Predeceased by BENNETT RUBENSTEIN, beloved husband of 57 years, parents HARRY
WEISHAUS and LENA RAND WEISHAUS, and brothers SAMUEL WEISHAUS and URIAN
WEISHAUS.
Survived by her devoted children CAROL MARTIN and spouse PETER MARTIN, of
Seattle, WA, JANET LUKE and spouse RICHARD LUKE of Los Angeles, CA, ARLENE
RUBENSTEIN of Seattle, WA, and LEILA RUBENSTEIN of North Haven, CT; beloved
grandchildren MEGAN LUKE-GRUNDY and spouse TIMOTHY GRUNDY of Los Angeles, CA,
JULIA LUKE of Los Angeles, CA, and ANNA RUBENSTEIN of Seattle, WA.
Barbara "Bert" Weishaus Rubenstein was born July 3, 1920 in New York City. She
had a happy childhood growing up with her parents and brothers in the Bronx.
Upon graduation from high school and business college she became secretary to
her future father-in-law at the Rubenstein family business of Security Mills in
New York City. There she met young Bennett “Bud” Rubenstein. They were married
January 9, 1943 while he was on active leave during World War II.
After the War in 1946 the couple moved to the township of Norwich, Connecticut,
where Bennett took over operations at the Yantic Woolen Mills factory, a
satellite of Security Mills. There they lived for 40 years, raised their four
daughters and joined the Beth Jacob Synagogue, where they were active members of
that Jewish community. Barbara was president of the sisterhood, for which the
couple worked as a fundraising team putting on successful musical shows. In
later years they worked together as co-owners and realtors of the Rubenstein
Realty Company.
In 1986 the Rubensteins retired to Oronoque Village community in Stratford CT,
to be in close proximity to their youngest daughter Leila, who resides at
Benhaven, a school for autism in North Haven. They built close working
relationships with the staff, and provided funds for a building on the campus.
Bud passed away in 2000. In honor of his love of music, Barbara and her
daughters donated Bud’s vast collection of jazz, swing, Broadway and classical
records to the Trinity College Watkinson Library in Hartford, CT in 2013. By
that time Barbara had moved to The Watermark retirement community in Bridgeport,
CT, where she enjoyed and excelled in her bridge game with good friends.
Barbara will be missed by her family, friends and all who knew her. A private
graveside service will be held Friday, May 12 at the Hebrew Benevolent
Association Cemetery in Preston, CT.
Donations in her memory may be made to Benhaven, , 187 Half
Mile Road, North Haven, CT 06497 www.benhaven.org. Please visit www.churchandallen.com to leave an online tribute or condolence.
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