David William Borgens, 57, born July 14, 1963 in Oak Forest, IL, passed away September 12, 2020. He attended Cosmopolitan College Prep, graduating in 1981. David was a loving husband, father and family man who loved going to concerts and listening to music, working on cars, and spending time with his family. He worked his entire career as an auto body specialist, working his way up to manager. Dave was married to Mary Koch on October 3, 1992 in Illinois. He is survived by his beloved wife, Mary Borgens; sons, Tyler (Anissa) Borgens and Connor Borgens; parents, Frieda and William Borgens; his siblings, Joseph, Steve and Karl Borgens; his aunts Lucille Trostel and Christine Schmitt as well as his nieces and nephews, Jason Borgens, Kristin (Mike) Mikos, Kyle Borgens, Antoinette Borgens, Danielle Medina, MacKenzie Ruckman, Cole Ruckman, William Koch and Megan Koch. Arrangements entrusted to Mariposa Gardens Funeral Care (480) 830-4422
Dave’s Long Journey Home
As I reflect on Dave’s life here on Earth I am reminded of what a good person he truly was. He was always willing to help others—family, friends, and those he didn’t know that well. He gave of himself selflessly and never asked or expected anything in return. What makes a person good? It is the positive impact someone made on others and in life. Dave was truly a good and decent person!
Dave was always a happy, active person—a go-getter. That is why almost instantly I fell in love with him. We married and had two wonderful boys who have grown into good and decent young men. Dave was proud of Tyler and Connor and all that they have become. They are both hard-working, independent, kind, and loving men. Dave was truly blessed to be able to witness Tyler marry his true love, Anissa. He and I both hoped and prayed they would share a love like ours.
Dave always felt bad he couldn’t play with his sons the way most fathers can. He did toss the ball with them when he could and liked to watch them play soccer, baseball, and football. Dave helped them with their homework and projects. What Dave did offer Tyler and Connor was his patience and time—time talking with them, giving advice, teaching them how to work on cars, teaching them how to do some home projects, offering encouragement, and letting them know how much he loved them.
Dave loved his mother and brothers with fierce intensity. He did anything for his brothers and loved talking to them and getting together with them to reminisce about their youth. I am amazed their mother was ever able to afford any auto insurance after hearing how each of them would sneak out at night and take their mother’s cars and get into an accident totaling her cars. I was always a little nervous our boys would hear these stories and try that in our house. Luckily that didn’t happen. Frieda raised four boys mostly on her own. They respect her and will do anything for her, as sons should, looking out for their mother. Dave enjoyed his weekly conversations with his mom. He would often take notes on the calls to reiterate to me what he and his mom discussed. She always filled him in on what was going on back home and with their family.
Unfortunately for Dave he had health problems that continued to mount over the years. He had to stop working many years ago due to his health. He would say he didn’t feel like a provider because he wasn’t providing monetary support for his family, but Dave offered himself for his family and was every bit a provider as if he was in the workforce. He took care of our family and the house and everything else in between while I worked. He was a better man and provider than many men even in spite of his health issues.
As the years passed, and his health issues mounted and progressed, Dave NEVER complained and NEVER felt sorry for himself. He didn’t like pity and didn’t want to be pitied. I always admired his strength and the courage it took to live in pain and distress for so many years. Yet he kept on going and doing what he could to help out even until the end.
Dave loved me and showed his love to me every day. And I loved him and showed my love to him every day also, and I will continue to do so. We had a great life together. We enjoyed being together. We loved going out together and hanging out with family and friends. As time passed, we weren’t able to go out much, but we would try to go out for a nice dinner to celebrate our anniversary every year. These last couple of years as Dave’s health declined, we would just be together and talk and watch movies. Occasionally we would go to Las Vegas—sometimes with family and sometimes on our own. We got to see Aerosmith while in Vegas in April of 2019 which was our last time there. Dave really enjoyed that concert, and I was thrilled I was able to share that time with him. It is quiet now in our house. There are no more conversations with Dave except the ones in my thoughts. But I know he is with us in spirit and in our hearts. I know as time passes, it will get easier letting go, because I know that Dave is now finally at eternal peace.
So I would like to say, “Live life to the fullest for tomorrow is never guaranteed. Laugh often for laughter is the best medicine. Love unconditionally and selflessly, and you will receive it back tenfold.”
Dave, I know at least one of our relatives was waiting for you when you walked through Heaven’s Gate with a rum and coke having heard that request on your last day here on Earth, and all of our loved ones there were celebrating your long journey home. Our loss is their gain.
As I think of our wedding vows, “I, Mary, take you, Dave, for my lawful husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part,” I know that until death brings us together again, I will love you always and forever for the rest of my life!!!
Your Loving Wife,
Mary
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