Alistair, you were the older brother I never had. I always looked up to you for advice since I was about 5 and you at 8. We grew up together. You were always 1 step ahead, the smartest guy at school, the coolest guy doing the coolest stuff, and the greatest role model a younger friend could have asked for.

You were about to be 1 of the world's finest surgeons - we all knew you'd be helping to save hundreds of lives and helping to make people's lives better. 

Alistair, you always knew how to brighten up a room, as you were a funny, happy, encouraging friend, son, and brother. You cared about others, and made sure everyone enjoyed life as much as you did.

I will carry you on my shoulders every day.
You affected so many people in a positive way. Many will carry you forward.

See you in the skies above my older brother.

Rest In paradise homie :( a life taken to young I remember alistair on my b-ball team in middle school this breaks my heart :( praying for your family:( 

 John, Leigh, Roseann and Emma 

 I was so disappointed that I was out of the state when you  had  your services for Alistair. I know there are no words to  take your pain away. The wonderful pictures you have as a family with Alistair will be  some of the most profound memories  you have and they will bring you solace and peace as you look at his gorgeous smile and you can see his warm heart in every picture. Please know my entire family is thinking of you and praying for you. We pray that you have peace, and we pray that the joy of Alistair will bring smiles to your face in the near future .   With much love, The Nidetz family 

Our hearts broke when we heard that Alistair is no longer with us.  We had great times with Alistair and Rosie at the shooting range, plus Emma at the New Years Party.
It rained on my brother's funeral, and the minister said to me that was a special blessing, tears from Heaven (Ithink for us)
I noticed it rained on the service, plus the sky has been very gloomy the last few days.

Alistair was an absolutely wonderful guy. I’m still in disbelief, and I’m devastated for your family. I was blessed to know Alistair in middle and high school, and so many memories flood my mind. We took several classes together, played water polo and swam together; were academic rivals and athletic friends. He was so kind and gentle, yet competitive and even sometimes brutally honest. When I was accepted at Vanderbilt, he told me I had to go because that was his top choice, and I took his spot. I honestly think that was one of the reasons I picked Vanderbilt, or at least he made me value that option more, and that comment has stayed with me for almost 10 years. It’s amazing how the Lord used our desires and relationship to shape our paths. Alistair left a meaningful impact on my life, and he affected and loved so many others as well. Alistair is sorely missed. Rest in peace, my friend, and God bless you and your family.

I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Alistair was a kind, loving, charismatic, and joyful young man. It was a privilege to swim and play water polo with him at Oaks. You are greatly missed, Alistair. 

Alistair was one of the kindest souls and brightest lights I have ever met.  He was more than a friend, but a true brother that supported and encouraged me, a sentiment echoed among several others.  But it was the truth, it is the truth.  Alistair's ability to share laughter and joy, to shed happiness upon others, to seek adventure with an open heart inspired me and still inspires me to this day.  It was his underlying creativity and passion for storytelling when we were young, seeing the short films he took part in, that drove me to want to pursue a career in film in my adulthood.  And while our time was cut short, I cherish the memories we did have and fondly recall Alistair's ability to make me feel special and loved, even in moments of stress and sorrow.  Alistair led a life worth celebrating, and I am in awe of his work ethic, spirit, and the love he had for others.  I send all of my love and prayers to the incredible family, who raised Alistair to be an admirable man.  In my life, I hope to share even a fraction of the light Alistair brought upon others during his.  Rest well, my brother.  Celebrate eternity.

Alistair,

   I’ll never forget the great times we had. You were a great friend. Always going out of your way for others, and you always knew the perfect thing to say to make everyone laugh. I’ll never forget our waterpolo days with the team. They are some of my fondest memories. A Goalkeeper couldn’t ask for a better set man. My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who’s life you’ve touched, the world is missing a great man, friend, brother, and son. 

Alistair,
In high school you were basically my brother. We spent hours building air-soft courses in your back yard, days in the pool together through polo and swimming,  and years having each others backs. I believe I speak for the whole Oaks Christian Swim Family that we lost one of our brothers. I can assure you though that those memories will never be forgotten. In my memory you will forever be one of the guys in the middle dancing for our O,C,H,S cheer with Greg Simon. You will always be the guy who was able to change a Michael Jackson song into a heavy metal song with Cole, Jet, Trevor, and Travis. You will always be that guy who helped craft pranks to mess with Taylor Amstutz or Diana Safa. Most of all you will always be that guy who I looked up to and always pushed myself to be like. This definitely hurts but I know you are up there somewhere standing behind all of our swim lanes cheering each one of us on in this race called life.


One of my best friends in high school and one of the kindest (and hardest working) people I know. 

My favorite memory with Alistair, besides the pictures we would take with Mojo before every dance or the incredible times we had as water polo teammates, would have to be when we all dressed up as pirates so he could ask Diana to prom. His car was made to look like a pirate ship, and he organized this chaotic scene that involved me (the enemy pirate) taking Diana until he “saved” her and asked her to the dance. That day embodied his work ethic, attention to detail, and his ability to be absolutely hilarious while doing it.

I wish we stayed in touch after UCLA, brother. 

There are no words to say how sorry we are for your loss - Alistair was an exceptional person, raised in an exceptional family.  We have always felt it was a privilege to know your family and Alistair.  We always remember him radiating happiness to everyone he came in contact with.  Your family is in our thoughts and prayers.  Thank you for letting us get to know your incredible son.  

So sorry / devastated for the loss. Alistair was a bright light to all who he encountered , including myself, through our formative years of preschool at Westminster, to a couple years together at St. Patricks, to OCMS and OCHS . I remember our times together in classes and swim team, and hold those memories dear. Sending love and prayers and thoughts.  Thinking of your family and praying for you all. 


OBITUARY

Alistair James Fleming

19 September, 1992 – 20 April, 2019

Pierce Brothers Valley Oaks-Griffin Mortuary & Crematory & Pierce Brothers Valley Oaks Memorial Park

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