I was saddened to hear of Ray's passing.  I knew him when we were kids back in North Arlington, N.J. as we played on the same Little League team and we won the town title.  Ray was a good pitcher and he could really hit.  My memories of him in high school were that he was always a happy guy with a big smile for everyone.  Ray and his late brother Tony were indeed special people and I'm sure are already missed.

We love you, Dad.

Always in our hearts,

Debbie, Laura, Kristi, & Cindi

Dear Donna,

So many emotions or thoughts have been running through my mind since we learned that Ray had made his transition to join his Creator.

1. Seeing Ray always brought a smile to my face and warmed my heart. I think it was the warmth of his spirit, his kind nature....or ultimately his obedience to Christ and the aura of the Spirit of God that imbued him in life.

2. Attending his Rosary last night was an awakening. I knew too little of Ray, that fact became crystal clear as I heard the various testimonials. His humility, perseverance, selflessness, were evident and his dedication appears to have been unwavering.

3. His endowment to those of us fortunate enough to know him is an awareness of the possibilities inherent in a life well-lived. Now I am inspired to adopt as much of his model as possible.

4. I have never seen such an outpouring of love. This is the harvest for him, he cultivate this response for many years and in many lives. What a remarkable man! I regret not taking the opportunity to know him better. Clearly, that is my loss.

These comments cannot help you in this hour of grief but perhaps understanding the esteem that he engendered in another soul will be some form of relief. As surely as I saw the pain and stricken effect his passing has caused he will certainly be alive in the hearts of hundreds while enjoying his reunification in the Body of Christ. He is home! Hallelujah!

As time goes by please honor Pat and I with the opportunity to be of help in any way possible. 

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Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. So sorry. Ray was admired by all who knew him. Ray treated everyone with great respect. Loved working with him.

Ray had a kind soul and a big heart. He will be missed by so many. Our deepest condolences.

I will miss many things about Ray.  I will miss Ray's laugh and his smile that could light up a room.  His kind heart and his gift of giving was second to none.  I always knew that Ray was a pillar of his Church and his community, but it wasn't until I started hearing the testimonials at the vigil and additional similar stories our family shared this week that I realized the extent to which he touched the lives of others in such a powerful way.

Back in Cincinnati I coach my oldest daughter's basketball team within a program called Upward Sports.  Upward is a faith-based program where we combine teaching the skills of basketball with the ministry of spreading the Word of God and the teachings of Jesus.  Our current bible virtue that we are teaching is HONOR and the supporting bible verse is Romans 12:10 which says "... be devoted to one another in love.  Honor one another above yourselves."  No one I've ever known has exemplified this teaching more closely than Ray did.

Ray was the spiritual leader within our family and a consistent source of strength during tough times.  I always admired how he would never get rattled, always composed, leaning into his strong faith in those moments.  As I've prayed for him this week, I can hear his voice speaking to me and it's given me some comfort.  His message is simple:  "Don't worry Mike, I'm with God now.  Remember that he is always in control and working his plan.  If you want to honor me, do these 3 things.  1) Continue to follow the Lord 2) Be a good husband and 3) Be a good Father and everything else will be fine."

May God bless you Ray.  I am forever proud to be your Nephew.

Ray was a beloved spiritual father for me.  I loved serving on the Prayer Group Pastoral Team with him because it meant I got the benefit of his humor and spiritual discernment and insights more than just once a week. Ray loved my chocolate chip cookies. Silly,  really,  but he had the gift of making you feel so special for just sharing something like that that we both enjoyed. He was able to give the "present of his presence," as if you were the only one in the room.  Ray has been a mentor and a dear friend,  and I will miss him very much!  Thank you,  Donna, for generously sharing him with our community for so many years. Please let us help you in any way we can! 

A favorite memory at Praise and Worship.  Ray, doing  what he did best...serve the community and share the Word of God.  Lessons in Carols, December 19, 2018

Ralph was loved and will be missed in NJ.
Love and prayers,
Louise

Doug and I are wishing you comfort in the beautiful memories of Ray who meant to much to you. 
With deepest sympathy and love
Doug and Pat LeNoue 

I will always remember Ray being that constant messenger of our LORDs message of hope, peace and love. Not much slipped past this man and his perspective was focused on HIS will. He is an inspiration.

It was a true honor to have met him. Our community has lost a giant. 


Your dad was one of the most special men I ever met. I can’t remember exactly when I first met him, perhaps at prayer group. He was always so welcoming with his tremendous smile, soft voice and a warm hug. When one of his daughters was having a risky pregnancy I told him I’d pray and he always accredited me to helping her have a healthy baby. I did indeed pray several times each day for her but  it was God. Ray was always so encouraging and kind when I lost my husband earlier this year. I feel your pain so strong, but know that your husband/dad is smiling down on you with that huge smile. I talk to Dennis every day and many times I sense that he answers me. Your dad will do the same. God bless each of you and cherish the memories 

I've had the pleasure of knowing Ray for well over 35 years. I  first met Ray  at the old Job Service Center on Spruce, where we both worked at the time. Each of us had some bumpy moments in our careers, which we were able to commiserate with each other about, over the years. 
Ray was a man of high principles and genuine faith, which was reflected in the way he did his job and lived his life.  He was warm , caring, and friendly, with a great sense of humor. He loved his family, especially his grandchildren, and was very proud of his old Mitsubishi pickup truck.
Ray joined our retirees group, the Geezers, upon his retirement from CDLE about a dozen or so years ago. He couldn't come every month because he  frequently enjoyed babysitting his grandkids, but made it to many of our monthly lunches. It was always a great day when Ray was at our table. He was a good and decent man, and he will be greatly missed.

I have been friends with one of his daughters for thirty years and as a teenager   / young adult I spent quite a lot of time at the Scarpa home.  Ray was a good man, father,  and always made me feel like a part of the family.  My thoughts are with all his family whom he loved dearly and who all loved him.   

Always a pleasure to see you at retiree luncheon but more so at Citadel Catholic Center noon weekday mass.  Truly an inspiration as a fellow worker at CDLE.  You will be missed and as a fellow Veteran rest assured that you shall  never be forgotten. Rest in eternal peace and may the perpetual light now shine on you forever. 

We will so miss your smile, it was always there. We never knew if there were bad times because you only shared the Love, Joy and Blessings of the Lord. When we were worried, you would say "God's got this", when we were scared, you said "It's in God's Hands and there is no better place to be". You brought us closer to Jesus through your actions, words and works. You will live on in our hearts. You surely are a man of and from God and for us, gone too soon. Praise & Worship has lost a man who willingly shared the Good News of Jesus and it just won't be the same without him. Blessings Ray, we know you will watch over us, comfort us and guide us from above...Thank you for everything, especially sharing your Heart and Love.

Ray was so inspirational. He knew my dad Ray Barta really well. He treated me like family. I remember being at prayer and worship services with him and watch him light up with singing and praising. I hope he’s able to come across my parents and when he does, give them a hug. Prayers to his family. 

I met Ray 4 years ago at Praise Gathering at Holy Apostle Catholic Church. He Always greeted me and shared his love for Our Lord by his acts of kindness towards me. Ray exemplified Jesus in all his mannerisms!! I Praise God for allowing me to know Ray!! I considered him a friend in Christ because he always responded to my communications with him. I will dearly miss him. 
Peace my friend 
Judy Cable 

OBITUARIO

Ralph "Ray" Patrick Scarpa

15 enero, 1945 – 27 diciembre, 2018

Swan-Law Funeral Directors

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