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Stephen N Lander

Stephen Neil Lander, 58, of Holliston, Massachusetts, passed away peacefully on July 21, 2020. Steve was married to Stacey (Mele) Lander on January 7, 1996; They were married for 24 wonderful, raucous, and loving years. They had many canine children together who fulfilled their lives and completed their home: first Blackjack and Jessie, and now Clyde, Clementine, and Ellie Mae. These dogs brought joy, love, chaos, and comfort to Stephen and Stacey each day and have been the luckiest of pups since the dates of their rescues. Stephen was born in Boston, Massachusetts on June 29, 1962 to loving parents, Marlene (Mason) and Jay Lander. He attended Framingham South High School and Pomfret Academy before earning his B.A. at Denison University and his J.D. at Suffolk University Law School. In addition to his devoted wife and parents, Stephen is survived by sisters Michelle Feinberg and her husband Andrew, and Sara Lou Sherman and her husband Jeff, his brother-in-law James Mele and his sister-in-law Teresa Mele and their families, and many nieces and nephews, all of whom dearly loved their awesome, generous and mischievous Uncle Stephen. Stephen cherished his family above all else. Stephen was an established and formidable divorce attorney and trial lawyer in Boston and MetroWest for 33 years, first practicing with the firm of McGrath & Kane and then, in the best professional decision of his career, Stephen and his father establishes the law firm of Lander & Lander, P.C. where they practiced law together from 1995-2019. Both Stephen and his father cherished every single day of their careers during which they practiced law together. This was a real family affair, as sister Michelle also practiced law with them and Steve’s mother managed the books for many years. Steve never missed an opportunity to kiss a family member hello or to end the day with a bear hug to hold them over until the next day. As a trial lawyer, the courtroom was his stage. He loved the theatre involved with presenting- and most often winning- an argument and a case. He represented his clients with vigor and zest as if lives were at stake, which they often were. The number of former clients who became Stephen’s friends speaks to the skill, passion and commitment with which he applied his craft. In addition to clients, lawyers and judges, Stephen picked up lifelong friends everywhere he went. He was the Best Man in 12 weddings; when he required a kidney transplant, first in 2003 and then again in 2014, Stephen had over 30 volunteers clamoring to be tested for the opportunity to help their remarkable friend. Ultimately, Steve’s sisters were given that blessing and for the price of two kidneys, they were able to secure an additional 17 years with their beloved brother. Stephen was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes at the ages of six, and while he was battered by associated complications throughout his life, he never let that define him. Stephen will forever be remembered for his enormous love for his family, his loyalty and generosity of spirit, his sharp legal mind and his varied taste in jokes. Due to COVID-19 the funeral service and Shiva are private. A celebration of Stephen’s life will be held at a later date. Expressions of sympathy may be offered to Northeast Animal Shelter, Inc., 347 Highland Avenue, Salem, MA 01970 or Scott County Humane Society, Inc. PO Box 1535, Gate City, VA 24251 in Stephen’s Memory.


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Stephen N Lander


Jaynie Mcgrath

20 agosto , 2020

Bob wanted me to tell you he didn’t want you to come so soon but now that he has his best “lawyer” with him he can have someone to tell jokes with. He told me he will take care of you now like you took care of Tara and me. Tara and I will always love you and miss you and remember how special you were and all the joy you brought to this world!

Linda Ouellette

5 agosto , 2020

I am incredibly saddened to hear that Steve has passed away. He was a wonderful attorney but an even more wonderful person. The world is a sadder place today. May he Rest In Peace.

Helene Weiss

4 agosto , 2020

Stephen was a Big Brother to my son Sean. He was a bright spot in our lives at a time when it was desparately needed. I think often of his wonderful smile and easy going manner and how grateful I was when he stopped by.
My sympathies to all of his family.

Robin & Eddie Skeen

27 julio , 2020

The Skeen's crossed paths with the Lender's several years ago when Steve & Stacey adopted a little coonhound puppy from our shelter in SW Virginia. I was Ellie Mae's foster mom and was thrilled to send her to such a wonderful home. This adoption was the beginning of a correspondence which has lasted thru the years. Finally, we decided that we just had to meet. A visit was planned Spring of 2018. Unfortunately, this visit was canceled due to a health situation with Eddie. We re-scheduled Spring of 2020 but Covid put an end to that.

Eddie was so disappointed. He and Steve shared the same wicked sense of humor, as well as "Neil" for a middle name. He couldn't wait to get the "City Boy" on the big tractor or up close and personal with a big Charolais bull.

Although, we never met we didn't need to meet Steve to know what kind of person he was. Generous and courageous are the two words which come to mind. He will greatly missed. It is with a heavy heart that we send our condolences to Stacey, the Lander Familyand the Mele family. God Bless you and give you comfort.

Joe Gutierrez

23 julio , 2020

We thank Steve for all the happy times we shared and for the fun and joy he brought to our entire family during so many years. These memories will never be forgotten.

There are no words to describe our sorrow for his loss and will always miss him. Stephen shared his family with ours and included us in many of their events for which we are eternally grateful. We hope that Stacey and the entire Lander family can find much strength, peace and comfort at this difficult time.

Our prayers are with Stephen and with all of you.

Joe and Maritza Gutierrez

deborah dahl

23 julio , 2020

Steven Lander was my old college chum that I considered my little brother. He was one of a kind and embraced all that life had to offer and then some. This world was a better place because he was in it. My heart goes out to Stacey and the furries and the entire Lander family. I pray God comforts your hearts and you hold sweet memories near and dear. Forever remembered. GRACE ABOUNDS.

Dario DiMare

23 julio , 2020

Steve and Stacey are both good people. We worked together and played together. All I can say about Steve is that he had a big heart and made people smile. When he showed up at events you were always proud to call him a friend. What a wonderful person he was. My heart goes out to Stacey and his family. Society lost a good one with Steve's passing. Gob Bless. Dario

Lisa White

23 julio , 2020

When I was faced with an awkward legal issue, my friend Sara Lou recommended I meet with her brother Stephen. I did, and it was a blast! Outside the courtroom he calmed my nerves with silly humor; inside the courtroom he laid the other side low with skill and a final flourish of questions posed to the defendant that led to a confession. He was brilliant, he was an instant friend, and I was proud to know him.

Amy Shaw

22 julio , 2020

My memories of Stephen are linked to my friend Ellen- I remember dancing with him at her Bat Mitzvah party and sitting next to him at her wedding to Bill. I am so sorry to hear of this loss. Marlene and Jay, my heart hurts for your family. Sending love-

Lisa Cukier

22 julio , 2020

I send prayers to the Lander family for comfort. May the joyful memories of dear Stephen carry you through the pain of this heartbreaking loss. Stephen was a great man. You are not alone in your sorrow.

Lisa Cukier


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