Pauline Spatafora

8 October, 193028 April, 2021

Pauline (Harcovitz) Spatafora, 90, of Westbrook and formerly Wethersfield, loving wife of 44 years of the late Anthony J. Spatafora, passed away peacefully at home under the care of her children on Wednesday, April 28, 2021. Polly was the daughter of the late Adam and Fannie Harcovitz and the youngest of nine children. An exceptional and inspirational woman, Polly’s humble beginnings started on her family’s farm in Millis, MA. After graduating from UMASS, she completed her residency at Beth Israel Hospital, and began her travel adventures. Polly travelled the world and was a dedicated career woman who worked as a professional dietitian for over 65 years. Polly enjoyed sharing her experiences with all, from growing up on the farm, to sorority parties, to working at MIT, to travelling to far-away places. Polly had a knack for telling it like it is and was not one to sit idly by. She made an impact on all who met her and was a force to be reckoned with. She was a true caregiver with unimaginable strength and energy. Towards the end of her incredible life, she found comfort in the church and lived by example “be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another”. She enjoyed volunteering at church, meeting her Friday craft group at the Westbrook Library and doing Tai Chi at the Senior Center. Her most precious memories were those spent with family during summers in Marion, MA. Polly leaves behind her children: John Spatafora of Wethersfield; Mary and Kevin O’Connor of Hull, MA; Sally Spatafora of Portland, OR; Carole and David Simmons of Wethersfield; Anthony and Michael Vinton-Spatafora of Sherman Oaks, CA; and Trish and Brian Murray of Wethersfield; fourteen grandchildren and four great grandchildren. She will be missed by her neighbors and special friends, Wini and Chris. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Saturday, May 1, at 12:00 p.m. at St. Mark the Evangelist Church of St. Pio Parish, 222 McVeagh Road, Westbrook CT 06498. Everyone is asked to please go directly to the church and adhere to all mask wearing and social distancing guidelines. Burial will be private at the convenience of the family and there are no calling hours. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions in Polly’s name may be made to The Shoreline Soup Kitchens & Pantries at St Mark’s Parish. The D’Esopo Funeral Chapel, Wethersfield has been entrusted with arrangements. To share a memory of Polly with her family, please visit


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T.R. Paulding

5 May 2021

John and the Spatafora family,

I want to express my condolences to my old friend from our days at W.H.S., (you caught many passes while I dutifully kept the bench warm!). I'm sure that you and the family can take comfort in knowing that your Mom and Dad are together, once again. God bless all of you!

T.R. Paulding

Italo (Gino) & Susan Marino

1 May 2021

The Spataforas and Marinos have decades-long history. The stories and times shared are loving memories. We are deeply sorry to hear about Polly's passing. She was straight-speaking, had a wonderful dry sense of humor and was loved and admired by many. A testament to her love is the way all of her children rallied around her during her final days. Our love and deepest sympathy. Her passing will leave a big hole in many lives but at the same time give us many warm memories.

Nancy Scully Bannon

1 May 2021

I so wish I could be with you today to celebrate your Mom’s life. Polly was such a warm and caring woman who made you feel special when you saw her. The twinkle in her eyes and her sense of humor are memories I will always have of her. May your beautiful memories bring you comfort and peace. Please know I will hold all of you close in my thoughts and prayers.

Steven Kanchuga

29 April 2021

Aunt Polly was a very cool lady who was a generation ahead of the times that she grew up in. I remember riding bicycles with her when she used to spend time with us in Wakefield. When she went to Germany back in the 60's she bought a blue Mercedes and had it shipped back to Millis- there were not too many of those running around Millis back then. She will certainly be missed by all that knew her. RIP Aunt Polly.

Nancy-Jo Funaro

29 April 2021

Polly was a treasure and a wonderful addition to “The Wonderful Widows of Westbrook”. We travelled to Vermont and enjoyed the area. She was always very interesting to talk to during our luncheon gatherings . She followed her faith and I am sure she is at peace being at home with the Lord and her family. May she Rest In Peace. 🙏❤️🙏 Nancy-jo

Michael Vinton

28 April 2021

She will be missed so dearly by her family. But the legacy she leaves behind is to be treasured. I enjoyed our conversations over history, especially learning about her family and her parents. I marveled at her wit and intellect, her passion for food and the depth to which she loved each of her children, grandchildren & great-grandchildren. We will miss you.