and made others feel welcomed at St. Thomas’ when they were searching for a new church community. He led the foyer dinner program at St. Thomas’ where participants gathered in each other’s homes to get to know each other while sharing a meal and discussing a wide array of topics. He led church group hikes in the mountains of Virginia and visits to nearby wineries. He was a fast and loyal friend and will be sorely missed by those who knew and loved him.
A memorial service (via Zoom) from St. Thomas’ Parish in Washington, DC will be held on Tuesday, March 23 at 6:30PM. In lieu of flowers, donations are suggested to St. Thomas’ Parish (stthomasdc.org), caringbridge.org, or capitalcaring.org
No public services are scheduled at this time. Receive a notification when services are updated.
Gerard Paul Donahoe Jr.
16 July 2021
My husband, Martin Johnson (Bates alum), and I enjoyed several day hikes in Shenandoah National Park and other areas in Virginia and West Virginia that were led by Jerry as part of his Bates alumni activities. We have fond memories of Jerry and these adventures.
8 April 2021
I am heartbroken to hear this news. I met Jerry through the Penn alumni club and loved his hikes, stories of his travel adventures and his warmth. He was a wonderful person and will be missed.
3 April 2021
I only learned of Jerry's passing belatedly today while at a going-away gathering at DC's Garfield Park, and I am so sad. I first met Jerry at the neighborhood 21@21 jazz gathering several years ago, and he was always a smiling face there, and a good conversationalist. I also used to see him sometimes while walking my dogs in the neighborhood, and I remember running into him on S. Carolina Ave. a couple years back just before he embarked on a trip to Italy (a place for which we shared a mutual passion). Then covid hit, with everyone hibernating indoors, and I did not see Jerry for many months, so I did not even know he was sick, and I am heartbroken as a result. My deepest condolences to Dan and Jerry's family; please know that I will miss his smiling presence on the street and at neighborhood gatherings more than most will ever know. A bright, shining star has been extinguished, and the night sky will never be the same.
30 March 2021
My husband, Evan, and I got to know Gerry within the last five years through the Bates/Penn outdoors hiking clubs and other alumni events. We are shocked to hear this sad news.
Gerry was a warm, earthy, and adventurous soul. We always enjoyed speaking with him during these activities if we had any breath left. He loved to challenge his hikers with lengthy hikes and steep grades.
We thank him for leading some hikes for the Penn Club of DC. And we will plant a flower for him on the AT.
May his memory be for a blessing.
Dawn (Phillips) Dore
27 March 2021
So sorry to hear about Gerry. I was one of his classmates and I remember him from St. Mary’s. He sounded like he had a wonderful full life.
Marjorie (Paulson) Eldridge
27 March 2021
I was sorry to hear this sad news. I remember Gerry as a kid who always had a smile. I wish you all peace.
23 March 2021
To Jerry's Family and Friends,
Jerry had such a kind heart and a fervent passion for Bates and Maine. He was and is the alumnus I hope to be in the course of time: passionate, compassionate, and always eager to share. I even got to see him in Washington a couple of times for a drink or two! I will miss him dearly.
The last time I saw him was in the parking lot by the Puddle in 2019. I was grabbing my luggage and so was he. ,It turned out we both rented the same car a Chevy Camero. I on purpose; he by coincidence. Jerry had no idea what he had, but he loved the adventure! He revved the engine once we showed him how! Once a Bobcat, always a Bobcat. Bates and her Alumni would do well to imitate and share the love he had for his alma mater.
Sincerely and Respectfully Yours,
Andrew L. Carranco
Bates College '14
Jane Farr Burns
22 March 2021
Dear Dan and Jerry's sisters,
I am so heartbroken about Jerry's passing. We were friends at Bates and I always enjoyed seeing him at reunions. He was the glue, the social captain that held us together. I can't even imagine a reunion without him. I know he lived a good life, but that's not good enough right now. He was a wonderful, caring, and loving person and I miss him. He left us too soon. My brother, Peter Farr, also knew Jerry. They met at Penn when they were both in school there. That was another connection we had. Jerry made such a difference to my Bates experience, especially after we graduated. He was so dedicated to our school. I loved his spirit and drive, and feel so much for his family right now. May you live in peace.
Jane Farr Burns
20 March 2021
I went to Bates with Jerry. I will always remember his welcoming smile and demeanor. My deepest sympathy to Daniel and all of Jerry’s family and friend.s.
19 March 2021
Your Billy Motel buddies are thinking of you and Jerry. We may have to have a plaque made for Jerry's seat at the bar.
All of our love,
16 March 2021
I have fond memories of going to Jackson NH, many many years ago
I would cross country with Mary and Patty
You, and your cousins would downhil ski
At night we would have many laughs
Jerry you are at peace now
My Deepest Sympathy to all your relatives